How can I erase my memory?

[Glove_slap]

Can hypnotists erase someone and all memories attached to them from your mind?

 

I'm tired of being lonely and miserable while my ex girlfriend of three years is having the time of her life with her boyfriend who consequently is a drug dealer. She's been living the high life for over a year now.

 

To be honest I don't care any more but I just want to stop feeling so pathetic, I want to stop thinking what if I sold drugs, what if I had hundreds of thousands of dollars, what if I had this and had that.

 

I just want to forget it all.

[davesterr]

roofies usually work on the girls i date lol.

but to be honest , no there's not a drug that can erase a specific memory in your brain that is legal and tested.

 

best thing you can do is to stop thinking , and to start living.

[SkyEmtRN]

Sorry my dude....Its nearly impossible to completely erase long term memory. Your going to remember it 30 years from now. Its a matter how many times you remember it and recall of the events. And what stimulates the memory. So if you don't want to remember it as much, remove everything and anything that would cause the memory to pop up. The less you recall the less it pops up. But it will still pop up no matter what.

 

The only way you can really elimnate the memory is by sleeping or being unconcious. So, try taking sleeping pills or ask someone to hit you in the back of the head with a baseball bat, the temple area right above the corner of your eye or the point where your jaw connects to the face. Those are all good knock out shots...

[SkyEmtRN]

roofies usually work on the girls i date lol.

 

LMFAO!!!! Thats wrong on so many levels but is funny as hell

[sunflower11]

Why do you want to erase the memories? The break up is supposed to teach you SOMETHING!! either about her and the type of relationships you don't want to be in ..or about yourself. You are only focused on the bad but maybe you should write down a list of all the good things that may have come out of this or things you never liked about your ex. For me, I'm starting to realize how dependent I was on him and issues I have going way back to my first boyfriend back when I was 18. There is a lesson in everything but if you have a negative outlook you will never understand what it is you are supposed to learn and move on with your life.

[mike588]

I imagine alot of us felt that way at one time or another but there is nothing you can really do other than remove all the "triggers" that remind you of her.

 

You have heard it many,, many times that time heals all wounds and it really does but you have to stop dwelling on it and try to move on,, find something that makes you happy and do it.

 

I wish there was a pill you could take and erase some parts of your memory but there isn't......They can land a man on the moon but can't do that,lol but then again if you didn't go thru these tough challenging times in your life you would never learn anything or grow emotionally.

 

I've been thru many heartbreaks and yes it shatters you but you learn from it and move on and I PROMISE you that eventually you WILL get thru this,,,it just takes TIME and effort from you!

 

In time you will look back on this and wonder what the hell was I so upset about and may even be alittle embarrased to admit it.

 

Hang in there.... It really...really does get better.

 

If often wish that I could lose my mind sometimes... then maybe I'd be free of memories you left behind...... George Jones.

[SkyEmtRN]

So I did some little research and there is a pill that can cause memory loss as a side effect...not specifically designed to cause memory loss

 

Your best bet is

 

Effexor XR which is an antidepressant...44% chance of memory loss

Xanax which is an antidepressan...33% chance of memory loss

 

But as with usual AD drugs...they increase suicidal thoughts....so do you really want to take the risk?

[davesterr]

all that stuff comes with serious side effects and who knows whether they will even work?

also lets say you do forget.

then you will also forget what you will have learned.

next thing you know it , you fall in love and bam , same thing happens.

then what?

 

just take it like a man and get over this man.

what doesn't kills us makes us stronger.

and although exceptions on that line exist , it is mostly true.

there's no easy way to it but you have to do it on your own.

and if u still struggle time to time , well thats why were here.

[orbiting]

You don't want to erase your memory. You think you want to, but you don't. You're a normal, good person with feeling and reason and you know that regardless of how much pain you're in right now, there is a reason for it. Regardless of how long and miserable every day feels and how every thought of her is like slap in the face, you know that you just need to feel it just a little bit longer before you just stop caring.

So, do that.

Go on with your life, try to focus on yourself and just .. feel it. That seems like a really messed up thing to say, but think about it. Feel it. You might feel it for another year, for another six months or for another week.. but one of these days, you are going to snap out of it.

No "magical pill" or memory loss will be as valuable to you (and your life) as that one moment when you - all by yourself - realise that you deserve someone who will be much better towards you, and that she is not worth another moment of your time.

[PelicanPete]

It's only considered the past if you're moving away from it. Otherwise, it will always be the present. You can't move on from something without change, just like you can't go for a walk by sitting in your chair.

[Space Ritual]

Can hypnotists erase someone and all memories attached to them from your mind?

 

I'm tired of being lonely and miserable while my ex girlfriend of three years is having the time of her life with her boyfriend who consequently is a drug dealer. She's been living the high life for over a year now.

 

To be honest I don't care any more but I just want to stop feeling so pathetic, I want to stop thinking what if I sold drugs, what if I had hundreds of thousands of dollars, what if I had this and had that.

 

I just want to forget it all.

 

 

I'd recommend Strawberry Mescalin and about 1000 micrograms of some Double Eagle. You'll forget all about it. You may snap out of it 1500 miles away from home with no money in your wallet, a stolen cash register in your car trunk and a strange but exotic looking woman riding shotgun you didn't remember meeting, but you'll forget about your troubles for awhile...it happened to me in 1988!

[RecordProducer]

Why are you so worried? Her BF will end up incarcerated, maybe killed...she may even get killed together with him in some gang battle or police raid. I don't see what high life he can offer to anyone. And what makes you think she gets something from him?

 

No, don't go sell drugs. You be the higher person and leave the prison bed for her BF!

