Author MrSimple Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 My friend flat out refused to go on the group outing with my ex, and her "new guy" also don't want to go anymore, because it is just like the 3 of them. So technically, outing ruined? Plus, I've "vanished", so in a way, she's all alone now.
Author MrSimple Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 She has started to notice that I'm "gone"~ Shall maintain this for now~
smokey bear Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 She has started to notice that I'm "gone"~ Shall maintain this for now~ Mr simple, nc really does work with the rebound guy, you have got to stict strong to it until this rebound ends. Look t the results your getting in a matter of days, come on please keep it going, everytime you get a breadcrumb come on here and ask about it first before you reply. Just wait dont jump in, stick to strong nc, until this rebound ends. Something you have to understand as well is tht if it does end he will need time long as well or you will become the rebound to her rebound, it does happen. so even it ends you still cant jump in. Youve just got to be patient youve got to stick to nc, in time you will be able to break it but now is not the time.
smokey bear Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Mr simple, nc really does work with the rebound guy, you have got to stict strong to it until this rebound ends. Look t the results your getting in a matter of days, come on please keep it going, everytime you get a breadcrumb come on here and ask about it first before you reply. Just wait dont jump in, stick to strong nc, until this rebound ends. Something you have to understand as well is tht if it does end he will need time long as well or you will become the rebound to her rebound, it does happen. so even it ends you still cant jump in. Youve just got to be patient youve got to stick to nc, in time you will be able to break it but now is not the time. Sorry meant to say "even if it does end she will need time alone as well"
Author MrSimple Posted December 18, 2011 Author Posted December 18, 2011 My friend managed to gain access to her house(It is a girl, so it is safe) and will be meeting up with my ex. It is a very good chance for things to be turned in my favour without me doing anything. I can only hope my friend is able to convince her to stop everything my ex is doing because her parents found out she lied about her not going out with the other guy, the other guy found out she lied about her parents approving their relationship. So technically, she just shot herself in both directions. Tension will build up for sure, and my friend is the final key to breaking them up. It is going to be a do-or-die situation.
smokey bear Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Something you dont understand is, that if the issue is forced, she wont learn, she needs to experience this and for it to unfold naturally for her to learn, the more its pushed by outside forces the less you will recieve the outcome you want.
Author MrSimple Posted December 18, 2011 Author Posted December 18, 2011 The thing is, she needs advice. She is just very confused as to what she should do. My friend will just try to give her the options as to why it will not be good for her to continue this, and that's it. The ultimate choice is up to her. As you said, I cannot jump in straightaway. She needs to be over this one before I can go in.
smokey bear Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 The thing is, she needs advice. She is just very confused as to what she should do. My friend will just try to give her the options as to why it will not be good for her to continue this, and that's it. The ultimate choice is up to her. As you said, I cannot jump in straightaway. She needs to be over this one before I can go in. Well if this is true then if you do get her back you'll experience the same problem again, try to understand what im saying, she needs to learn her own lessons , by getting hurt, by experiencing it herself, if she is talked out of it, she wont have learned the vital lesson. Thats the whole point, try to understand it.
Author MrSimple Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Hmmm. Is it safe for me to carry on with one sentence very few days on FB, or stay off it totally since I've "vanished"? Because my friends tend to thank those who go out with them on FB, and if they tag me or so, it defeats the purpose of me disappearing. Unfortunately, some "smart" idiot decided to be funny and after I asked him to not post anything on my wall, he went and did. Is my cover blown? I've deleted that sentence, but there is a high chance she may have seen it. How can I redeem the situation?
smokey bear Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Hmmm. Is it safe for me to carry on with one sentence very few days on FB, or stay off it totally since I've "vanished"? Because my friends tend to thank those who go out with them on FB, and if they tag me or so, it defeats the purpose of me disappearing. Unfortunately, some "smart" idiot decided to be funny and after I asked him to not post anything on my wall, he went and did. Is my cover blown? I've deleted that sentence, but there is a high chance she may have seen it. How can I redeem the situation? Change your facebook privacy so that only you can post on your wall, then dont ever post on your wall.You want to appear to Disappear from facebook. YOU STILL NOT LISTENING. She needs to learn this lesson. dont ignore it or by pass it, accept and understand she needs to experience and learn
Author MrSimple Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Did so. Now let's get on with my life~
Author MrSimple Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Smokey: Hmmm, it is still very fresh in my ex's head about the fact that her rebound is ignoring her now. I've asked my friend to lay off all communication also. It is not going to work for now.
Author MrSimple Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 How long will it take for a dumpee to forget a rebound? Coz if she is able to forget about ours within this time, chances are she will take that same amount of time. Still, NC till that stupid feeling lessens in her mind.
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