DearAbby Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Guys: If you really like a woman, do you have the desire to play it cool and not put your cards on the table? Suppose you went on two dates and things are moving along and you see that you like her A LOT. Would you continue to pursue hard or would you pull it back and play like you are unsure, slightly interested or cool? Thoughts?
Lonely Ronin Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Would you continue to pursue hard or would you pull it back and play like you are unsure, slightly interested or cool? Thoughts? I would continue at the same pace, the game playing thing is dumb.
jobaba Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Depends on the woman. If you play games, then we will too. I dated a woman who by the third date said she liked me a lot and by the fourth date said she was thinking about me. We talked every day by text. All the stupid 'playing it cool' games ... out the window. Not everybody plays games... I assume this situation is referring to yourself. I'd just let it all lay out. You'll find out quick what kind of guy he is.
Art_Critic Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Guys: If you really like a woman, do you have the desire to play it cool and not put your cards on the table? Suppose you went on two dates and things are moving along and you see that you like her A LOT. Would you continue to pursue hard or would you pull it back and play like you are unsure, slightly interested or cool? Thoughts? I would have pursued harder to close the deal... Pulling back after 2 dates to me would mean disinterest..
Author DearAbby Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 I find it hard to put myself out there but I am working on it and trying to be more assertive so I have said things to indicate my interest. But, I will take your advice and be more vocal about liking him. Thanks.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Take it chill and slow at first. You're supposed to build passion not full speed ahead then after 2 months come crashing to a halt
Author DearAbby Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 Take it chill and slow at first. You're supposed to build passion not full speed ahead then after 2 months come crashing to a halt I definitely agree with you. Slow is much better
ScreamingTrees Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 I definitely agree with you. Slow is much better I think either extreme isn't very good, but if you're with a mentally healthy person, s'long as things aren't moving suspiciously slow or quick, they might not be as neurotic and over analytical as any of the people on this board. If you're too slow, maybe the guy'll think you're more interested in someone else that you're seeing.
jobaba Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Just not this fast... Haha. I love those guys.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Haha. I love those guys. Ya one is a classic!
Andy_K Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 As fast or as cool as she seems to want to go. Generally this is quite fast, probably because girls who are a bit hesitant in the first few weeks generally aren't my type anyway.
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