ThinkPink218 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 This article helped me greatly!! Help me look at things from a completely different perspective. Hope it helps you all too! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-they-care-about-me-didnt-i-mean-something-to-them/
radiodarcy Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 this is a great article and a great site! thank you for sharing!
Bito Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I came to a realization from this article. when I read it I felt anger and sadnes I Think its because i dont want her to care. I want to hate her because she deserves it. if I don't have hate then ill have only sadness. Am I the only one who feels this way?
davesterr Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 i think in alot of cases our ex's care but definitely not as much as we do. they are fine living their lives while we stay torn for months or years.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 I came to a realization from this article. when I read it I felt anger and sadnes I Think its because i dont want her to care. I want to hate her because she deserves it. if I don't have hate then ill have only sadness. Am I the only one who feels this way? You're hurting Bito. We all are to some extent. Before reading this article I felt angry as well. Angry because I felt like he didn't care, but after reading I realized that he did care. He showed that numerous times through his actions, but maybe we just weren't meant to be. I realized that after the same back and forth drama, one of us had to get off the roller coaster and he did. To me it made me feel like he didn't care and that anger controlled me. Anger is normal, it's a natural part of the healing process. Best thing to do is feel the emotions and know that they will pass. When you accept things for what they are, let it go and look for the positivity in the situation, you'll be able to forgive and move on. I'm not completely at that stage but I'm slowly getting there and this article has helped. Put a completely different perspective in my mind, one that I needed. I hope that you can reach that place as well!
Author ThinkPink218 Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 i think in alot of cases our ex's care but definitely not as much as we do. they are fine living their lives while we stay torn for months or years. That's very true. But I think for a lot of us we feel as if they don't care at all because they don't reach out or they have moved on, but if they showed us they cared while we were together we shouldn't invalidate those feelings. I think understanding that helps make moving on a little bit easier.
Lowib Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 yawn....who really cares what your EX thinks anyways? I sure don't. Let them suffer IMHO.
marqueemoon4 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Article was good up until this: While we often don’t know what we’ve got till it’s gone, even when we do realise how great/valuable/lovable a person is and what a huge mistake we may have made, in having some level of connection to ourselves, we may also realise that not only are we not capable of being and doing what that person wants from us, but that they may also be too good for us. Really? Who is to judge that? I know thats wasn't the case in my marriage.
radiodarcy Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Article was good up until this: Really? Who is to judge that? I know thats wasn't the case in my marriage. i think she meant that in the context of the dumpee being too good for the dumper? if that's what you mean...
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