thatone Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 'so as i've posted i broke up with an ex about 3 months ago now? i think that's pretty close. the first thing i did, dating wise, after that was update my okc profile and jokingly put in the 'contact me if' section that "if you want to be the first person to approach a man in the history of the internet". since then i've been approached by 3 women in a couple weeks in person and one on okc. go figure? the one on okc i was honest with about just breaking up with an ex so she kinda disappeared although we had some good conversation for awhile. that was very shortly after i broke up with the ex so not much potential there due to timing. then i had a fairly wild three days with a nurse who approached me at my nephew's wedding around thanksgiving, before discovering that she was rebounding as well and we didn't really have much in common. then this past week i've been approached by a married woman looking to cheat on her husband (apparently) and my housekeeper. the married woman i am fairly indifferent about, i'm friends with her coworkers and they were sort of encouraging her, we were all out hitting a few bars together and wound up at my place on the way home and as they were leaving they were telling her "she could just stay but we have to go to work". if she would've gone through with a ONS i would've probably taken her up on it, i am a man after all. but i wasn't willing to push the issue so i let it go and she went home that night and (i assume) wised/sobered up. the housekeeper is a touchy situation. she pitched the idea of me going out with her and her adolescent son right away, first time she has made such a hint in 3 years. that's kind of off-putting to me, to be honest. i've only ever dated one person with kids, and that was by accident, if i had known there were kids i wouldn't have ever gone out with that one. and that woman refused to let any man she dated meet her daughter until it was 'relationship status' with a particular guy. that methodology i agree with. as a product of divorced parents myself i don't think it's right to drag kids in front of every person you date if you have kids. but either way the problem is i don't really want to lose the housekeeper . she does an awesome job cleaning my house, and if she gets heartbroken by rejection and disappears i'd have to find a new one. she was hanging around well after cleaning my house on friday when my mom/stepdad stopped by to take me out to lunch (due to it being my birthday this weekend) and she got wind of the birthday so she's stopping by tomorrow to help clean up two rooms i just finished refinishing the wood floors in, insisting on bringing a cake with her. that'll be interesting... the only woman i've approached this month turned out to be married as well. group of women sitting together at a bar with no men, fair game right? struck up good conversation with one of them and found a lot of things in common, but found out after facebook snooping when i got home that they weren't just a bunch of single women in a bar, they were all the wives/girlfriends of the band playing in said bar, so struck out there. why do women approach me all of a sudden? no clue. if i did have a clue i'd write a book and sell it to you all...
kaylan Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 lol @ you feeling all great about a low quality woman hitting on you. 1) a cheating tramp....and you considering sleeping with her makes you look like a douche imo and I wouldnt want to see you whine about getting heart broken in the future with the attitude you had about that. 2) your housekeeper who has a kid...she works for you...so theres not much to say about her motives. But good thing you left that alone because Id wonder about her motives. Plus if it didnt end well, she could be out of a job assignment and she has a kid to support. 3) an on the rebound chick at wedding....not much to say about that either. Though I see this as a more legit approach since she doesnt have baggage or as much drama as the other two. However shes on the rebound at a wedding, so thats easy pickings given the setting I just think you need to get more grounded in reality. Women with less options chase single dudes. My response wouldnt be so negative had you had a different attitude regarding the married woman. But then again I have to be real with ya buddy and tell ya to get some more quality gals...and leave your housekeeper alone dude. Bad idea there.
PlumPrincess Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 lol @ you feeling all great about a low quality woman hitting on you. 1) a cheating tramp....and you considering sleeping with her makes you look like a douche imo and I wouldnt want to see you whine about getting heart broken in the future with the attitude you had about that. 2) your housekeeper who has a kid...she works for you...so theres not much to say about her motives. But good thing you left that alone because Id wonder about her motives. Plus if it didnt end well, she could be out of a job assignment and she has a kid to support. 3) an on the rebound chick at wedding....not much to say about that either. Though I see this as a more legit approach since she doesnt have baggage or as much drama as the other two. However shes on the rebound at a wedding, so thats easy pickings given the setting I just think you need to get more grounded in reality. Women with less options chase single dudes. My response wouldnt be so negative had you had a different attitude regarding the married woman. But then again I have to be real with ya buddy and tell ya to get some more quality gals...and leave your housekeeper alone dude. Bad idea there. That's a quite interesting perspective. I sometimes go through phases where I whine that I only get hit on by men in relationships, much older men, players, etc. and nobody I really want to have a relationship with. Should I adopt a more optimistic attitude and just be grateful that I get hit on? I usually end up questioning myself and the reason why I only attract this kind of men.
Author thatone Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 lol @ you feeling all great about a low quality woman hitting on you. 1) a cheating tramp....and you considering sleeping with her makes you look like a douche imo and I wouldnt want to see you whine about getting heart broken in the future with the attitude you had about that. 2) your housekeeper who has a kid...she works for you...so theres not much to say about her motives. But good thing you left that alone because Id wonder about her motives. Plus if it didnt end well, she could be out of a job assignment and she has a kid to support. 3) an on the rebound chick at wedding....not much to say about that either. Though I see this as a more legit approach since she doesnt have baggage or as much drama as the other two. However shes on the rebound at a wedding, so thats easy pickings given the setting I just think you need to get more grounded in reality. Women with less options chase single dudes. My response wouldnt be so negative had you had a different attitude regarding the married woman. But then again I have to be real with ya buddy and tell ya to get some more quality gals...and leave your housekeeper alone dude. Bad idea there. not arguing with you! they are all low quality. the one who wasn't that i approached was married, i just didn't know it at the time. 1) yeah the cheater is gonna be a cheater no matter who she's with, i know that. as i said in your thread i'm not looking for a wife and not ever going to give a woman children so it's not like i have a lot invested here. 2) i haven't openly rejected the housekeeper yet, the problem is i'm doing a bunch of work on my house and when she's here there's always other people around, at the very least the one guy who works on my house full time. so it's kinda bad taste to shoot her down in front of someone else. thankfully to this point every time she's hinted at me going out with her i had legitimate other plans on that day so was able to turn her down lightly, but she is persisting. she's supposed to come by today and there's no one else here now so it'll get done today. 3) yeah the rebound chick at the wedding i would've approached had there been no other people around but i didn't simply due to the same reason as #2, i'm with a large crowd of family the whole night and just happened to meet and talk to her for a few minutes, then let it go. she gave her number to my sister later on, so i wasn't expecting it. no disagreement with reality here, i'm fully content with the fact that i do the approaching when i find women that i actually want. that's all fine and good. but it is a bit of an ego trip to have a string of numbers shoved in my pocket once in a while. That's a quite interesting perspective. I sometimes go through phases where I whine that I only get hit on by men in relationships, much older men, players, etc. and nobody I really want to have a relationship with. Should I adopt a more optimistic attitude and just be grateful that I get hit on? I usually end up questioning myself and the reason why I only attract this kind of men. it's random, you never know who you're going to meet in public. it's this female perspective of control that gets women thinking they can magically attract the men they want by doing something different. but the bottom line is there is no control. you can't control men any more than they can control you. with that in mind there's nothing wrong with approaching men yourself. certain men may be put off by that but one content with his own confidence in himself wouldn't be, i personally think it shows confidence in the woman and kinda like it.
betterdeal Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 why do women approach me all of a sudden? no clue. if i did have a clue i'd write a book and sell it to you all... I suspect it would be a very short book that consists of "be you and turn up"! Whatever it is, you're having a good time, so strap some mistletoe to your belt and enjoy! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GD8AFbD2mmE
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