 

Effexor XR which is an antidepressant...44% chance of memory loss

Xanax which is an antidepressan...33% chance of memory loss

OP was talking about erasing memories from his head. Not his memory-the ability to memorize things. The anti-depressants affect one's short-term memory and cause people to forget where they put their keys or what thet were saying. Some have really bad side effects from the meds.

[motive2002]

OP I wish this was possible. Been thinking about this a lot lately. Are you seeing a hypnotist for something else?

 

Here's an article about suppressing memories, and how through image scanning has been proven to take place in your frontal cortex or some such.

 

https://scholarsbank.uoregon.edu/xmlui/handle/1794/2846

 

The article above suggests that we can willfully forget things through a practice of choosing not to think of those memories, from what I can grasp of it. First the image of the memory, the emotion tied to it, and then the memory itself.

 

Here's another article about a phenomenon known as "post hypnotic amnesia".

 

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=hypnosis-memory-brain

 

Again they are looking at scans to see what's happening in the brain, and by that perhaps proving that such a phenomenon could exist from a scientific point of view.

 

I'm still googling around looking for stuff myself. While research into these areas does seem promising, trying to forget a whole relationship worth of memories would indeed be a daunting task. I would figure by the time you parse and try to eliminate each memory, they wouldn't sting as bad at that point like they do now.

 

However if such techniques were viable, I would personally pick out a batch of memories and bury them deep beyond recall one by one if I had to. There are certain things I would definitely like to forget about a specific person... in hopes that the lack of key memories would trigger a sort of "hazy recall" about everything else.

 

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But, as others have suggested, time will make those memories have less impact on you overall. I can remember a lot of stuff concerning a break-up of 3 years ago, that back then was painful to the point of incapacitating.

Now those same memories barely stir up anything in me.

 

About the only thing my recent break-up has taught me, is that I'm not compatible with that person, and to watch out for personality types like hers (narcissistic, BPD who knows what else).

 

You will get to a point later in life when the thoughts or memories of this person will no longer sting, and you'll be thinking you dodged a huge bullet.. but I understand. I know you hurt. I'm right there with ya.

 

I'll give you something to try in my next post.

[motive2002]

HYPNOSIS:

 

Alright, so a friend of mine and I have been experimenting with hypnosis. He's not licensed or anything, but has read a great deal on the subject, and is also proficient at meditation.

 

I have found that throughout my day, thoughts of the ex were crawling through my brain like a pack of rabid spiders. Each one having a little bite at my ego, self-worth and general well being.. making me absurdly depressed

Part of my hypnosis experiment mentioned earlier involved a "trigger". Once I was brought into a state of deep relaxation, through muscle relaxing, awareness of breathing, visualization etc. I was given a "trigger" suggestion. Kind of like the stage hypnosis performed where if someone rang a bell you'd cluck like a chicken! Ok nothing that silly.. Something productive.

 

It was suggested to me that at any time, if I made a certain overt act (this one being the act of squeezing my left index finger) and closed my eyes that I would be brought back into this deep state of relaxation.

 

Squeeze, close my eyes.. take a deep breath.. and there I am.

 

By now you're probably wondering what this has to do with forgetting stuff, and the spiders in my head and so on. Well as it happens I stumbled upon this by accident!

During my work day the spiders would come... as they always do when I'm at a mundane task with nothing else to distract me. It was then that I decided to try to forget everything.. everything about her, that is.

Being at my wits end, I figured it couldn't hurt to try something different. So I reached for my trigger, got into a state of relaxation for a second and suggested to myself:

 

"You don't seem to remember her. What she looks like. The times you spent together. The things she said... It's all buried away somewhere you can't find it... and when a memory does pop up, it simply evaporates.. like a dream that you can't remember upon waking... it's like it never even happened"

 

Now of course I still remember stuff, but the impact that suggestion had on my obsessive thoughts (i.e. spiders) was like a big dousing of pesticide!

The suggestion that I had simply forgotten all of those things made the thoughts come less, and when they did come, they didn't have as strong a hold as they once did.

 

VISUALIZATION:

 

When the thoughts (spiders) came to haunt me, I visualized a hard disk light on a computer flickering away.. and the little animation of files leaving the "Recycle Bin" and disappearing in a little puff! Next I imagined a hard drive defrag... where the fragmented space in my brain was deleting old memories.. and other memories from other past events were shifted around to fill the unused space.

 

In short I pictured my brain re-arranging itself.

 

If you try hypnosis, either by "self hypnosis" or with a licensed practitioner, I would definitely suggest some type of "trigger". Something you can do anytime, anywhere to bring you to an altered state.

Things like anxiety, worry, depression... and an opposite feeling of deep relaxation simply cannot co-exist in the same space in your brain. For that benefit alone it's worth giving it a shot. If you can put a trigger on a more specific task, then all the better.

 

If this all sounds too hokey for you, then just remember this:

Deep, conscious breathing is a form of relaxation. It's totally free and you can do it anywhere. Take in a deep breath and let it out. Maybe close your eyes for a second. Try to imagine yourself focusing on one point, like the tip of your nose... but keep breathing... manually.. in and out... eyes closed. Just reading that should make you feel more relaxed, and when the thoughts, memories anxiety, whatever comes, that's where you want to be... is relaxed..

 

Time does heal all wounds, and it's cliche. But if you want something to try to ease your pain now, it wouldn't hurt to try hypnosis. It's better than drinking away the pain, or other self destructive alternatives. Deep relaxation is something healthy you can do for yourself. If you can reap other benefits through suggestion and triggers, then why not take advantage of it? Got nothing to lose.