Love_sick_me Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Hi When my ex and I broke up, we decided that we will come together and talk about our relationship again in two months. That two months is fast approaching. I'm just looking for some advise right now in terms of what I should say and do.
chados Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 yeah why did you break up? its sounds stupid to break up with someone, and then 2 months later youre going to try again?, sounds more like a break to me. she did break up with you?
Author Love_sick_me Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Okay, the main reason why we decided to break up is because of our communication styles. I guess that's the best way to sum it up. We were fighting a lot, in fact we broke up during a fight. We have verbally said to each other that we're still in love with each other. We want to talk about this after two months.
chados Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Okay, the main reason why we decided to break up is because of our communication styles. I guess that's the best way to sum it up. We were fighting a lot, in fact we broke up during a fight. We have verbally said to each other that we're still in love with each other. We want to talk about this after two months. mostly it is lack of communication that makes people break up. this is the most important thing in a relationship. dont ever take the other person for granted. by saying youre wrong. youre saying i dont respect your way of thinking. its better to say, i understand but i dont think thats the only reason were having this argument. of course if they really are wrong i think its okey to stand your ground. in the end its all about respect
Author Love_sick_me Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 mostly it is lack of communication that makes people break up. this is the most important thing in a relationship. dont ever take the other person for granted. by saying youre wrong. youre saying i dont respect your way of thinking. its better to say, i understand but i dont think thats the only reason were having this argument. of course if they really are wrong i think its okey to stand your ground. in the end its all about respect So how should I act during this meeting then? I really want to get back together, but I just don't know where to start.
chados Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 So how should I act during this meeting then? I really want to get back together, but I just don't know where to start. i thinks its a huge difference from person to person. pride is messing you up i guess. you havent giving us that much to go on. just listen to each other. why did you break up? what is keeping you together? dont start arguing. just listen and accept that you two might see different problems in the relationship. dont try to win the argument, instead try to understand why youre having the argument. you should not act weak and not stand up for your beliefs. but if you know youve done something wrong, admit it. by blaming everything on the other person is just weak. theres always two in a relationship.
Author Love_sick_me Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 i thinks its a huge difference from person to person. pride is messing you up i guess. you havent giving us that much to go on. just listen to each other. why did you break up? what is keeping you together? dont start arguing. just listen and accept that you two might see different problems in the relationship. dont try to win the argument, instead try to understand why youre having the argument. you should not act weak and not stand up for your beliefs. but if you know youve done something wrong, admit it. by blaming everything on the other person is just weak. theres always two in a relationship. Thanks. That's really helpful. I'm not really sure if this talk will be us getting back together or we're just talking for the sake of talking because we had previously set a date to meet up. What are the chances of these talk ended up two people getting back together?
chados Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Thanks. That's really helpful. I'm not really sure if this talk will be us getting back together or we're just talking for the sake of talking because we had previously set a date to meet up. What are the chances of these talk ended up two people getting back together? im not gonna argue whether you did break up or not, but to me it feels more like a break. because you arranged a meetup, why would you do that if you dont want to get back together?. if theres still feelings involved, i cant see why you couldnt get back together. its all about playing your cards right. and if both of you really want this. as long as there is feelings and history involved, i believe in the majority of relationships, its easy to reattract a person. whats hard is to keep them. take it slow, and try to not argue. solve your problems, and try to be the person you where in the beginning. cause thats where the attraction starts.
Author Love_sick_me Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 We met up, and we ended up having a lot of sex. We talked about our problems. We expressed that we still love each other, but due to circumstances (distance, school, and our previous problems) he doesn't want to get back together right now. I told him that I would be accommodating and wait for him. He said he wants to get back together when the time is right, but he can't guarantee anything. He hinted that he still wants the sex. I'm willing to do a lot to get him back. I feel like I made a mistake. Should I stop talking to him all together now? im not gonna argue whether you did break up or not, but to me it feels more like a break. because you arranged a meetup, why would you do that if you dont want to get back together?. if theres still feelings involved, i cant see why you couldnt get back together. its all about playing your cards right. and if both of you really want this. as long as there is feelings and history involved, i believe in the majority of relationships, its easy to reattract a person. whats hard is to keep them. take it slow, and try to not argue. solve your problems, and try to be the person you where in the beginning. cause thats where the attraction starts.
Melrapuo Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'd hold off on the sex until he determines what he wants to do. Then you'll just feel used, and thats not a good thing. I'd hold off on anything physical until a decision is made.
luvkitties Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 IMHO, it sounds like he's just using you for a booty call until someone else comes along...sorry.
Author Love_sick_me Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 I still wanna be with him....should I go on NC?
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