Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 The answer to the OP is "zero importance". When I meet a woman in real life, I have no clue how old she is. Why would it be any different online? I think this is another example of why women love online dating: it gives them more things to freak out about that don't matter and don't mean anything. Well it does matter. How a man feels about a woman's age gives a woman a clue about how that man thinks of women. What do you think is better for any woman, from 18+, a man that is 27+ looking to date 18 year olds or women younger then his own age? Or a man that doesn't care about a woman's age? What do you think bodes better for a woman?
xxoo Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 It makes sense to me that men would be attracted to women up through his own age, finding older women attractive as he ages with them.
Eeyore79 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 One thing that always creeped me out was when a 30+ year old man would have an age range minimum of 18. I do not want to be with a man that would date an 18 year old girl. Eww, I agree totally. A guy of 30 who wants to date 18yo girls is just looking for a piece of tail, not a committed relationship. If a guy finds hotness to be more important than compatibility and love, then he really isn't mature enough for commitment, and he isn't mature enough for me. I will say however, that if a guy meets a woman he's compatible with and she just so happens to be younger, then that's ok and non-creepy, because his focus is primarily on compatibility. But focusing on youth and hotness ahead of everything else is creepy and totally shallow. When I meet a woman in real life, I have no clue how old she is. Why would it be any different online? I think people can sometimes be excessively picky online. They judge others on very strict criteria, and if they met those people in real life they might actually like them. On the other hand, it's easier to find out about deal-breakers online, because the key things are listed in the person's profile. I suppose what I mean is, it's easier to be too strict online, and things that might not be deal-breakers in the real world suddenly become deal-breakers online. So by all means use that profile info to identify deal-breakers, but try not to become too strict about what actually constitutes a deal-breaker! The guy changed it now from -12/-1 to -7/+2 to -5/+5 I guess that means "Uh-oh, I'm obviously turning off the young hot chicks by openly displaying my shallowness. I'd better adjust my profile so it looks less shallow, even though my real preferences will remain the same. That way I can trick the hot young chicks into thinking I'm actually a cool guy who's open to a mature relationship with a lady of my own age, and they won't realize what an ******* I really am". In other words, I greatly doubt if this guy has genuinely changed his preferences. He just took your feedback seriously and changed his profile to appear less creepy to the next hot young chick he hits on.
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