ditzchic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Of course not; how stupid do you think I am? That would completely obliterate any chances I have with the vast, vast majority of girls on OKC. I'm not openly saying I want casual sex, but I'm not openly saying I want a relationship either. All I do in my profile is describe myself. There's no harm in being honest about it. Really. Obviously don't put it in your first message but at some point you should tell her before you meet. I'm not necessarily looking for casual sex and I've never met someone online for casual sex but I've had plenty of guys be upfront about that's what they were looking for and I appreciated their honesty. If a guy were hot enough and we were not relationship material for each other I actually probably would consider it. Don't waste your time and money for girls that aren't on the same page as you. No one is going to hate you for being honest.
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 You even have to be worthy of casual sex. How are you going to prove that you are? By explaining to her that I have an extremely busy schedule (which I really do) and that she shouldn't have bar herself from other guys if the opportunity arises, but that if we're physically attracted to each other, that we should just go for it. What else can I say?
mammamia1 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 if u want hook ups, u should look in the bar. girls on OKC are mostly looking for friends/relationships source: me (a young girl who was on OKC)
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 if u want hook ups, u should look in the bar. girls on OKC are mostly looking for friends/relationships source: me (a young girl who was on OKC) Ummm, I was told to try online because bars weren't working; too many sloppy drunks, mean, belligerent girls and competition from other guys. How does a guy shine in a bar?
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 How this? I came up with idea to diffuse any fear about low/no match scores. I put this statement in the first paragraph of my profile? "I believe the most exciting thing about a relationship is not finding out what we have in common, but exploring new things by discovering eachother's differences. If you think this does that then I think you're misunderstanding how the matching system on OKC works. For example, if there's a question about your favourite dessert and you put "cheesecake" it doesn't match you with people who like cheesecake. It matches you with people who want their partner to like cheesecake. That's why the questions ask you, separately from your own answer, to say what answers you would want your ideal partner to give. You can have a high match score even if you have strong differences with someone. Aside from that, if you truly believe that exploring your differences with someone is an exciting part of a relationship (which it can be) then do put that in! (Although I think from your other posts that you're really just looking for casual sex, so I'm not sure that over emphases on 'relationships' is really going to help.)
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 My primary criteria at the moment is physical attractiveness, and my immediate goal is casual sex. Have you tried setting what you're looking for on OKC to "casual sex"?
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Have you tried setting what you're looking for on OKC to "casual sex"? Yes, and it only pulls up 3 girls within 25 miles of me. I already messaged them in the summer and I got no response.
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 I just found proof that the rating system is flawed. I searched myself on OKC. I only had a 90% Match... WITH MYSELF.
ditzchic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I just found proof that the rating system is flawed. I searched myself on OKC. I only had a 90% Match... WITH MYSELF. Maybe that's because you aren't looking for someone just like yourself..... Their matching logic goes by what you are looking for and what that person is looking for in return. I'm sure there are some differences between who you are and who you think your perfect woman would be. Personally, I'm a 99% match for myself on OKC. Which makes sense because I am essentially looking for me with a penis. lol.
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I just found proof that the rating system is flawed. I searched myself on OKC. I only had a 90% Match... WITH MYSELF. Then you still don't understand the matching system. I'm guessing you have at least one question in which the answer you put for yourself is different from the answer you want your ideal partner to have. For example, if you answered a question about your favourite colour and said it was Red but that you wanted your ideal partner to have Blue as her favourite colour then you're suddenly not an ideal match for yourself because your favourite colour isn't Blue.
lululucy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I'm an 87% match with myself. OKC is not going to work to get you laid if it hasn't already. Go to the bar. Buy a girl a drink then hit on her friend or whatever stupid games guys play there, I guarantee you'll get better chances at getting laid than online. Or try PoF, I know a lot of guy friends who found f-buddies on that site.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 However, what do you all think about this strategy? Setting up fake profiles, sending messages from those fake profiles to my real profile and ignoring those messages on my real profile, so as to get "Replies Very Selectively" to appear on my profile. Will that improve my attractiveness to potential girls by creating the illusion that I'm getting messaged so much as to turn many down? Dude. No. Stuff like this is NOT going to garner any "casual sex" for you. Being on OKC pretending you are looking for a girlfriend is not going to garner any casual sex for you. Bottom line is, you are NOT going to trick or manipulate a girl into having casual sex with you, or at least not more than one in about 1,000. Girls respond to chemistry (or maybe chemicals, as in alcohol - and NO, I am NOT suggesting you try to get a girl incapacitated so she'll boink you) when deciding to go have sex with a stranger. Or, money, in professional arrangements. I'd like to point out to you, also, that you are way out of line in thinking that girls are somehow supposed to feel obliged to respond to your online advances when you are just trying to trick them. Think of it as fishing. Only a few of your intended prey are going to actually take your proffered bait. The majority of them will (smartly) just swim on by. But a dating site is really not the place for you. You've posted in the past about your PUA moves. I can only advise you to spend every night in the bars and try to work the moves on as many women as you possibly can. Sooner or later, one of them will feel like having sex with you, probably.
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