minorsecond Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I met this woman on OkCupid about a month ago. Her profile states that she isn't looking for anything serious, but is open to possibilities if there is attraction. She seemed timid about meeting up at first, but agreed to when I told her something like "I know you aren't looking for anything serious at the moment but I feel like we've too much in common to not be, at the least, great friends." The first meet up was just some coffee date, but it went really well. There was definitely chemistry there. We went salsa dancing about two weeks ago and there was even more chemistry there. She brought me a mix tape (er, CD) and got progressively touchier with me throughout the night. I asked her for a rematch at salsa dancing the other night and she agreed at first, but when I called to confirm two days ago she informed me that she'll not be able to make it because she has to attend graduation parties for friends all weekend. I've no reason to doubt this and I don't. I asked her when she'll be available (she's working out of town for a while), and she told me around three weeks. I then told her to let me know when she's free and we'll figure something out. I hung up the phone feeling pretty confident about the situation and not worrying at all. However, I'm now questioning everything. I know that I really shouldn't even worry since I already acknowledged that she isn't looking for anything other than friendship, but she seems awesome. I've got other girls that I'm seeing but this one is my favorite. I'll just put my worries in list form: Should I even entertain the idea of a romantic relationship?I feel like I should contact her a few times over the next few weeks, but I don't know how/what to say.What if she is just trying to let me down easily? How could I tell? About #2: I know I should keep contact with her, but I feel like I'm being needy by doing so. I have trouble coming up with a reason for making contact, even though we do have quite a bit in common. Any ideas? As always, thank you very much for taking the time to read and respond!!!
Author minorsecond Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 Hmmm. I went to stalk her profile but unfortunately it has been deleted. I suppose this doesn't bode well for me. :/
ditzchic Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 If she likes you, you don't need to come up with a reason to contact her. Just drop her a text saying hi, that you're thinking about her and hoping she's doing well. If she ignores you, you have your answer. It's not that complicated. If a girl likes you you can talk to her. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and take that step and see if it works out.
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