stunned8165 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Here's the deal here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309568/ But the call was Monday, now it's Friday and she hasn't sent the check for the movie as mentioned in the above link. It only takes one day for a letter to get here from where she lives. 5 minutes away!.. Is she holding it as an excuse to call me again to tell me she hasn't forgotten?... I don't get it. She broke NC after months just to tell me more bull? Hmmmmmmmm.. I wonder what the deal is.
BoredAgain Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 How much was the check for? $10? Let it go. Call the company yourself and make sure you card doesn't get charged again.
Lowib Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 Hey man, I know what you are going through. I myself am going through the exact same thing. Just forget about the movie. It doesn't matter. You don't want her to contact you anyways. You want to move on. Just pray the kids turn out normal and move on.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 BoredAgain Lowib, believe me. I could care less about the movie or the money. She KNOWS I could care less because it's for the kids. But why contact me about it, say you are going to send it and then don't.? in my eyes, or hopefully why? Probably because I WANT her to realize she screwed up. I want CONFIRMATION that she is missing me now and realizes she made a mistake. As bad as it sounds, it sure would help me along with forgetting about her. The kids are another thing but it sure will help me get over the anger of being done so wrong. I'm actually angry for what she did to me AND those kids STILL. .. I guess you can say I want satisfaction.. But I'm willing to bet she uses NOT sending it yet as an excuse to call again. Maybe NOT after the way I basically shut her down and wouldn't engage in a friendly conversation with her.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 But I'm willing to bet she uses NOT sending it yet as an excuse to call again. Maybe NOT after the way I basically shut her down and wouldn't engage in a friendly conversation with her. This IS why shes not sending it. She wants the ego boost of you needing her for something. You didnt give her that on the phone, and shes going to try this way. She might continue to find ways to call to find out that you need her. You really have to cut this off. If she keeps trying and you cave, well, she won. Forget about the money, and dont answer any more of her calls. So make yourself not NEED to wait for that check. Close the door once and for all.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Can't you see how bad your obsession with this woman is? Its 6 months since she left and you have gotten nuts over something so small. No offence mate but who cares! Why can't you get this! It doesnt matter if she is unhappy, doesnt matter why she bought the movie or why she broke NC. IT DOESNT MATTER. You need to COMPLETELY disconnect from this woman. Maybe in time you can organise visitation with the kids, but you can only do that after you have 110% emotionally disconnected from this 'woman'. You can only do this when you can look at her and feel no regret, sadness, anger, etc etc. Just indifference. This woman WILL NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY! Yet I get the impression (even after everything she said/did) if she wanted you back (gave you the usual I made a mistake b@ll*****) you would take her back. The problem is YOU stunned. That is the point you are missing. You obsess over her, because you seem incapable of dealing/facing with your own demons. Instead of trying to figure out why you ever got involved with someone so messed up, you stay in your world of obession with her. It's not getting better. Its getting worse.. You are wasting your life with this obsession. Any little thing has you in a panic and posting here. What good do you think this is doing? You are a MASSIVE mess and you don't seem to want to do anything about it. I feel really sorry for you. You are determined to go down a road of self destruction. I understand you invested alot but you need to start the process of disconnecting. Otherwise you will end of sad, lonely and bitter with nothing to show for your life. Is that what you want? Because with your continued obession, that is the road you are currently travelling on. I can see you heading towards the trainwreck but because the advice you receive goes in one ear and out the next you can't see the danger you are in. You are in big trouble, headig towards disaster....Mark my words. If this obession continues, bit by bit your will lose everything else remaining in your life until you are sad, alone and bitter...Sadly no one can help you but you are you are determined to head towards personal self destruction..I wish you well. U more then anyone I have read on this site, needs it..Trust me.. I wouldn't say I was wasting my life. You don't know that. I go out on dates, I have a ton of family, an army of friends, my hobbies, ride my motorcycle and actually have a date tonight. I don't sit hpme and pine or anything like that. I have a recently new female roomate (good friends only with NO benefits). I go to the gym etc... I will say I'm still pretty angry for what she did to me and the kids. Maybe I just want to see that it failed for her. A revenge thing right now. But that will fade too. But only in MY time. Not anyone elses... It's all good dude. Really, it is. I'm smiling, I'm busy usually, and I have a good life. I'm a good man that is stable, and has a lot to offer to someone who appreciates it.
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