PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 So I bumped into my ex last night, we've been broken up for a month and I haven't seen him in a month. I walked into the club with my friends and there he was, his eyes clocked me. I walked past. Then on the way past again I simply went up and we hugged each other, he squeezed me tightly. As we were just chatting, he held my hand. I then walked away. He walked past again and we stood there face to face. Didn't say a lot but he kept grinning and laughing, like he was uncomfortable as was I. Then his 'friend' came over and they both walked away. How can you have been so close to someone only a month earlier, we were together for a year, and then it feels like you never knew each other at all? The rest of the night he was too whipped by his friends to come talk to me but he kept staring over at me before going home without his friends. He even made a point of walking straight through our group to go to the bathroom even though he could have easily walked around us. Our relationship meant nothing to him despite everything, clearly. I guarantee he was expecting me to text him today...but I didn't.
Cmac Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 From what you're saying I don't get the impression that he doesn't care. Rather it seems more that he cares but doesn't quite know how to act around you.
foolishlover Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 man, that is like one of my biggest nightmares...seeing my ex at the clubs that we would usually go to with other people or new 'friends' around him....and having him being super cold to me. Did it make you uneasy the whole night? I think I would have just broken down and would have had to go home and have a cry!
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 I have no idea. I know him well enough to know that if he didn't want to talk to me, he would have simply walked away or left the club as soon as he saw me. He certainly wouldn't have hugged me or even talked to me. I know he stayed away because of his friends, basically he's in the army and never home and so when things went rocky between us his friends were the first to stick the boot in as they want their friend back for themselves...understandable in a way but unfair on him to put him in that position. I just danced with my friends right in his eye-line and made it look like i couldn't care less, i was having an amazing time...but inside i was devastated! I couldn't believe how weird it felt. I'm not used to being in the same place as him and not being his girlfriend. There were no girls around them, it was all guys but he's never been one to flirt anyway so that's quite lucky! I just don't get it
mike588 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I dread that day until I'm 100% indifferent to her,,, getting there!
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 I guess it depends if your ex is prone to showing emotion or not? My ex gets angry with himself if he shows emotion. He just doesn't do it...and his job has only made that worse. He can turn his emotions off, the army "mind over matter" mentality. It's unfortunate because I know he'll regret it, I know him well enough to know that.
foolishlover Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I have no idea. I know him well enough to know that if he didn't want to talk to me, he would have simply walked away or left the club as soon as he saw me. He certainly wouldn't have hugged me or even talked to me. I know he stayed away because of his friends, basically he's in the army and never home and so when things went rocky between us his friends were the first to stick the boot in as they want their friend back for themselves...understandable in a way but unfair on him to put him in that position. I just danced with my friends right in his eye-line and made it look like i couldn't care less, i was having an amazing time...but inside i was devastated! I couldn't believe how weird it felt. I'm not used to being in the same place as him and not being his girlfriend. There were no girls around them, it was all guys but he's never been one to flirt anyway so that's quite lucky! I just don't get it That makes it sound a tiny bit better. I dread seeing people all around my ex when i go to a club. He used to abandon me when we went to the clubs together to flirt and dance with other people while we were together!! So i am not looking forward to running into my ex when he is a single man.
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Foolishlover: Sweetheart, if your ex did that while you were together he sounds like an absolute tool!!! He clearly didn't respect you or your feelings while you were out as a couple so why would he when you aren't together? You deserve way, waaaay better!!! No doubt about it. Stay strong, I did. And believe me, by dancing like crazy with my friends he didn't know...I sure as hell made my point! His lingering glances at me every couple minutes proved that! He's an idiot when he's with his friends.
mike588 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 That makes it sound a tiny bit better. I dread seeing people all around my ex when i go to a club. He used to abandon me when we went to the clubs together to flirt and dance with other people while we were together!! So i am not looking forward to running into my ex when he is a single man. Sorry but what a jerk! I would be so pissed if my g/f did something like that!! Oh you deserve so much better!!!!! I never get jealous when I see my ex. with someone else because my parents taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate
foolishlover Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Sorry but what a jerk! I would be so pissed if my g/f did something like that!! Oh you deserve so much better!!!!! I never get jealous when I see my ex. with someone else because my parents taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate You know when you are so deep into it that you are blinded by everything and just make excuses that its ok? Thats what I did and i was the one who had to end up apologizing to him cause his reason was that he is an introvert and can only make friends at clubs. As a result, I should let him 'do his thing' and 'make friends.' I was blocking him from meeting people he said. He said when we go to clubs..he should be able to make his friends and not have me interfere while he couldnt care less where i went. And i was like...i feel really bad now..sorry. But looking back..HELLO!? you are in a relationship. That just isnt right!
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Sounds like he was quite manipulative. You're definitely better off without him! You'll find someone who respects you and wouldn't take the p*ss like he clearly did. Just remember this side of him and you'll grow to be glad you're not with him anymore...find the "good" in goodbye, as Beyonce said
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 If I said I could see the hurt/pain/anger in his eyes whenever he glanced over does that make sense to anyone? It wasn't just a normal look...???
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Anyone had a similar encounter?
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