Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Ladies, how often have you followed your intuition in dating, relationships or with men in general and how often has your intuition been right or wrong? These could be positive or negative experiences. Such as a feeling you got for no reason in not going out with a certain man or a feeling that lead you to one. I'd just like to hear how often "female intuition" is right or wrong.
azsinglegal Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 I'd say 99% of the time my "gut" or "instincts" were right on target. Now, why I didn't listen to them about 75% of the time was because I wanted it to be wrong. I wanted things to not be how they actually were. I call this "fooling myself". I try to listen to my "gut" which I refer to as "logics" but my heart sometimes is a fool and follows the wrong path.
Carm Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 I'd say 99% of the time my "gut" or "instincts" were right on target. Now, why I didn't listen to them about 75% of the time was because I wanted it to be wrong. I wanted things to not be how they actually were. I call this "fooling myself". I try to listen to my "gut" which I refer to as "logics" but my heart sometimes is a fool and follows the wrong path. This ^ I do my best to listen to my gut but I have from time to time try to fool myself. At the end of the day, our intuition is like having our own personal GPS system....it will never steer you wrong. My last 2 brief relationships ended because I followed my gut. I've now met someone I'm head over heels over. There are no red flags and I'm loving it!!!! Now, if I didn't listen to my gut I wouldn't have met the right one.
verhrzn Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 I usually temper my gut instincts by discussing situations and seeking advice from friends or online forums, because I know my instincts tend to run towards the insecure/paranoid. In the two situations I can think of, one in which I followed my gut and one in which I didn't, I think both demonstrated my insecurity is probably right. The first incident was an ex-bf who would was consistently comparing me (and not favorably) to other females he knew.... How I wasn't as hot as my friend, how I wasn't as smart as his friend, how I wasn't as cute and nice as his ex. After 6 months, I finally dumped him, trusting my gut that he wasn't into me. Most of my friends thought I was way off-base, and that I was attributing too much meaning to his words due to my insecurity. To this day they still claim he really did like me.... Even though he was over me in a week, and making out with a new girl (who was, yet again, hotter than me) within two. The second incident was a guy I dated casually last year. My gut instinct told me he was just using me for an ego rub and that his whole "I'm not ready for a relationship" was a crock, but I ignored it, told myself I was being paranoid/insecure, and that I should stop analyzing everything. Surprise, surprise, when he dumped me in April with a voice mail saying I was ugly. A month later he was in a serious relationship with someone else. So... trusting my gut would have gotten me out of these situations might earlier. But then again, my insecure/paranoid instinct would have made me run from situations that actually turned out to be fine (in other words, my instinct was wrong.) So it's a hard call... I'd say the best situation is where tangible evidence confirms your instinct.
azsinglegal Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 This ^ I do my best to listen to my gut but I have from time to time try to fool myself. At the end of the day, our intuition is like having our own personal GPS system....it will never steer you wrong. My last 2 brief relationships ended because I followed my gut. I've now met someone I'm head over heels over. There are no red flags and I'm loving it!!!! Now, if I didn't listen to my gut I wouldn't have met the right one. If I had listened to my instincts LONG ago I'd be in a totally different place in my life right now. The place I wanted to be but was a stubborn fool. Now...I'm listening and things have gotten better for me. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, however, once my instinct kicks in, I'm done if it says to be and I've been 100% right so far.
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