chados Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Yea I know, I'm just saying. Right now she in a confused state so it easy for her to jump all over the place and to not think straight ya know... She still says she doesn't know how she feels or what she wants. I don't believe her and I'm not believing anything she does say. I'm just what ever with what she says. Still on NC and have no updates...this was all before. you'll be al right, just give it some time. you will find the answers youre looking for if you just keep some distance
lilyblue Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yea I really hope she does realize she made a mistake...its going to be difficult since that guy is around. He has stuff that I couldn't give her right now. But once I graduate I could have given her everything she wanted...even more than what that guy can give...she was just impatient... I don't think most people are looking for others who "give" them things. They're looking for a partner.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 I don't think most people are looking for others who "give" them things. They're looking for a partner. good answer lilly:)
Author lolita jade Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 You can fall in love with someone who has nothing. Its not about material things it is about the person.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 (edited) i can tell you my ex has done a complete 180° turn around. kinda funny when you read those gigs treads, it really looks that someone has been writing about her. i actually read the horoscope yesterday and today in the newspaper. dont get me wrong, i dont believe it at all, and not usually reading it. but listen to this. her. horocope today. why are you sad about something that you felt didnt work out? mine. said something about how i should not just sit around waiting. and yesterday it said that i should not wait to long for something because i might loose it hilarious edit: haha another funny story i come to think about, when i was 15 years old and was driving a moped. my friend was driving around a corner of a huge building at the same time as me. well you could figure out the rest. we were driving in low speed so nothing serious happened. anyway i read the horoscope, and it said "a supprise might be waiting for you around the corner Edited December 15, 2011 by chados
Author lolita jade Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 ha ha chados Keep reading those horoscopes
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 ha ha chados Keep reading those horoscopes haha with joy:laugh: they are good at making people believe what they read, they just write stuff that you could relate to in 10 different ways
Author lolita jade Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 yes like tarot cards too. We all are learning to do 180's. Keep up the good work. I think yours could reconcile thats for sure.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 yes like tarot cards too. We all are learning to do 180's. Keep up the good work. I think yours could reconcile thats for sure. thanks for saying that if we do, i really hope i will be able to maintain it. its like you said on the other tread. i feel like a failure, even though its not my fault. it just hurts your self esteem to know that someone doesnt want you to be there for them anymore
Author lolita jade Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 It sure does. Feeling unwanted is the worst thing to cope with apart from missing them.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 It sure does. Feeling unwanted is the worst thing to cope with apart from missing them. yeah but lets see it this way. you are unwanted now , but you where able to attract that man for 25 years right? unfortunately i cant speak for myself, since i just managed to do it 1 year with my last ex:p
ZimboGon Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 It sure does. Feeling unwanted is the worst thing to cope with apart from missing them. Yup. Specially when they ignore you and lie about the break-up to everyone to feel better. When she sent me all my things back, it was like a knife to the heart thinking she was done with me.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yup. Specially when they ignore you and lie about the break-up to everyone to feel better. When she sent me all my things back, it was like a knife to the heart thinking she was done with me. where back to topic breakups are selfish, its all about looking good in your eyes and make it easier for themselves. this doesnt mean they dont care.
