eerie_reverie Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. The excitement of going out 2. The thrill of a first kiss 3. The desire to meet new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms 6. Passing out alone in your bed You don't know what you've got till it's gone...
HappyPanda Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 When Ive been in mediocre relationships... I missed a lot. Namely your #2, and the feeling of prospects. Now that Im in a wonderful one... I miss nothing.
Woggle Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 You don't sound like you are happy in this relationship.
runner Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 i'm single at the moment so i can't actually add to this list, but i can throw in some perspective from singleville 1. The excitement of going out i suppose it is a different kind of excitement- the flirty excitement of just being flirty for the heck of it. on the flip side, i do enjoy taking my SO on 'date nights' 2. The thrill of a first kiss no argument there. 3. The desire to meet new people this extends to number 1 i suppose; but then it only applies if your single and actually looking. and the catch to this is meeting crap new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone nope can't do this either way. too many important peeps, family, etc. 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms i was in last night watching love actually ... probably gonna put in princess bride next but then i had done the same thing with my SO before, so it's the same on either side. 6. Passing out alone in your bed actually it is kinda nice having it all to yourself, by yourself, every once in a while. so yes, completely agree. You don't know what you've got till it's gone... it cuts both ways
HappyPanda Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 You don't know what you've got till it's gone... Yeah, wait a tick, I didnt see this before... I agree with Woggle. The real meat and potatoes of this post is right here. Why not dump the guy if your longing for these things outweighs your desire to be with him??
Confusedalways Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Honestly? Not much. Sometimes in talking to single friends, I do miss the whole "new" feeling. Just the falling for someone, wondering when the first kiss will be, "honey moon" period type thing. But I don't miss much else.
tigressA Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Honestly? Not much. Sometimes in talking to single friends, I do miss the whole "new" feeling. Just the falling for someone, wondering when the first kiss will be, "honey moon" period type thing. But I don't miss much else. I agree with this. I don't miss a lot about being single. Earlier today I was wondering if I tend to reserve my 'sparklier' self for when I'm single...but I'm probably just in a rut. I get really comfortable in relationships and become kind of boring.
laotzu Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. The excitement of going out 2. The thrill of a first kiss 3. The desire to meet new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms 6. Passing out alone in your bed You don't know what you've got till it's gone... 1. Yes, but it does get tiring eventually. Granted, every night is a new opportunity. 2. Just had another first kiss tonight. That makes... eight first kisses this year? When they're good, they're good. 3. Yes. 4. I actually really like this, and take advantage of it often. 5. I'm a dude, so I watch "Bellflower". 6. Definitely. What I miss about being in a relationship: 1. Consistent, fun sex. 2. Getting to know someone, and what scares them or drives them. 3. Constant affection.
Dust Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. The excitement of going out 2. The thrill of a first kiss 3. The desire to meet new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms 6. Passing out alone in your bed You don't know what you've got till it's gone... Having some one special in your life is better! 1) you can have a gf and still go out! 2) A first kiss is exciting but havning some one special you can relive that with is what its about. 3) I still have the desire to meet new people and see new places while in a relationship. 4) It's not just bf/gf who act like you should be on call your family and friends will do it to. I just put my phone on silent and forget about it regardless of if I'm dating some one. 5) Your such a girl. I know this because the girls I date continue to watch rom com as I continue to watch the things I like including anime and comics. 6) Have some one in your bed is the most fun I've ever had! I do like sleeping a lone though but it can be really nice to have the company.
iris219 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. The excitement of going out 2. The thrill of a first kiss 3. The desire to meet new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms 6. Passing out alone in your bed You don't know what you've got till it's gone... 1. I rarely look forward to going out. Everyone is married or in a relationship. 2. There's no one to kiss. 3. Meet who? I'd love to have a BF and be able to couple things. 4. No one important calls my phone 5. I've never watched a rom com 6. Sleeping alone is good, but NEVER having sex is not good. I'd take someone mediocre at this point. Being single sucks.
lino Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I don't miss anything. Everything I did when I was single, I can still do now. Being single is Overrated in my opinion.
neowulf Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Being single has it's moment, but on the whole.. they quickly fade. If I get sick, there's no one around to take care of me. I'm on my own. If my friends are all busy with their partners, I'm stuck home watching TV. If you struggle in social situations, good luck meeting new people. Being single seems to be a huge boon for extravert's. If you're an introvert however, the situation can get pretty lonely and frustrating.
El Brujo Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 What I miss about being single? Sharing the good times, DUH...
