DearAbby Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I hear so many stories and I read them too about people who saw a woman across the room and told someone: "I am going to marry that girl." Only to go on and marry her and have a family and be together for years. Does this really happen? LOL And also, Does this only happen because said guy has said this 100 times before about 100 other women? Is there love at first sight? How many minutes into a blind date do you start to say hmmm?? Discuss.
musemaj11 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 How old are you Abby? Your threads make me think that you are not an adult yet.
quankanne Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I don't know if I'd call it love at first sight, but I do believe you instinctively know who a good mate will be ... I wanted nothing to do with marriage, but when I first met Mr. Q, I could see us way down the line, hanging out together as old folks and caring for each other. To me, that didn't translate into a marriage situation, just someone I knew I could happily have in my life all those years later, right? when he proposed marriage after two years of a long-distance relationship, I knew, because of that sure feeling I had about him as a person ...
Cee Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I have thought that my boyfriend of 11 months is the man I will marry. But it didn't happen right away. I had to learn to trust him and believe that we had potential. On a date, I had a sudden flash that he's the one. It happened about a month into dating. There is so much uncertainty in life that I am not going to bet the farm on us getting married. But I have never in my life felt this way about someone - not even my ex-husband.
Jessica45 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I saw the guy across the room and it dang near knocked me off my feet it was such a shock. All I could think was "That's the guy I'm going to marry!". We had never met and I knew nothing about him. But I KNEW without a shadow of a doubt that he was mine. We were married for 18 years before he passed away. While browsing through Match profiles last year, I was struck by a picture of a man. The recognition was not the same strength as with my late husband but the feeling of "there he is" was very strong. When we met, I was once again knocked off my feet. We've been dating for a year now and I'm sure he's the one for me. I've never had that feeling of recognition with anyone else beside those two men. I very much believe in love at first sight.
Author DearAbby Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 I saw the guy across the room and it dang near knocked me off my feet it was such a shock. All I could think was "That's the guy I'm going to marry!". We had never met and I knew nothing about him. But I KNEW without a shadow of a doubt that he was mine. We were married for 18 years before he passed away. While browsing through Match profiles last year, I was struck by a picture of a man. The recognition was not the same strength as with my late husband but the feeling of "there he is" was very strong. When we met, I was once again knocked off my feet. We've been dating for a year now and I'm sure he's the one for me. I've never had that feeling of recognition with anyone else beside those two men. I very much believe in love at first sight. That's amazing. Congratulations.
forms Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 My grandfather always said that he was driving down the street and saw my grandmother and knew, bam, she'd be his wife. She was for 60+ years and it was a good marriage. I had the opposite experience. I once saw a guy across the room and thought, "Stay away from him, he's trouble." He started pursuing me a few weeks later and was nice and fun and interesting and I had a good time and we moved in together and later married and had 3 kids and were together 14 years. And you know what? He WAS trouble. After the first flush of romance, the trouble creeped in, got worse and never went away. Except for my kids, I really regret the relationship.
grkBoy Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I never "knew". I had notions about women I was with...but when the RL fell apart then I realized I was wrong. With my fiance, I didn't just "know". I more or less dated her for a few years and saw she's genuine...not a flake, shallow princesses, psycho, etc. She was the real deal and wasn't going to play games or make me miserable. So I "put a ring on it".
thehead Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I felt that way about my last gf but realized it about 5 months into the relationship. It wasn't instantaneous. But I made mistakes and now she's "the one that got away."
Soxfaninfl Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I hear so many stories and I read them too about people who saw a woman across the room and told someone: "I am going to marry that girl." Only to go on and marry her and have a family and be together for years. Does this really happen? LOL And also, Does this only happen because said guy has said this 100 times before about 100 other women? Is there love at first sight? How many minutes into a blind date do you start to say hmmm?? Discuss. I said that about my ex-wife. We were married for 11 years, but she left me.
Jessica45 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 As I said, I do believe in love at first sight and soul mates. What confuses me is: can there be more than one? My late husband was my soul mate. No doubt about it. So how can I have fallen in love again? I can't say that my current SO is my soul mate, but there was definitely that instant "he's the one". Not as strong as my late husband, but still that instant connection and certain knowledge that this was it. What's really weird is that "recognition" started based on a picture alone. How freaky is that? So confused.
somedude81 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 It's absolutely retarded for a man to get that feeling. He sees a woman, "Oh my God, I'm going to marry her." He approaches her. "Miss, you are amazing, I want to take you out to dinner." "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm not interested."
allina Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I had a really intense interest and connection to my husband right away. While I didn't think marriage/family back then I did have that "this is it" feeling. I can't tell you if it was just infatuation but we've been together for 5+ years and I'm absolutely smitten with him
melodymatters Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I had two intense " across a crowded room experiences". While there was enough chemistry to begin with, on both sides, there was NOT enough compatibility to last more than a few months. The relationships that became really special, there was a "I like and trust this guy for some reason, and he's kinds cute too" feeling. It was a sense of " getting each other" within the first date, but I would not call it love at first sight.
dasein Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 When a man professes feelings like that it's either: 1. A player trick or 2. A sign of naivete, inexperience and extremely poor judgment. It's the equivalent of going to the track and betting one's life savings on the first horse one sees because "that one is the one." LOL
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 I have never had that. Or rather I did once and it was the most painful unrequited crush ever - so I don't really trust that feeling. With my current bf, I did think "He is cute and he makes me feel like I can talk to him forever".
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