ZimboGon Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 where back to topic breakups are selfish, its all about looking good in your eyes and make it easier for themselves. this doesnt mean they dont care. Well, at this point i don't think she cares. She got GIGS and left me a month ago for another guy, and they are currently in the honeymoon phase. When that ends, i expect the relationship to crumble because the guy is really underhanded. But at this point, i'm pretty sure she is living in the moment and 'happy' with him for now before she even realizes what her life is like without me.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Well, at this point i don't think she cares. She got GIGS and left me a month ago for another guy, and they are currently in the honeymoon phase. When that ends, i expect the relationship to crumble because the guy is really underhanded. But at this point, i'm pretty sure she is living in the moment and 'happy' with him for now before she even realizes what her life is like without me. yes that is what you think, no one really knows except for her. but i dont believe she was enjoying to tell you she's going to leave
ZimboGon Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yeah she felt pain. We broke up three times in a month, towards the end of the relationship. First two times, i pushed her to break up with me. 3rd time it was mutual. I caught her in a pretty big lie, (she blew me off for the OM) and i was tired of dealing with it. I mean, every time she cried. She told me she didn't know why she was doing it, she was so afraid of the thought of losing me. She even asked me to wait for her in the future. The only reason she stopped contacting me was because i told her to stop and live with her decision and blocked her, and since then she's been cold to me and anything that has to do with me. But i can easily say i was the best thing in her life. Its just, distance got in the way when i went to college and this other guy swooped in and played her. (of course, its her fault to for going to him)
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yeah she felt pain. We broke up three times in a month, towards the end of the relationship. First two times, i pushed her to break up with me. 3rd time it was mutual. I caught her in a pretty big lie, (she blew me off for the OM) and i was tired of dealing with it. I mean, every time she cried. She told me she didn't know why she was doing it, she was so afraid of the thought of losing me. She even asked me to wait for her in the future. The only reason she stopped contacting me was because i told her to stop and live with her decision and blocked her, and since then she's been cold to me and anything that has to do with me. But i can easily say i was the best thing in her life. Its just, distance got in the way when i went to college and this other guy swooped in and played her. (of course, its her fault to for going to him) wait for me? how selfish can you be. id say go out on dates. just make it clear that youre not ready for any new relationship.
ZimboGon Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yeah. I figure she's just going through a phase, though because she is a bit younger than me. Once she sees what life is like without me she'll be back, i hope, because i do want reconciliation.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Yeah. I figure she's just going through a phase, though because she is a bit younger than me. Once she sees what life is like without me she'll be back, i hope, because i do want reconciliation. how young are we talking about? if she doesnt know what she wants in life, and are to young to figure it out, maybe its best to let her figure that one out before starting a relationship
ZimboGon Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Well, she is still in highschool. We dated for a really long time. I was her first real relationship. When i went to college and she was still in that environment, i guess she wanted to live her life. She left me for some prick who the same age and in the same circle of friends as her. I mean, i believe its a complete maturity thing. When we were together, it was great. She was so devoted, she was pretty much attached to my hip. But, i was her first relationship. She didn't really know how to handle it and when the time came to commit since i wasn't right around the corner anymore, she took the easy way out. I feel like when she learns what she wants she'll be back and we can actually make things work this time. Relationships require effort, and she stopped doing that when i left. So yeah, i chalk it up to immaturity and youth. But by the time i spent with her when she was happy, loving, innocent, and everything shows me she is the kind of person worth waiting for.
chados Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Well, she is still in highschool. We dated for a really long time. I was her first real relationship. When i went to college and she was still in that environment, i guess she wanted to live her life. She left me for some prick who the same age and in the same circle of friends as her. I mean, i believe its a complete maturity thing. When we were together, it was great. She was so devoted, she was pretty much attached to my hip. But, i was her first relationship. She didn't really know how to handle it and when the time came to commit since i wasn't right around the corner anymore, she took the easy way out. I feel like when she learns what she wants she'll be back and we can actually make things work this time. Relationships require effort, and she stopped doing that when i left. So yeah, i chalk it up to immaturity and youth. But by the time i spent with her when she was happy, loving, innocent, and everything shows me she is the kind of person worth waiting for. it feels like youre letting her do whatever she likes. and then take her back. not fair to yourself, you need to respect yourself just as much as you respect her. and the same goes to her. dont feel like theres any control in your relationship. youre doing anything to make her happy, but is she doing the same for you? she isnt. and its not about money, its not about fancy gifts. if she feels she can have you whenever she wants, she wont want you at all.
Author lolita jade Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 Yes Zim, Like all of us on here you need to use the NC time to learn to love yourself, concentrate on your studies and go out loads with your mates.
ZimboGon Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I am feeling better guys As every day goes by i feel better and better about myself, and more confident. Its just, there isn't a doubt in my mind she would be a great partner for me when she grows up.
SkyEmtRN Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I am feeling better guys As every day goes by i feel better and better about myself, and more confident. Its just, there isn't a doubt in my mind she would be a great partner for me when she grows up. Keep your head up Zimbo... Every minute your sad is 60 seconds wasted that you could have been happy
Author lolita jade Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 its a slow process but you will get there zim
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