Meeks7 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 One thing I've learned as a guy interacting with the ladies is -- don't say more than necessary! Keep your words short and sharp. Women are drawn to a guy who is smooth, concise and mysterious. Don't be an open book because you'll get friend zoned... little bro'ed, "my best gay friend" sort of deal. Speak the bare minimum in the early stages. You can reveal your soul to her when you guys are engaged to be married.
kaylan Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 It really doesnt take all this over thinking. Just be a normal secure person. Insecure people bare their soul right away. You can be an open book after someone has earned your trust and you have dated a little bit. You only get friend zoned if the girl doesnt find you physically attractive. Go to the gym and get nice clothes. Nuff said
carhill Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Don't even bare your soul when married, trust me. The friend-zone can happen at any moment in time. You may think you know a woman but you'll never truly know her. YMMV, but those are the tidbits I've learned from my 52 on this rock.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 A little mystery is always good. For men and women. Usually people want their relationships to be an unfolding of layers. You never want to reveal everythign about yourself in one big gulp. I wouldn't go so far to say only what is "necessary", but revealing parts of yourself slowly in a balanced way is good. I've never been married but I hope that within a marriage, my man would feel comfortable with a deeper level of intimacy and soul baring. As long as it wasn't a 24/7 deal.
ditzchic Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Speak but ALWAYS listen. Always ask her to follow up on what she is talking about. Some women aren't used to guys who actually listen and don't cut them off or change the subject to themselves. SO TRUE! I dated a guy for a few months who never listened to a word I said. It was very obvious when we were having a conversation he was just waiting for my pause so he could talk about himself. After we broke up the next guy I dated listened attentively. I remember the first time he asked a follow up question about something I said earlier in the day and it knocked my god damned socks off. I never realized that there were actually guys out there that listen to to the words coming out of my mouth!! lol
jobaba Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 One thing I've learned as a guy interacting with the ladies is -- don't say more than necessary! Keep your words short and sharp. Women are drawn to a guy who is smooth, concise and mysterious. Don't be an open book because you'll get friend zoned... little bro'ed, "my best gay friend" sort of deal. Speak the bare minimum in the early stages. You can reveal your soul to her when you guys are engaged to be married. Hmmm... Strong silent mysterious type is one way to go. I think women do like that. But I can't pull that off. Way too far from my real personality. So I try to go with talkative, funny, bold, cocky...
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 No. The best advice is a sense of humor. All women are looking for a dude with a sense of humor. I've been in situations where I was one of the ugliest dudes in the room but I had women talking to me because I was funny. Being talkative doesn't matter as long as women like you're sense of humor.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 Yes, be an onion. I like getting to know someone gradually because it actually takes time to build up an interest in someone. Take One Thousand and One Nights, Scheherazade kept the kings interest by ending a story for the night with a cliffhanger... and then resuming it the next night. There's a difrerence between being articulate and being a big mouth.
runner Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 1. yes, mystery certainly goes a long way in dating- especially the early days. 2. don't just sit there waiting for your turn to speak; actually BE a good listener. 3. keep calm and carry on.
Emilia Posted December 14, 2011 Posted December 14, 2011 No. The best advice is a sense of humor. All women are looking for a dude with a sense of humor. I've been in situations where I was one of the ugliest dudes in the room but I had women talking to me because I was funny. Being talkative doesn't matter as long as women like you're sense of humor. This. If you are too quiet/not entertaining enough you can be seen as boring.
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