Mag-Lone-Freak Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Well, unfortunately its come down to my addict bf having feelings for another addict girl He admit it today, but saying that nothing happened, they only hung out at her place a few times and got high. He doesn't know if she has the same feelings for him, that this is just sexual attraction, gets butterflies when he thinks about her, but loves me and therefore will even stop hanging out with her especially if he finds out she has the same feelings. There have been some bad vibes between us lately because of his using and struggle to quit which has made me a bit controlling and "mom" to him which he finds a turn off, but just as I try now to stop, he brings this other girl up. Is he trying hard to get me to get off his case? I guess I'm asking for an opinion but also especially, how guys cope in this situation where someone else starts to appeal to them? Will he keep hanging out with her? Or will he try to avoid her cold turkey now so that things don't get too hot?
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MyApology Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Well, unfortunately its come down to my addict bf having feelings for another addict girl He admit it today, but saying that nothing happened, they only hung out at her place a few times and got high. He doesn't know if she has the same feelings for him, that this is just sexual attraction, gets butterflies when he thinks about her, but loves me and therefore will even stop hanging out with her especially if he finds out she has the same feelings. There have been some bad vibes between us lately because of his using and struggle to quit which has made me a bit controlling and "mom" to him which he finds a turn off, but just as I try now to stop, he brings this other girl up. Is he trying hard to get me to get off his case? I guess I'm asking for an opinion but also especially, how guys cope in this situation where someone else starts to appeal to them? Will he keep hanging out with her? Or will he try to avoid her cold turkey now so that things don't get too hot? If he continues to hang out with another woman who enjoys the same habit as he, which a strange form of intimacy and bonding alone, and add that to the fact he is attracted to her, spells trouble for you.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 If it was me I'd already have banged her... But for him...it will probably take some time as he doesn't sound like he has the best skills in the world If he doesn't even know If she's into him and he's been at her house and got high with her...I would absolutely know for sure by now, but maybe he's an idiot. It's a matter of time In my opinion, and I wouldn't be so sure he hasn't done anything though (but you don't have to convince me)...you should either tell him to stop seeing her and then that takes care of that...of course until the next girl comes into the picture.
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