Maaan... I keep torturing myself. Why did i go see her?

[ZimboGon]

My ex left me for another guy a month ago. I graduated, and she's still in highschool.

 

Two weeks ago i stopped by the school to give a friend some things, and i ran into her and him hand in hand smiling at each other.

 

So today, my friends suggest stopping by the school to visit. I know were they sit, and i had the strongest urge to walk by casually (I'm more fit, growing my hair out, got a goatee. Basically, wanted to spark something in her... maybe) and my friends told me no. They started to push me away from the area, but the second they were distracted, what did i do?

 

I walked by them both. I know the relationship won't last long, she had GIGS and i was a great boyfriend. Its just, so hard to let go and give up. After seeing them together again, i feel like i'm back on day one. Its been about 2 weeks of NC so far.

 

She's spread rumors, said i was a bad boyfriend and everything to justify the break-up and make her feel like the victim. I feel like she is just throwing everything between us away.

Edited December 14, 2011 by ZimboGon

[Chi townD]

Dude, you're young and she's young. She's still in high school and you're not. Start looking forward to your future and stop playing high school games!

 

Are you going to College? Thinking about College? What's you're game plan?

[ZimboGon]

Dude, you're young and she's young. She's still in high school and you're not. Start looking forward to your future and stop playing high school games!

 

Are you going to College? Thinking about College? What's you're game plan?

 

I'm in college, but in the same town. We had a great relationship, and i stayed in town so we could be together...

[Chi townD]

SO......is that the college you actually wanted to go to or did you go there because it was close to her. If that's the case, I would strongly recommend that you think about transferring to the University that you really were thinking about attending before you met her for the Spring Semester if you can get accepted.

 

It's time to move on with your life and stop playing high school games. Plus, college girls don't play games nearly enough as high school girls do. I would suggest a strong NC and move on.

[davesterr]

When i read you saw them smiling holding hands , damn man that even hurt me.

And i don't even know you two.

Definitely listen to chi townd.

He's giving you good advice man.

 

Highschool girls usually don't know what they want because they are so young.

Make college your new main priority and switch to the one you want most.

College is a guaranteed future bro.

Waiting on a highschool girl that doesn't know what she wants isn't.

[ZimboGon]

When i read you saw them smiling holding hands , damn man that even hurt me.

And i don't even know you two.

Definitely listen to chi townd.

He's giving you good advice man.

 

Highschool girls usually don't know what they want because they are so young.

Make college your new main priority and switch to the one you want most.

College is a guaranteed future bro.

Waiting on a highschool girl that doesn't know what she wants isn't.

 

Mmm... But what if she is the one worth waiting for?

[davesterr]

You gotta set priorities man.

Is this the girl you wanna marry and spend the rest of your life with?

Is this the girl you want to ruin your future for even though she might not even come back?

Also even if she came back , do you think she would stay for the next 50 years or would she leave you again?

She's already making up rumors about how you were a bad boyfriend by lieing.

Doesn't seem like great qualities to me.

 

Anyways only you know what you want to do.

But the signs i see so far is that she isn't coming back.

And if she did she would most likely leave again like most teenagers do.

So if she isn't the girl you are going to marry and have kids with , but simply is a girl you will date for a while.

Then why waste your entire future for a temporary feeling?

And that is if she comes back.

It would suck even more giving up your life and not even getting her back.

Not only would you have to deal with the pain of losing her permanently whilst waiting all along , but you would also have to deal with your future being not as good as it could've been.

 

We only live once , and sometimes we gotta make hard decissions that might include sacrifices.

But it's up to you to decide what is really worth it.

[Chi townD]

Mmm... But what if she is the one worth waiting for?

 

But, what if she isn't and you let the one you're truely meant to be with past you by?

 

There's a girl out there that is for you. She has all the qualities that you didn't even know you were looking for in a girl and she's going to love you with whatever faults you have...that means unconditionally!!! She's out there right now, and she's waiting for you to find her.

 

I truely believe in this.

[standtall]

Mmm... But what if she is the one worth waiting for?

 

Dude, she aint the one. She has already lied about you and thrown you under the bus. "The One" would not show this lack of character.

 

Besides, the OP's here have mentioned your age..they are 100% right. This isn't 1870 anymore where you married when your 17. The pain will dissappear in time..guaranteed!