chelle21689 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 We've known each other almost 1 year but officially together for almost 5 months I don't know if I love him because... Mainly I don't miss him like crazy when we're apart...sometimes I want my space but probably cuz he wants to be with me all moments of time. I don't get excited to see him like I used to. I look forward to seeing him but not super excited like before, and sometimes conversation is boring on the phone. Not all the time though but he isn't a conversationalist..being with him is much better. I feel like my feelings haven't been tested like him arguing with me or hurting my feelings. But here's why I might love himHe makes me laugh.When I'm stressed all day and I see him it's like I feel better and calm. He is very unselfish, makes me feel specialWe can sit together in silence and I like it. I think about him all the time but not obsessively.I stayed with him even though he sucked at kissing (he got better, A LOT lol, I stayed when he had premature ejaculation so bad where we couldn't have sex for more than 30 seconds (he can last longer now), and it's kinda bad but I try to put him first in plans than family n friends :\ I've seen him throw up with a nasty hangover before and still like him. I used to think he was not cute with a scruffy beard but now I think he's cute with it. Sometimes I think I love him and sometimes I'm not sure. Honestly it's easier to think I'm in love when I get the fuzzy feeling which comes and goes...which I know shouldn't be based on love.
creighton0123 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Everything you explained coincides with the winding down of a honeymoon phase. There are going to be some occasions where he will be your lover. There are going to be even more occasions where he will be your dearest friend. If you can picture him serving both roles very well and want him to continue doing so AND if you genuinely care for his well being and happiness, I would say that you are, in fact, in love with him.
Author chelle21689 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 bump I would like more advice please. People say I need to break up with him because of this uncertainty but I don't want to.
Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 bump I would like more advice please. People say I need to break up with him because of this uncertainty but I don't want to. 5 months isn't that long to be in a relationship. If you have to ask whether or not you love someone, then chances are you don't yet. You sound like you are on your way there, but if you have to question it, then you aren't in love yet. Nothing wrong with that though, as I said 5 months is still pretty early in the grand scheme of things. Give yourself some time and don't rush it.
Author chelle21689 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 (edited) 5 months but also we "dated' for 5 months before that. I'm so confused because this lady on another site told me that my relationship was bad because...well this is what she said " I love every minute of time with my husband. I do not ever get tired of having him around. He is my best friend, but he still can make me all tingly inside. I love him more than anyone or anything.I am not sure what you are looking for? Validation that your relationship is not so bad? It is bad." I think that I am getting there but it is taking a long azz time and I have no idea if I will ever know for sure. People will probably say there's no such thing as gray but I think it's more than like but less than love for now... Edited December 20, 2011 by chelle21689
JamesTrump Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 if you love him then u'll think abt him all day and maybe shy in front of him
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