xpaperxcutx Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 but the process of moving towards commitment. I don't think I have ever felt so frightened of dating before- the fact that one has to seek out the opportunities to meet and establish a connection, and all the minor details that involve getting to know each other. Just thinking about it is mind numbing. Has anyone ever felt like this? I feel like the more I think about going on a date, the more fearful I am of the whole thing. Not that I'm socially challenged or awkward at meeting anyone, I feel like I don't have the time to necessarily want to put myself out there and wasting my time. Of which I recently have so little of. Also, I have never found dating so hard until now. It seems there aren't as many eligible dateable people as there'd been 5 years ago, and most everyone I've met, I'm either not attracted to, or they're looking to meet and fill up on a quota. I know the current trend nowadays is to play games ( a power play over who gets the upperhand) but is there any other way of actually meeting someone without all the bull****?
Nexus One Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I know the current trend nowadays is to play games ( a power play over who gets the upperhand) but is there any other way of actually meeting someone without all the bull****? Yes, you'd have to look for genuine personalities that don't play games. Just generally someone you mesh well with, someone that understands you on a remarkable level and someone you understand on a remarkable level. A remarkable level of understanding grows a connection/bond. A connection/bond is one of the strongest factors of attraction besides looks, personality and intelligence. (in my opinion) Meeting someone like that can either happen by chance, by finding yourself in the right social situation or you'd have to date people and sift through quite some of them until you find one that meshes well with you.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 but the process of moving towards commitment. I don't think I have ever felt so frightened of dating before- the fact that one has to seek out the opportunities to meet and establish a connection, and all the minor details that involve getting to know each other. Just thinking about it is mind numbing. Has anyone ever felt like this? I feel like the more I think about going on a date, the more fearful I am of the whole thing. Not that I'm socially challenged or awkward at meeting anyone, I feel like I don't have the time to necessarily want to put myself out there and wasting my time. Of which I recently have so little of. Also, I have never found dating so hard until now. It seems there aren't as many eligible dateable people as there'd been 5 years ago, and most everyone I've met, I'm either not attracted to, or they're looking to meet and fill up on a quota. I know the current trend nowadays is to play games ( a power play over who gets the upperhand) but is there any other way of actually meeting someone without all the bull****? Hey! It's papercut! Remember me? It's good to see some of the oldies still posting here. Well, everytime I thought I settle down, and end up ending a relationship... the thought of dating again, and going through that whole ordeal is frustrating. I mean, I love meeting new people, but still... dating put me on the up and downs in emotions. I just ended by 4th relationship and yes, I find it harder to date now... I think maybe because you start to look for all the positives of your previous partners and try to find the person that has all those qualities and none of the bad ones. I don't know... I'm just pushing forward. Don't give up!
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