clientx Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t310024/ This link is to a thread about a date I had last week where it seemed she wasn't interested and we were too different after going on the first date. The problem with that situation was that when I first met her and we were having the initial communication in person and then later through facebook, I could tell she was pretty interested because she showed major signs such as saying stuff like "I'll def. check it out!". However, after going on the date with her and asking her to come check out what she said she was definitely going to check. She said sorry and she was busy so she couldn't check it out. I sent her some other text's to test her interest and stuff and eventually it ended up with her losing interest and saying "we're both different". So it was evident she lost interest during the date, something must have threw her off. Anyways, being it Finals week and all with studying and my projects, I messaged a great girl that I am interested in on a dating site. We've been talking for 3-4 days now and I was able to get her number and interest her enough to go hang out. In fact, all I mentioned to her was don't you think it's better if we talk face to face, in person? The immediate message she sent after I said that was, "I do, are you busy today?" So I know shes really interested. The problem is, I have finals until the end of Thursday night so I need Monday through Thursday to study and take my tests. In the middle of some messaging, she spontaniously asked for the second time, "Lol curious would you want to hang out tonight?" I had to decline because I need to study and focus on finals. So I tell her I will hang out Thursday night or Friday. She says she doesn't know about those days because her brother is coming home from the army between Thursday and Saturday and she only see's him once or twice a year, so she says she won't be able to hang out till next year. This didn't make sense to me so here are some questions that has to do with a couple of things: I am 22, she is 19. 1. What should I do about this situation? I don't want to do bad on finals, but I don't want to lose my chance with her either. I feel like she is exaggerating about not hanging out till next year so I guess she is probably testing me or just really wants me to hang out with her this week? 2. I am pretty good at gaining a girls interest initially, I start off really well as evident with the previous date and the current situation. However, I can't seem to keep the interest after that. I am a bit worried about this coming date because I seem to lose the girls after the first date. What can I do to keep the girl interested in me during the date? One main reason I can't keep them interested is because I am not as joking or flirty/teasing on the date. But it might be something else?
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