ToothpasteLove Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Ive posted here before about this girl but im looking for some final advice. I was supposed to be going down her's today.. but shes been off with me all week. I asked her.. are you sure you want me there.. and her reply was .. look if i didnt want you here id say.. attitude. Ive told her im not coming and now this has turned into her saying i knew you wouldnt come.. the easy turn it around on me trick. I dont know whats wrong with her.. ive just been so unhappy this week.. and im at the point that id rather just end it because its too much to deal with.. i dont know if its worth it. We are at 4 months of dating.. which to me is the place where you get serious.. and i think shes scared.. as we know shes told me she has commitment issues. This week the loved up stage of talking all the time has been cut off.. Monday last week i looked after her when she was sick.. and it was the first time she looked me in the eyes and told me that she loved me and i said it back. That night she went home and everything changed.. i didnt get a text for 3 hours and at that point she told me she was drunk with her friend. She was distant for the next few days.. which she told me was because she was thinking of moving out.. but even still after sorting that out.. even if she isnt talking as much.. its her tone.. its that feeling in the gut you get that you know theres something wrong. To be very honest.. it feels like im arguing with my ex girlfriend all over again. Ive moved this relationship as slow as she needed to go, ive let her introduce me as her friend to her parents, i never said i love you till she said it, i give her space and i encourage her to go out and keep up with the life she had before me. Shes been so defensive and i cant make her see that.. im begging with her to please see that im trying to be honest with her.. but she cant see it.. she see's me attacking her. She has now turned this around on me.. and if we lack the ability to communicate there is nothing to persue.. Its the third time ive tried talking to her.. each time ive had to back down.. but i cant this time. What do i do in this situation? All i can think of is ending it and backing away completely..
NasirUK Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 This is something you could say: We have been together for four months now, I'm really into you. I feel like I have waited a long time to hear you say you love me, I'm glad you have. -smile here- and I love you too. I've been thinking that we should take our relationship to the next level and become more serious about it. I think we should be more active in each others lives and try to be in contact as much as possible because your my lover and I am yours too. Just tell her how much you value her and how important she is, tell her you want to be even closer. Hi my name is Nasir You seem really into her, and sound like a good guy. I don't know if she knows that, but you cannot blame her or create an argument. First thing I suggest is saying something like I did above... and then you need to show HER that you want the relationship to be serious, show her that you are capable of being her man, the serious relationship man. Once you've expressed your feelings, I advise you to take her to a meal or somewhere romantic. Look her in her eyes and say I really love you. Oh by the way ToothpasteLove, you sound like a charmin person and it is good that you have expressed your feelings out loud. A weight is lifted right? Anyways, just reading your post I feel that you already know what you want from the relationship... you just need to tell her this and not wait for her to make the first move. Good luck.
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