thomasb Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Now if that isn't the pot calling the kettle black! I think I have become a lot gentler in my assesment of posters since I have been on this board. Remember that previous to this the only standard to go by for me was my own OW. And she was a horror for myself and my family in the end. And yes I know I brought that on myself by not staying faithful. Not an excuse or a justification. Just the truth. Some of us men have learned to 'man up!'
Fabian Montenegro Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I always led with my heart and my vagina....Never with my head..... I could see you leading with your vagina. What a sight to behold that would be.
Lostinlife4now Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I could see you leading with your vagina. What a sight to behold that would be. Fabian? Are you mocking me?
Tenacity Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Sometimes an affair isn't just an affair. After a lot of time, a lot of love, and yes, a lot of heartache, my MM is divorced, and we are looking for a house together. Things are wonderful. If your gut tells you it's right....follow your heart!! (and don't listen to the negative Nancys here) Best wishes ladies!! I disagree. An affair is just that, no matter what the outcome... an affair. And wrong. My 'gut' told me it was right for literally years... but know what? It wasn't right. I'm glad for you if what you say is true. I hope things continue to be wonderful forever, but that does not seem to be the reality. I do think that real life is just now starting for you though. We shall see if in five years you still say that things are wonderful. I would bet my 401k that it won't be. Just on the odds. I learned a lot being an OW over the last many years. First and foremost, I'm glad I didn't end up with this man. It was the only thing that I wanted, but it would have been the biggest mistake of my life.
TinaniT Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 You sound happy. If you do not mind sharing. How exactly did you two relate with one another throughout the relationship? Thanks:) MyApology - so I have seen a lot of questions like this from you... May I say, that what so many worry about is that it seems very similar in things that are said and done between those who leave and those who don't, from what I have read. My husband left his ex. He did it with no pushing on my part, or on his wife's part. It wasn't easy for him, but he was and is a man of action. However, the things he said weren't different from what I've read from those who's MM never left, who threw them under the bus on D-day, or left and then returned to the marriage. That is why so many have concern for the OW hoping for something. Also, keep in mind that even in the best situation, it's not all roses. For me, there was a lot of guilt about the ex (despite some peculiar circumstances with her and their children after he left, even though he told me he was leaving with or without me in the picture as much as he wanted me there. It hasn't been easy recovering from that, especially after meeting his incredible children who deserve all the happiness life has to offer. I have mostly, but it took a lot of his support, and some support -- and my husband is the most understanding, considerate, giving man you could imagine. To the OP, I don't know your situation but I wish happiness to you and all involved!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 if your (affair) is meant to be.... Absolutely classic !!!
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