DannyT27 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 So it's been 27 days NC and still not heard from her I've recently seen some pics on her fb and she looks very happy and you can tell on the pics that they went out for a meal for just 2 and she had a rose aswel... Gutted isn't even the word to explain how I feel... Am I ever going to feel any better ? I'm very jelous I just can't believe I havnt heard from her at all I really feel like texting her ? I feel like a fool for not showing her enough affection. Looks as tho Ive well and truely been replaced and I can't do anything abt it, my life is sh*t at the minute!
Sustugriel Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I'm so sorry dude... Trust me, I know EXACTLY how I feel and you've been an avid poster on my thread. I pose a question though, what good would it do to text her? I have a feeling it would only make you feel worse if she didn't respond...or if she responded negatively, which are both more likely than something positive. It's a horrible feeling knowing the person is actually happy without you and the kind of pain that you sink to when you see that. I would recommend staying away from her FB. I know you probably won't remove her or stay away permanently, but the reminders will destroy you man.
Author DannyT27 Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 Hi sustugriel and thanks for the reply, I blocked her on fb instantly after the break up but saw those pics through a friends profile. Yea that's definetly something I dnt understand.. How she can go from a 5 yr relationship straight into another one ? I knw this sounds horrible but I want her new relationship to fail and her to be full of regret. But it's never gonna happen, I'm just hittin the gym everyday. Just dnt knw what to do... Afew weeks ago she was like 'i love u' etc.. All just abit random for my liking and I truely do love this girl
Sustugriel Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 How she can go from a 5 yr relationship straight into another one? Just dnt knw what to do... Afew weeks ago she was like 'i love u' etc.. All just abit random for my liking and I truely do love this girl Welcome to my world brother. I know exactly how you feel. You aren't alone and I don't understand how my fiancee could have cheated on me with a friend of mine after 5 years...and just continue to ignore my pain while she's off having fun. You probably blame yourself for a lot of it just as I do. Knowing this I'm probably the worst person in the world to give you advice rofl. Just know there are people in the world who DO care, I do, and many many others do as well. Keep talking to people and venting the hurt man. I find it's one of the only things that helps.
Author DannyT27 Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 Today is another down day really sick of these up n dwn days now... I also found out yesterday that there goin to thailand together next year which made me feel sick. I'm not dealing with the situation very well at all. I'm going out wiv my mates tonight so see what that brings, I wish I could turn my emotions off like a switch but unfortunetly I can't. I find it hard to understand how she's moved on so quick... All my friends jus keep saying she's a horrible person and that I'm better without.. But I can't choose who I fall in love with can I ? I need to meet someone else soonish, also not heard a word from her for a month which shows she's moved on... I knw I shouldn't idolize her but in my mind her good points outweigh the bad points! P.S Facebook is the devil LOL
Sustugriel Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I wish I could turn my emotions off like a switch but unfortunetly I can't. I find it hard to understand how she's moved on so quick... All my friends jus keep saying she's a horrible person and that I'm better without.. You can't switch your emotions off. So don't try to. I've done it before and all it did was hurt me in the end because I bottled things up. Allow yourself to grieve, you have a right to man. But you also gotta realize that for whatever reason she's chosen to hurt you and is ignoring your pain while she's off having fun, that's cruel. Do you really want someone who could be cruel to you? But I can't choose who I fall in love with can I ? I need to meet someone else soonish Forgive me, but these two points seem contradictory. Let me share something: Many people have recommended to me that if I do find someone I like, to befriend her for awhile, don't try to find a replacement or rebound to replace all the good qualities lost. Try to find other qualities you also like. I will recommend this for you as well. Find a pretty girl and befriend her, and that's it. It'll be cathartic and you won't be treating her unfairly by comparing her to...well the other important woman in your life.
Author DannyT27 Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 I understand sustugriel, I also think she's being cruel the thing is I knw her as a very loving person very kind etc... It just doesn't add up unless she really hates me or summat. I just thk this guys turned her head shown her abit of attention and now she feels as tho she's head ova heels in love lol. I knw I'll never get her back... This guy she's with is 10 yrs older (35) and knws how to play women... There already calling eachother babes etc... Very hurtful to me. I honestly thk the only thing they have in common is partying/drinking/drugs but who knws what goes on behind doors!!
mike588 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 So it's been 27 days NC and still not heard from her I've recently seen some pics on her fb and she looks very happy and you can tell on the pics that they went out for a meal for just 2 and she had a rose aswel... Gutted isn't even the word to explain how I feel... Am I ever going to feel any better ? I'm very jelous I just can't believe I havnt heard from her at all I really feel like texting her ? I feel like a fool for not showing her enough affection. Looks as tho Ive well and truely been replaced and I can't do anything abt it, my life is sh*t at the minute! You mention: I feel like a fool for not showing her enough affection.. I'm sure there were others reasons behind this...not to make you feel bad but it's usually more than one thing. I gave my ex. alot of attention but she still dumped me.
Chi townD Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 You're right, Facebook is the devil. That's why it's important to BLOCK HER!!! DEFRIEND HER!!!! So, you don't see things like that! It only sets you back to square one. So, take the leap! Also, tell your friends that you're still trying to get over her so you would rather not hear anything about her. If they're truely your friends, they'll respect your wishes.
Mcnulty Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 The Fb thing. I blocked her, her new bf, and all the other people who were insisting on being friends with her...was the only way to not accidentally, like you see something that would upset me. It hurts so much to know she is looking forward to her first xmas with her new guy and I'm sitting here alone..the sad thing is, I have met a lovely girl, BUT, I'm not ready...nowhere near and it pains me to keep telling her I'm not ready, when she is!! I know that when I heal, she will be gone with someone else...really can't win at the mo. Dreading the hols so much...been on my own for far too long after she kept me at a distance for 18 friggin months and here I am still wounded and in mourning unable to move my life forward! I feel for you guys I really do, you're not alone, know that.
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