herc3352 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I posted my most recent story yesterday: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t310154/ At the end I mentioned that I was seeing a girl who was into fitness modeling and had her life together. We've only been seeing each other for about a month (hanging out, going on dates, working out) and I thought I found someone who showed an interest in everything I did. Problems arose last night when she was going to a Christmas party and really wanted me to go. We were going to go workout in the afternoon but she was feeling lazy so we just cooked and laid around a little bit. I had no idea about the Xmas party until about a couple hours before the actual party. I told her that I needed to workout and then I'd swing by. She then accused me of "working out too much" and said that I should take some time off. (RED FLAG for me) Here's the thing, I workout 6 days a week (sometimes 5) because I was fat when I was a kid and always struggled to lose weight (I was 5'5 230lbs at age 12) and didn't lose the weight until I was 17 (6'2 165 lbs) and now that I'm 24 (6'2 255...made some progress haha), I've taken a liking to the competitive bodybuilder lifestyle. Every gf that I've had since I was 17 has ALWAYS tried to keep me from working out and it was ALWAYS an issue. I can see how people could complain about their S.O. being a workaholic because their job takes up a good amount of time throughout and then any supplemental work takes up even more time (8+ hours a day). My working out takes AT MOST an hour and a half depending on what time of year it is. I'm just venting because I broke it off with the other girl today after she blatantly ignored any contact last night after I got done working out and felt that if this was a problem after less than a month, it wasn't going to get any better any time soon. I'm not bummed about it, but I feel that if someone really enjoyed your company, they would be understanding about something so trivial...Should I feel like I'm in the wrong for keeping up with my working out? Every girl I've ever dated has tried to assure me that I have a problem. Really appreciate any insight.
foolishlover Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I think it depends really. When i first met my ex, he never stepped foot into a gym. I started going so he started going. We went to our own separate gyms. As he started seeing results, he got really cocky and went quite frequently. I didnt mind him going to the gym, but he would sacrifice our time together. For example, we usually have dinner together on fri nights, have lunch or whatever on saturday. He would abandon our commitments so he could go to the gym. He would also spend an obsessive amount of time there...When i went to hang out with him, he goes he wants to go to the gym (fair enough). He could drive, but he chose to walk, which took an hour, gym for an hour and a half and then walk back, which took another hour. When it all blew up, he admitted he just didnt want to spend time with me and used the gym as an excuse. So it depends really! Im a bit worried now if my future partner becomes gym obsessed.
foolishlover Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 PLUS all he talked about was the gym. How he loves how great he is beginning to look and how he wants to UP the program so he can get bigger and get more attention. He became obsessive.
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