evlauate my first date with her!

[prosense]

Hi, there. She and I got to know each other thru the volunteering activity that I organized. I found her quite attractive, down to earth and funny so asked her out.

 

Yester night, we met at this mall near our houses (we live very close to each other). We went upstairs to this small coffee shop where we had tea and coffee. The conversation had its awkward moments, but not too uncomfortable tho. We had good laughs.

 

Then, we went to this arcade in the same building and played about 30 mins. It was a lot of fun! We both tried this shooting game with bb guns and I got an award; a toy. I gave it to her

 

After the arcade, I asked her if she needs to go home (it was around 9:30pm) to which she said no, so I suggested we go drinking. There, we ran into her co-workers at the bar.. (fickle finger of fate.. ) she introduced me to them.. We sat at a different table and after 5 mins they left. So we started to drink bottle beer and had a good conversation for the next 2 and a half hours at the same table.

 

At one point, we both almost emptied our bottles and I needed go to the bathroom. Upon my return, I realized she ordered another beers for both her and me. I take it she wanted to stay longer with me I felt good-

 

 

We talked about this and that.. had several moments of "eye-rolling" and awkward silence.. but mostly she did the talking. we laughed a lot, I'd say

 

Then, after the bar, I asked if I could walk her home to which she said yes. It was cold out so I took off my gloves and offered them. She put them on.

 

Finally, we arrived at her building. She took off my gloves and said she had a nice time and thanked for me picking up the tabs. And she added, see you Sunday (since our volunteering is on every sundays) And I said no prob and good nite.

 

The whole time she was never touchy touchy.. well neither was I. I did not breach into her personal space.... I always tend to play safe when it come to a first date.. then when departing, she seemed a bit hasty... it sorta bothered me.

 

Then again, I wasn't really expecting a hug or a kiss....

 

Anyhow, what do you guys think? Do you think it went well?

 

Ohh...also, I would like to ask if I should call her or text her and say I had a great time... also she sorta said "See you on Sunday" at the end of the night.... I guess I can ask her out again at the end of the volunteering since we will probably take the same bus home.

 

Thanks!

Edited December 10, 2011 by prosense

[Pizzaman81]

Sounded like it went well. Usually first dates shouldn't be all touchy feely.

 

Did you get a sense of flirting from her? The fact that she took your gloves and wanted you to walk her home is a positive sign. The most important thing is you were yourself right?

 

Don't text or call her. Just talk about it and said you had a good time when you see her Sunday.

 

Good luck buddy!

[Andy_K]

I've never had a second date that didn't involve at least a kiss on the first date.

[lululucy]

I've never had a second date that didn't involve at least a kiss on the first date.

 

 

I've had several. Everyone's different.

[PhillyDude]

Hi, there. She and I got to know each other thru the volunteering activity that I organized. I found her quite attractive, down to earth and funny so asked her out.

 

Yester night, we met at this mall near our houses (we live very close to each other). We went upstairs to this small coffee shop where we had tea and coffee. The conversation had its awkward moments, but not too uncomfortable tho. We had good laughs.

 

Then, we went to this arcade in the same building and played about 30 mins. It was a lot of fun! We both tried this shooting game with bb guns and I got an award; a toy. I gave it to her

 

After the arcade, I asked her if she needs to go home (it was around 9:30pm) to which she said no, so I suggested we go drinking. There, we ran into her co-workers at the bar.. (fickle finger of fate.. ) she introduced me to them.. We sat at a different table and after 5 mins they left. So we started to drink bottle beer and had a good conversation for the next 2 and a half hours at the same table.

 

At one point, we both almost emptied our bottles and I needed go to the bathroom. Upon my return, I realized she ordered another beers for both her and me. I take it she wanted to stay longer with me I felt good-

 

 

We talked about this and that.. had several moments of "eye-rolling" and awkward silence.. but mostly she did the talking. we laughed a lot, I'd say

 

Then, after the bar, I asked if I could walk her home to which she said yes. It was cold out so I took off my gloves and offered them. She put them on.

