happythroughout Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Do you ever wish you could just pull someone off the streets and marry them just so people would get off your back? It's not like I have a lot of pressure to get married but I'm tired of always being the one seeing my friends pair up. I always have nothing to update in terms of relationships, except for maybe bad dates. Now I feel like the only one in the group not being able to share or provide advice on relationships. They seem to have a common topic which I don't. I'm at this point close to either giving up or paying money to get hitched.
Eeyore79 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Do you ever wish you could just pull someone off the streets and marry them just so people would get off your back? Yes, but for different reasons. People "getting on my back" is the least of my worries - I couldn't care less what other people say or think. I'm more concerned that I'm getting older and don't have a loving partner or a stable home life, or any prospect of establishing a family. I'm really tired of the whole dating game - meet someone, get to know them, then either a) Find out they're a huge pain in the ass and go through the upheaval of dumping them, or b) Fall in love and suffer emotional agony as they mess you about and eventually dump you. Add in the constant nervousness that the clock is ticking and you'll never find a suitable partner, and you pretty much realize how much dating in your thirties sucks. For once I'd like to be in a relationship with a nice person, and have them treat me properly, and for the relationship to actually result in commitment. I just want a happy, stable, mutually supportive relationship with someone I care about, so we can start building a shared life, and a home, and eventually a family. Other people (at least some of them) seem to manage it, but it just never seems to happen for me
ScienceGal Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Yes, but for different reasons. People "getting on my back" is the least of my worries - I couldn't care less what other people say or think. I'm more concerned that I'm getting older and don't have a loving partner or a stable home life, or any prospect of establishing a family. I'm really tired of the whole dating game - meet someone, get to know them, then either a) Find out they're a huge pain in the ass and go through the upheaval of dumping them, or b) Fall in love and suffer emotional agony as they mess you about and eventually dump you. Add in the constant nervousness that the clock is ticking and you'll never find a suitable partner, and you pretty much realize how much dating in your thirties sucks. For once I'd like to be in a relationship with a nice person, and have them treat me properly, and for the relationship to actually result in commitment. I just want a happy, stable, mutually supportive relationship with someone I care about, so we can start building a shared life, and a home, and eventually a family. Other people (at least some of them) seem to manage it, but it just never seems to happen for me I feel the same way, exactly.
grkBoy Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I used to have those moments... ...then I saw the drama my "paired up" friends went through, and realized I was better off. It's funny when the MALE friends tell you in private how lucky you are to have freedom. The females will usually hit you with the song and dance of how you're such a wonderful guy and shouldn't be single...despite that they would never date you (if they were single) and they wouldn't introduce you to any of their attractive friends. Stop worrying about it. Seriously. If you're feeling "left out" on couples nights, then don't go to them. Do your own things. When I was alone in my past, I stopped feeling left out and more saw how my friends were dealing with drama and those who married/had kids were struggling. Made me appreciate my situation even more.
Lostinlife4now Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I used to have those moments... ...then I saw the drama my "paired up" friends went through, and realized I was better off. It's funny when the MALE friends tell you in private how lucky you are to have freedom. The females will usually hit you with the song and dance of how you're such a wonderful guy and shouldn't be single...despite that they would never date you (if they were single) and they wouldn't introduce you to any of their attractive friends. Stop worrying about it. Seriously. If you're feeling "left out" on couples nights, then don't go to them. Do your own things. When I was alone in my past, I stopped feeling left out and more saw how my friends were dealing with drama and those who married/had kids were struggling. Made me appreciate my situation even more. NICE STATEMENT!!!!!!!! So agree.....
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