Sugarkane Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 This happened a while ago, but I still can't understand WHY someone would do it. He dumped me coz he "wanted to be single". Months later he asks me back. Says we can go for coffee. Begs me to come over, mind you late at night. I said no I'm not a booty call. He knew I wanted more than that. Day comes and we're supposed to meet. Then he stands me up. And then he verbally abuses menu text and calls me a nutjob? I would NEVER do that to someone. Do some people have no conscience at all?
smudge21 Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 Sounds like he wanted an ego boost, you didn't give him one because you didn't jump at his every word, so he came out of this more bruised then he went in. Sounds like you're better off out of that one as until he deals with his own issues he's not in a good place to share someone elses.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 This happened a while ago, but I still can't understand WHY someone would do it. He dumped me coz he "wanted to be single". Months later he asks me back. Says we can go for coffee. Begs me to come over, mind you late at night. I said no I'm not a booty call. He knew I wanted more than that. Day comes and we're supposed to meet. Then he stands me up. And then he verbally abuses menu text and calls me a nutjob? I would NEVER do that to someone. Do some people have no conscience at all? Don't waist your time with this one. He realized that being single sucked and he was a fool to stop seeing you.
shayla Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I have learned that no, some people have no conscience and no heart at all. You don't fall for being manipulated, but you are the one with the problem? Ha, that's so typical.
ScienceGal Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I hope that this behavior can help you in some small way by reconfirming that he does not posess the traits of a good partner. While it hurts to say no to him, you're better than that. You're not a booty call and you would feel so much worse had you given in to him. And you speculate about the "why", but you can never know for sure. And, it doesn't matter because nothing about it made it a good situation for you.
ScienceGal Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 females who complain that males desire first date sex. a male does what she wishes and is dumped for not having first date sex. females want their cake and to eat it to. It's not first date sex. It's her ex trying to get a booty call after leaving the relationship, after breaking her heart. It's selfish and insincere.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 Sugarkane, sounds like you made the right choice. Cliche but better you see his true colors now then later. He is the one that sounds like a nutjob for expecting you to hop in bed with him and when you don't, verbally abuses you. I don't know if it's that people have no conscience but some people think more about themselves then others. Even people they are in relationships with.
shayla Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 From the many threads I've read here, cake eating is not gender specific.
Author Sugarkane Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 I realize now I probably should've gone to the police for harassment, after these various abusive texts. I'm sick to death of doing the right thing, despite being the dumpee almost everytime. If this was the dumper, I'm sure they would've tried to take some action.
sweetheart5381 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I realize now I probably should've gone to the police for harassment, after these various abusive texts. I'm sick to death of doing the right thing, despite being the dumpee almost everytime. If this was the dumper, I'm sure they would've tried to take some action. Let the **** go and move on. He's not worth your time. Real men don't do this stuff. You want a real man, right? Then take out the trash. It may take some time, but the good ones are out there. Good for you for sticking to your guns and telling him no. Let him pout. Looks good on him. If he continues to bother you, have a few friends "visit" him that will make it clear that you are not interested. He'll go away.
Tinie Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Ha! He's such an idiot. Obvs he took a few hits to that overbloated ego of his. Nice job!
dasein Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 He broke up with you... no harm no foul there. He asked you back later... still nothing wrong with that. Then he goes off on you after standing you up? He did you a backhanded favor and spared your precious time by his bad behavior. Good luck moving on to better options.
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