Mister_pushover Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 (edited) and it has completely messed me up. Was with her for 2 years, she cheated on me & got with the other guy. They split & we became friends, I wanted her back but she didn't, she met this new guy & I basically I got ignored. We met up once or twice & told me she is moving away & buying a house in the same town as her new bf. I am assuming she is moving in with him. I am seeing her later to say bye but the thought of her leaving & moving in with him has cut me up. She has only been with him 4 months. I want to wish her well but know I will break down talking to her. What do I do? Edited December 15, 2011 by Mister_pushover
smudge21 Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Sorry to hear this and I feel your pain - similar for me, but went as far as getting married. The only thing you can do is say goodbye and mean it. It's over and the hardest part for you will be to accept that. You will hurt for a long time so be ready, keep yourself busy as best you can. It's the quiet times that hurt the most. Try to stay no contact as well - ignorance truly is bliss. The less you know about her now, the better. Trust me - the last thing you need to see are wedding pictures! It will be tough, but you will get through it. It just takes time.
BoredAgain Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 This is exactly why No Contact is such a good idea after a breakup. You tried to be friendly with her in hopes of reconciliation, but you ended up just getting hurt all over again when she started seeing somebody new... and now you are hurt a third time because you found out they are (probably) living together. Imagine if you'd spent all this time working on yourself and healing from the relationship - would this news have hurt as much? Probably not. So don't waste anymore time... cut communications and move forward with your life.
mike588 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 and it has completely messed me up. Was with her for 2 years, she cheated on me & got with the other guy. They split & we became friends, I wanted her back but she didn't, she met this new guy & I basically I got ignored. We met up once or twice & told me she is moving away & buying a house in the same town as her new bf. I am assuming she is moving in with him. I am seeing her later to say bye but the thought of her leaving & moving in with him has cut me up. She has only been with him 4 months. I want to wish her well but know I will break down talking to her. What do I do? Don't meet or talk with her...if you feel you must say something just send her an email and keep you diginaty by NOT acting/coming across as pathetic..tell her you love her and wish her the best..she will appreciate and respect you for that. Hey it's a good thing that's she's moving away... you won't have to run into her.If she ever has a change of heart there is no reason she can't move back?? She's already moving in with the new guy after 4 months...Hummmm wonder what will happen when the honeymoon period ends?
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