Peter_G Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Sent a girl which is an old co-worker/friend flowers @ work from an online store but with no name to keep it mysterious until I saw her in person(I know kind of weird). So 3 days later I receive a txt from her asking how I was etc then she messages back asking if I know anything about her receiving any flowers @ work but as I didn't want lie or creep her out I said I sent them as an early Christmas gift then she messaged back say thanks you should of But I really wanted the flowers meaning to show that I like her more than a friend as we had always had a thing but never really spoke about it apart from say your my no1 and favorite. Is there anything I can do to fix this?
smudge21 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I reckon the flowers worked well, you should be happy. She knew they were from you and when questioned, you played it down a bit. So those seeds have been planted and she knows you like her more than just friends. The thing now though is to continue the good work - ask her out for a drink before Xmas, just a coffee or something simple (not alcoholic). Keep it light and friendly, if she asks you why you sent the flowers, be honest and say you like her more than a friend. It's really hard to say how this will turn out as only you and her know that. Just be yourself, be honest and be true to yourself. Try not to over think things too much either. Good luck.
Sith Apprentice Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Sending flowers to a coworker you're not dating is a text book AFC move that never works. This move will almost assuredly get you written off as a nice guy. You're not in middle school so there is no reason to be sending anonymous notes either. Be a man, test her interest by asking her out for drinks. Flowers are a reward for women you're already sleeping with and crazy about.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 There are more negative factors to gifting flowers than you think One of my best friends who is allergic to them always found the gesture to be cheesy and lacking thought. They're also not easy to pick out as each flower tend to be symbolised differently. Worse yet as much as it is nice to receive them, there's nothing worse than watching the petals wilt. If you have to let a girlknow you like her, nothing can beat just asking them out face to face. I would advise you save gifts until after the 2and 3rd date.?
KathyM Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Most women love to receive flowers, but you need to start the dating process first. Ask her out on a date--then send the flowers after the date. But don't overdo the gifts. I know a guy who was dating my sister, and he went so overboard with the flowers and gifts, that it had a negative effect. She lost respect for him because he was obviously trying too hard. There's a line between showing romance and trying to buy affection or interest. Start the dating process first--then send the flowers if the date went well and there's an obvious romantic interest on her part. If flowers or gifts are given when there is no romantic spark, it will just come off as weird or as pressure.
dasein Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Agree with other posters, but don't beat yourself up OP. It was a kindly gesture, and speaks well of you to do such in a world where many of us, self included, are overly cynical. Ask her out for a date and don't focus on one woman, date several and keep your bucket of prospects full. Good luck.
carhill Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Is there anything I can do to fix this? Let it go. Should you buck LS conventional wisdom and there be a next time with anyone and you want to keep things mysterious, can the text conversations and invite her to call you or you call her. Then play with it on the phone. I won't write you a script but can have a lot of fun with this in person or on the phone. The key is not to be invested in the result. You lied about the flowers being an early 'Christmas gift'. You know exactly what they are. Don't do that again and don't do it via text. Texting isn't for developing personal romantic and intimate relations. Pressing flesh does that. Press more flesh.
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