adorablebabiii Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I know the entire point of doing NC after a break up is so you can heal and get yourself back on track, but i was wondering are there any NC success stories? IF so please post your stories if possible! Thanx guys
california15 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 sure there are. I know I'm not 100% healed, yet I'm over 6 months NC and haven't looked back. Just be strong during the weak moments, realize the urge to contact is fleeting/temporary and the weak moments seem less tempting over time - It's almost like "I've made this is far, I don't want to start over again!"
PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 california15 is right! The longer you manage to go NC the better because as the weeks roll by you'll find yourself too stubborn to give in and break NC - you've worked too hard on not getting in touch so you sure as hell won't be the first to do it...after all, they haven't made the effort either.
lolita jade Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 By success stories. Do you mean your ex coming back to you?? If so I don't know. Most I think just stop posting if they get back together with ex.
M2155 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I've read a lot of stories on here where the ex came back but I can only think of one where it lasted, not that I have read everything. I've also seen stories where the person moved on and fond someone better. I'm a world better myself after 5 months NC and I will never (hopefully) repeat the mistakes I made with my ex. But my ex went back to his and that seems to be working out just fine. It can happen. The reality is, relationships get tough so, it's not surprising most of them don't work out.
lolita jade Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I agree. Things change and people change. What you wanted a year ago may not be what you want now. Put that together with third parties, money worries, job stress, mundane lifestyles, and every other problem you can think of that may arise. Its tough. Sometimes love isn't enough.
Rorschach64 Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Well sometimes people aren't posting on here cause they just moved on too I know I've been busy with stuff and yada yada yada...only on here now because I can't focus really and bored so yeah. NC works for all your relationship stresses, woes, and despairs. Getting your ex back? Whatever to that!
Standard-Fare Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Not a "success story" per se but I did have an experience where NC led to reconciliation. After this guy and I dated fairly casually for about five months, we were having some problems but not really talking about them. After a drunken spar via text message, all of a sudden the dude fell off the face of the earth on me. The loss was very abrupt, and made me realize that I really had developed feelings for him and had made several mistakes. I tried several different ways of getting back in contact, but he shunned all of them. So I got the message -- and tried to move on with some dignity intact. Three months later we ran into each other out of the blue, had a nice but superficial chat, and agreed to meet up later. When we did we had a sincere, honest conversation with each other for the first time about what some of our problems were, and he explained that he dropped off on me because he thought his feelings were WAY more involved than mine and he couldn't deal. Not that that's a good enough explanation. Regardless, we decided to give things a real shot then, not just casual dating. We dated for about another year after that and we both fell in love. Ultimately it didn't work out, so again, this isn't a true "success" story but it is a case where no contact for a while led to progress rather than termination.
CarrieT Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 When I joined this site four years ago, there was a guy named Alex who came here and worked through NC to get his girlfriend back. I am Facebook friends with him and I can attest that although he no longer posts here, he and his girlfriend are still together after a reconciliation.
lilyblue Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Kind of, I think this is a success story because I like the outcome, but it's not that we got back together. NC for 6 months only to have him show up at my door (from across the country - he had moved) to spill his guts. That was 6 months ago. We're not dating, but we talk daily and are good friends.
mike588 Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Not a success story on my part actually quite the opposite but my ex. had broken up (before we met) with her ex. and she told me he just disappeared for about a year. Well according to her he contacted her a year later while we were dating and that was all it took,,, they are back together again.
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