geegirl Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Dumpers can miss all the good parts about the R just as how the dumpee misses it. And while it is rather less emotional but fun and exciting for them to flirt, there really are no repercussions in the sense of obsessing, analyzing and hoping, but it's a little bit harder for the dumpee because there is hope and every form of contact is magnified and expected as some sign of rekindling. What would you tell a friend if this was happening to him/her? You'd probably tell them that if someone wants you, they will show you. They won't give you little bits and pieces. And if you can't decipher the bits and pieces, speak up. You will have your answer. If he dumped you 4 months ago, and he's now having an epiphany of what you truly meant to him, he would be giving you more than just casual flirty lines. He would be serious in his conversations. And again, speak up and find your place. You can't if you give him all the power.
geegirl Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 yeah but who broke up with whom? I was the dumpee.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Dumpers can miss all the good parts about the R just as how the dumpee misses it. And while it is rather less emotional but fun and exciting for them to flirt, there really are no repercussions in the sense of obsessing, analyzing and hoping, but it's a little bit harder for the dumpee because there is hope and every form of contact is magnified and expected as some sign of rekindling. What would you tell a friend if this was happening to him/her? You'd probably tell them that if someone wants you, they will show you. They won't give you little bits and pieces. And if you can't decipher the bits and pieces, speak up. You will have your answer. If he dumped you 4 months ago, and he's now having an epiphany of what you truly meant to him, he would be giving you more than just casual flirty lines. He would be serious in his conversations. And again, speak up and find your place. You can't if you give him all the power. i agree but if thats the case, its not always easy telling someone that youve made a mistake.
geegirl Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 i agree but if thats the case, its not always easy telling someone that youve made a mistake. Then the power lies with the OP to set her boundaries and get the answers she needs, if he is finding it hard to make his way through. Till then, she hangs on a string waiting for an outcome. If she opens the door, he will walk through the door admitting a mistake and wanting to re-establish. If she opens the door, and it's not what he was intending, she will have her answer.
Author lana_sa Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 Then the power lies with the OP to set her boundaries and get the answers she needs, if he is finding it hard to make his way through. Till then, she hangs on a string waiting for an outcome. If she opens the door, he will walk through the door admitting a mistake and wanting to re-establish. If she opens the door, and it's not what he was intending, she will have her answer. Well that is a possibility but there is always a chance you can scare him off.As i said,even i think a relationship right now is not possible because of the distance and we wont be able to meet yet.But i want to have the door open,and keep in touch
geegirl Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Well that is a possibility but there is always a chance you can scare him off.As i said,even i think a relationship right now is not possible because of the distance and we wont be able to meet yet.But i want to have the door open,and keep in touch If that is the case, M2155 said it best.
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