amythan Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Hi - i met this guy and he asked me to go out tonight. We were texing this week and twice he asked to go out this week end. I said that it depends on when and he said, sunday evening. I said that i can make it so he was supposed to come back to me with the details. He never did. I am very upset. Not because i had other plans but because if he changes his mind of cannot make it he should tell me. I do not think this is the right way to treat people, not to mention how this speaks about his real interest .. So should i delete his number and never talk to him again or text him telling him that he is a jerk (not with these words of course). I know silence is an answer but sometimes i feel that i should tell people that i am annoyed and upset. Seriously, does he think it is ok to do that ? The only thing is that he could maybe think i am overreacting but i am seriously pissed with his behaviour ... What would you do ?
Arabella Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Honestly, he doesn't care what you think. It's not going to change anything. However, if you feel it's going to make you feel better to call him on his BS, then go for it. I've done it before too.
Jessica45 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I think you're jumping the gun a bit. Guys don't do alot of prep or stress about the details. For him, the main thing was that you agreed to the date. He may call or text you later today for the "unimportant" details like when he's picking you up or what you're going to do.
Arabella Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 So she agrees to go out with him and he doesn't think about giving her proper notice (one day would've been ok, two better) as to what time he's picking her up? That's not acceptable. It sounds like she's an afterthought to him and she can do better.
Author amythan Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 Do you think i am jumping the gun a bit ?? It is 18:30 ... what is he planning, calling me at nine ? I was looking forward seeing him, much less now really.
spice4life Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Hi - i met this guy and he asked me to go out tonight. We were texing this week and twice he asked to go out this week end. I said that it depends on when and he said, sunday evening. I said that i can make it so he was supposed to come back to me with the details. He never did. I am very upset. Not because i had other plans but because if he changes his mind of cannot make it he should tell me. I do not think this is the right way to treat people, not to mention how this speaks about his real interest .. So should i delete his number and never talk to him again or text him telling him that he is a jerk (not with these words of course). I know silence is an answer but sometimes i feel that i should tell people that i am annoyed and upset. Seriously, does he think it is ok to do that ? The only thing is that he could maybe think i am overreacting but i am seriously pissed with his behaviour ... What would you do ? While yes, it is upsetting, I wouldn't call or text him if I were you. If he forgot then that shows his level of interest and there is no need to dignify that with a response. Just move on. If something happened (like a car accident or family emergency), he will contact you as soon as he is able to provide an explanation. That's what I would do anyway, but it's up to you of course.
Jessica45 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Do you think i am jumping the gun a bit ?? It is 18:30 ... what is he planning, calling me at nine ? I was looking forward seeing him, much less now really.We're in a different time zone so I was thinking it was morning. I retract my previous post.
Author amythan Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 I did it. I texted him and told him how annoyed i was. I do not care if he thinks i overreact or whatever. He spent weeks trying to make plans and wanted to see me but at the end he was stringing me along so i am better cutting off this nosense. And speaking up sometimes feels good, this dude was getting the wrong impression that I am here waiting for him. I liked him but i started to feel like a back-up plan and this is a very unpleasant feeling ...
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