 

Finally, we arrived at her building. She took off my gloves and said she had a nice time and thanked for me picking up the tabs. And she added, see you Sunday (since our volunteering is on every sundays) And I said no prob and good nite.

 

The whole time she was never touchy touchy.. well neither was I. I did not breach into her personal space.... I always tend to play safe when it come to a first date.. then when departing, she seemed a bit hasty... it sorta bothered me.

 

Then again, I wasn't really expecting a hug or a kiss....

 

Anyhow, what do you guys think? Do you think it went well?

 

Ohh...also, I would like to ask if I should call her or text her and say I had a great time... also she sorta said "See you on Sunday" at the end of the night.... I guess I can ask her out again at the end of the volunteering since we will probably take the same bus home.

 

Thanks!

 

 

I'm a shy guy but I will say that every date I have been on I have always ended it with a HUG. Now I never ended a 1st date with a kiss because of my shyness but defintelty a hug. Not a good sign that your date ended with no hug.

[ditzchic]

I have to say, even on horrible dates where I had no interest in seeing the guy again, I've always at least given the one armed 'thanks buddy' hug.

 

It could be that this girl is just really shy. Everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to touch. I would play it by ear and see what happens when you see her on Sunday. If she seems to be avoiding you, you have your answer.

[jobaba]

Hi, there. She and I got to know each other thru the volunteering activity that I organized. I found her quite attractive, down to earth and funny so asked her out.

 

Yester night, we met at this mall near our houses (we live very close to each other). We went upstairs to this small coffee shop where we had tea and coffee. The conversation had its awkward moments, but not too uncomfortable tho. We had good laughs.

 

Then, we went to this arcade in the same building and played about 30 mins. It was a lot of fun! We both tried this shooting game with bb guns and I got an award; a toy. I gave it to her

 

After the arcade, I asked her if she needs to go home (it was around 9:30pm) to which she said no, so I suggested we go drinking. There, we ran into her co-workers at the bar.. (fickle finger of fate.. ) she introduced me to them.. We sat at a different table and after 5 mins they left. So we started to drink bottle beer and had a good conversation for the next 2 and a half hours at the same table.

 

At one point, we both almost emptied our bottles and I needed go to the bathroom. Upon my return, I realized she ordered another beers for both her and me. I take it she wanted to stay longer with me I felt good-

 

 

We talked about this and that.. had several moments of "eye-rolling" and awkward silence.. but mostly she did the talking. we laughed a lot, I'd say

 

Then, after the bar, I asked if I could walk her home to which she said yes. It was cold out so I took off my gloves and offered them. She put them on.

 

Finally, we arrived at her building. She took off my gloves and said she had a nice time and thanked for me picking up the tabs. And she added, see you Sunday (since our volunteering is on every sundays) And I said no prob and good nite.

 

The whole time she was never touchy touchy.. well neither was I. I did not breach into her personal space.... I always tend to play safe when it come to a first date.. then when departing, she seemed a bit hasty... it sorta bothered me.

 

Then again, I wasn't really expecting a hug or a kiss....

 

Anyhow, what do you guys think? Do you think it went well?

 

Ohh...also, I would like to ask if I should call her or text her and say I had a great time... also she sorta said "See you on Sunday" at the end of the night.... I guess I can ask her out again at the end of the volunteering since we will probably take the same bus home.

 

Thanks!

 

Not expecting a hug?

 

You sound a little too passive. I give hugs to women I've exchanged a few words with.

 

The locale and events are not the way I would have played things at all. I would have tried to be way more mack daddy.

 

All in all, I'd say things went well. But you're way too timid and nice. I think you have to be way more aggressive and bold. Then again, perhaps that attitude has cost me with some women. Doubt it though...

[Michael930t]

It sounds like the date went well and the fact that she extended the date by going drinking, ordering additional drinks and having you walk her home tells me she was probably interested...

 

Couple questions--Did you guys flirt? Did this feel like a date or two people hanging out? Did you discuss being single and dating? Why didnt you at least hug her at the end of the date? I always hug and since your close see why HER body language is at that point. If she stays close and gives you the "kiss me eyes" then you know its time for a kiss...If she pulls away then you know its not going to happen..