thr1986 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Some of you may have already read my posts about this girl. Were both in mid 20s. Basically I met her, we hung out with friends, then ended up hanging out alone, went well and she seemed to like me. After seeing her about 4 times, we went out on a Friday(last Friday) she ended up staying over and we slept together(sex) which probably complicated things. The next night (this past Saturday) I took her to my company Xmas party, she then came over and we watched a movie and ended up just falling asleep after. Sunday morning she kinda cuttled on me, did the girl thing..but then when I took her home and she seemed a bit less touchy than our previous interactions. Then she said "see ya around" as she got out of the car. Mixed signals and really confusing for me. I think what happened is that I started to really like her, in fact inecen thought about dating her, and I was overly complementing Her on Saturday night and too available to her overall. I texted her just something funny on Monday and she was really short with me. Enough for me to notice she was not texting as she usually does with me. Since then I have not contacted her. However I don't want her to think I'm ignoring her because I slept with her on friday and now I'm done, because that's not the case. But I also don't want to be too available and act like I'm thinking about her all the time (in Case that is what I did wrong and why she was weird). Should I just wait to hear from her or should I contact her?
xpaperxcutx Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 You basically backpedaled when she was signalling you to move forward. What will no contact get you except the very thing you didn't want- you slept with her and now you don't want anything to do with her. Pick up the phone, apologize for not contacting her and then askher out.
dispatch3d Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Just ask her out. If she seems pissed apologize so that she gets over it. You don't owe her an apology or anything, but it's better to just give one so you can move on.
Author thr1986 Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 I texted her Monday. It's only been 1 day of no contact. I'm pretty sure I came on a little too strong with her so figured I'd give her some space. How easy is it for you girls to lose interest when guys are very available. I really don't want to sound like a deutch, but Im a really attractive guy and constantly being told that by people, but I'm also really nice and I genuinely care about girls feelings. I think if you were to ask someone who knows me they would say I'm very attractive and very nice and most definitely not overly Hitting on girls. Girls I think like being my friend for this reason. Am I doing something wrong? Because I want to Be nice as I always am, but I also want girls to be attract to me
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