updown Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 (edited) i am just now starting to date again. however, the little bit of it i have done has already messed with my work out schedule. i am a single mom with kids. i work out at night after they go to bed. i don't do it in the morning because i don't want them waking up earlier than they need to, and if they get up then i have to stop my work outs. i am doing P90X, so they are about an hour long and pretty intense. i can't have my kids hanging on me or asking me to stop. in some there is jumping and kicking and things like hanging from the pull up bar. all things better done when curious minds are NOT awake! my problem is, that my free time, to chat with dates or meet up with dates, tends to be the exact same time i have free to work out. now, this is fine if someone wants to us IM or just text for a bit, but doesn't work with phone conversations and obviously doesn't work with an actual date! i was doing really well with a solid routine until a handful of weeks ago, which just happens to coincide with when i started dating....... now, it's a mess. and i find it annoying. i sat down today and made a chart and then created goals. they are goals set on actually doing a work out every single day. so, i don't get the reward unless for those 4 weeks i worked out every day, like i am supposed to be doing. i feel like with my time and schedule i'm in this weird spot where i am going to have to choose between working out and dating/ meeting people. so, i'm looking for advice from anyone that wants to offer it. thanks! i cross posted this in fitness/ health. Edited December 13, 2011 by updown
ditzchic Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Uhhhhh. I know how you feel. I used to be a very big girl. I dropped 130 lbs naturally over like a year and half period and needless to say exercise became a very important part of who I am. As I got in better shape more and more men came knocking on my door. It's hard to date when you have a life and a routine that makes you feel happy. And if you're anything like me when you skip a workout you feel like crap. My only advice to you is to take it slow with the guys you are dating. Don't give up more of your time than you're willing to. Certainly, if they are the guy for you they will understand that you need time to do the things that make you happy. I also think it's a big part of compatibility. You need to find a guy that understands your need to workout and that is into it as well. Maybe you can get your workouts in together. The last guy I dated wasn't really much into exercise or physical activity at all. I actually ended up resenting it a bit because he wanted to spend a ton of time together but it usually consisted of sitting around or going out for dinner and drinks. I suggested tennis/racquetball/dancing dates and he wanted none of it. Finding the perfect fit for you is all a part of the dating process. And having similar interests in physical activities is part of that. Good luck!
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