Author eerie_reverie Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 I am actually really happy in my relationship. But I wanted to point out to all the desperate bitter people out there, that it's not all bad being alone.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. The excitement of going out 2. The thrill of a first kiss 3. The desire to meet new people 4. The freedom to forget about your phone 5. Staying up all night to watch rom coms 6. Passing out alone in your bed You don't know what you've got till it's gone... 7. Being able to spend $7000 on a supercharger kit for my car without someone nagging me
Author eerie_reverie Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 6. Not having to give a fcvk about Xmas/ Hannukah
Els Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 If you feel that way, spookie, I really think some serious consideration about your R would be in order. Truth be told, I don't miss anything.. at all. We give each other space, so I can continue on with my hobbies whenever I want, just as I do when I'm single. I can and do stay up all night to watch rom coms on occasion (although the possibility of that depends more on school/work the next day than partner ). Bed.. well, yeah, but we have a spare bedroom so I can crash there if I really want to sleep alone. I feel no desire to meet new people or kiss them. I still feel excited when I go out with him. TL;DR: Being in this R has only really enhanced my life. There is the issue of relationships working up my inherent anxieties, as I am a much more laid back person outside of one. But that is something I personally need to work on, rather than blame on relationships themselves.
Author eerie_reverie Posted December 14, 2011 Author Posted December 14, 2011 If you feel that way, spookie, I really think some serious consideration about your R would be in order. I really don't feel like there is anything wrong. I'm surprised more people don't miss ANYTHING about being single. I was happy when I was single (as I am now) and I feel like it's natural to harbor some nostalgia. I look back with fondness on the times I'd spend an hour getting done up, meeting up with my girlfriends, and hitting the town for a night that might end god knows where. I just don't see myself doing that again and I'm just saying, being single was (generally) a happy time for me. I am just as happy to trade that in for romantic bliss, but it an exciting period that I will always remember with fondness.
cdm369 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 The simplicity of being single. Not having the worries that often come with a relationship.
Tom81 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I really don't feel like there is anything wrong. I'm surprised more people don't miss ANYTHING about being single. I was happy when I was single (as I am now) and I feel like it's natural to harbor some nostalgia. I look back with fondness on the times I'd spend an hour getting done up, meeting up with my girlfriends, and hitting the town for a night that might end god knows where. I just don't see myself doing that again and I'm just saying, being single was (generally) a happy time for me. I am just as happy to trade that in for romantic bliss, but it an exciting period that I will always remember with fondness. There are many more positives to being in a relationship than being single. Yes there are certain freedoms and things, but all and all I would rather be in a happy relationship with someone than single. Of course I'm in a 2 yr drought right now coming from being divorced...so I might be a little bitter
Negative Nancy Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I don't miss anything about being single because I am in a relationship that makes me more happy than being single ever could, aside from the fact that I can still do most of the things a single person can do (go out, staying up all night watching whatever I want, passing out in bed) cos we don't live together due to our jobs. but even if we did live together it wouldn't make things different cos we can be in the same room together and do different things, yet enjoy each others company. blissful silence, if you will. someone said once "you know you're in love when being loyal is enjoyable", so I agree, you don't sound happy.
snowflakes88 Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 I really don't feel like there is anything wrong. Your post history about your relationship says otherwise. I don't think there's any shame in admitting that perhaps you have problems in your relationship and sometimes miss being single.
Lostinlife4now Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. I rarely look forward to going out. Everyone is married or in a relationship. 2. There's no one to kiss. 3. Meet who? I'd love to have a BF and be able to couple things. 4. No one important calls my phone 5. I've never watched a rom com 6. Sleeping alone is good, but NEVER having sex is not good. I'd take someone mediocre at this point. Being single sucks. I agree with this statement 100%!!!!!! Thanks for posting it.....
Art_Critic Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Art's Top 3 #1 - Domino's Pizza #2 - My Friday night hangout of cruising the Lowe's and Home Depot for tools are gone. #3 - My SUV is always dirty.
dasein Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Am single right now and loving it. No need to spend hundreds of dollars on Christmas/Valentines. Had out of town company and didn't have to accommodate an SO, stayed out all night all weekend and had a blast. No need for morning/lunch/bedtime calls. Not having as much sex, but the sex had gotten stale over several years anyway. Would trade 10x the sex with someone lived with for several years for 1x sex with someone new. If that makes me shallow, so be it. May change my tune after a year or so of singledom, but that will just be a sign it's time to get back on the horse.
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