Irresistable Traits in Men

[LittleTiger]

I thought this article from Yahoo Personals might be interesting to all you LS guys looking for a girl. No doubt there will be some ladies here who disagree or have other priorities (we're all different after all) but there are so many guys on here who seem to have zero understanding about women, I figured it couldn't hurt to post it.

 

In my mind the article is spot on, but I'd be interested to hear what other LS ladies think.

 

5 Things We Can't Resist About Men

 

There are some male qualities that women the world over agree are super-hot - and we’re not just talking about washboard abs...

 

1. His scent

Ever wondered why you like to snuggle in the nook of his armpit so much? Well here’s the (slightly gross) answer. According to research conducted by Monell Chemical Senses Centre in Philadelphia, Women are attracted to the smell of a man’s armpit sweat because underarm sweat contains a complex compound of odourless pheromones that subconsciously affect us. Charles Wysocki, a behavioural neuroscientist at the Centre explains, “Women are more attuned to underarm stink because the biological data it contains helps them choose a mate. Most women are even better at smelling male body odour than female body odours.” Nice!

 

2. His body language

Whether it’s the way he carries himself, the manner in which he casually brushes his hand through is hair, or just the way he walks, us women are pre-programmed to notice. According to Linda Blair, clinical psychologist and author of Straight Talking “It takes only seven seconds for us to judge another person when we first meet them,” To us, a man who walks tall and is comfortable in his own skin translates as a man who is self-confident – and that’s a hugely attractive trait. Judi James, author of The Body Language Bible, explains “Judging other people in the first few seconds of meeting them is part of our survival response. We’re looking primarily to see if we should feel threatened, but we also make several assumptions about attraction and personality.”

 

3. His shape

While we’re not necessarily looking for a muscle-bound hunk, there’s something primal about our attraction to his physical form. Whether he’s gym honed or not, if he looks fit and as though he looks after himself, this lets us know that health and well-being are among his priorities – and that’s a massive turn on. Especially when we’ve got mating on our minds. In general, most women are also predisposed to liking someone who is physically bigger than they are with broader shoulders and taller in height. This is probably residual hardwiring from our days as cavewomen when we looked to men as protectors and hunter-gatherers.

 

4. His sense of humour

A recent study by Northumbria University showed that women use humour as an indication of a guy's intelligence which goes some way to explaining the enormous popularity of “GSOH” as a dating requirement for so many women’s dating profiles. "Intelligence is a very attractive quality as a clever man should be more able to provide resources for his offspring.” Explains Kristofor McCarty who led the study. But gentlemen be warned, while we like a man who can make us laugh, a cruel wit that makes jokes at the expense of others or denigrates and puts us down is not something we find attractive.

 

5. His ambitious streak

We’re attracted to men with a drive to succeed for many reasons. Firstly it shows he’s passionate about something and while it may not be you (yet), it’s a sign that he’s capable of commitment. A strong work ethic demonstrates a sense of responsibility – another positive indication for selecting a life partner. Ambition also reveals a healthy sense of get-up-and go. It shows that he’s not content just hanging out with his mates down the pub and that he aspires towards something more - the desire to make things happen and improve his life. There isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t find that attractive.

 

Edit: Spelt irresistible wrong but you can't change the title!

Edited December 9, 2011 by LittleTiger

[xxoo]

1. His scent

Ever wondered why you like to snuggle in the nook of his armpit so much? Well here’s the (slightly gross) answer. According to research conducted by Monell Chemical Senses Centre in Philadelphia, Women are attracted to the smell of a man’s armpit sweat because underarm sweat contains a complex compound of odourless pheromones that subconsciously affect us. Charles Wysocki, a behavioural neuroscientist at the Centre explains, “Women are more attuned to underarm stink because the biological data it contains helps them choose a mate. Most women are even better at smelling male body odour than female body odours.” Nice!

 

Mmmmm....yes. #1 is right, for certain!

[DearAbby]

Works out: Doesn't have to have sick body but makes it a priority and isn't lazy.

 

Personality: Do not care how good looking you are. If your personality sucks, I probably won't want to see you again.

 

Good social skills: How would you behave if I put you in front of my boss and colleagues?

 

Good manners: Are you opening doors for me? Being gracious.

 

Generous: I am not saying that you buy me things but you are a sport.

 

Dresses well: Not expensive. Just well. Your clothes are clean and ironed. Any guy would look great in a long sleeve button down any brand, nice fitting jeans any brand, and a pair of loafers on a date.

 

Confidence: Confidence is key. If you don't have it, fake it. Stand tall.

 

Success: You don't need to be rich just be passionate about something

 

Genuine: Don't lie to me about stupid things - I am smart and I know when you're lying. I may not confront you, but I know.

 

Family values: Love your mom and sister and treat me like you would want someone to treat your sister.

 

Smell good: Yes, you really should go that extra mile and buy cologne. Yes - your natural scent is wonderful but you would smell better with a spritz of Tom Ford- you really would-

 

Drive a decent car: No, I dont mean a fancy expensive one. I mean a clean one in relatively good shape. Always keep your car clean and wash it before dates. Girls do notice.

[lululucy]

#1 for sure. Not even just pheromones but cologne/deodorant too. My boyfriend challenged me to find his cologne amongst the wall of them owned by his roommate (I'm talking 30+, shesh) and was shocked when I did it without hesitation. Catching glimpses of his scent on my clothes when I'm home makes my heart race. Scent is a huge one.

 

2 and 3 yes as well. 4 seems iffy to me as it's not like guys I've dated have been comedians, though we've usually had the same sense of humour. I don't think it would last long between me and someone who wouldn't watch tosh.0 or Louis CK. It seems they're counting intelligence under humour.. intelligence is a big turn on for me.

 

As for 5, I just want him to have an idea of what he wants out of life and a plan to get there. I suppose that is ambition. I couldn't date someone who was happy to work at McDonalds his whole life (and before anyone says WELL AT LEAST IT'S A JOB, the debt crisis hasn't been anywhere near as bad here in Canada and there are plenty of other jobs).

[ThaWholigan]

I expected a list like this. These are all things that can be cultivated by most guys really. They are particularly attractive traits, especially from a mental and psychological aspect they can improve your life tenfold. This is something we should be working towards to better ourselves rather than just for dating.

 

I'd rather work on these things than bitch that I can't do it because it won't work.

[Oxy Moronovich]

Dear Abby's reply is exactly the reason why so many guys don't bother to figure out what attractive qualities women look for in men. Women have a laundry list of needs and demands from men. Women don't have only 5 things they want from men. They have closer to a 100.

 

The best thing a man can have is a sense of humor that makes her laugh.

[azsinglegal]

#1 for me is sense of humour.

 

Then:

 

2) Love of animals (I have 2 dogs)

3) Normal body scent

4) Confidence (not arrogance)

5) Passion for life/motivation

6) Health

7) Stability (can he support himself or will he need my help - I don't need him to support me tho)

8) Interest in my well being - and his own (mental/physical/spiritual)

9) Supportiveness of our individuality

10) Independent and not codependent

[musemaj11]

Money, money, money.

 

They try to go around it saying bullcrap stuff like they want someone with ambition, someone who is passionate about something, yada, yada, yada.

 

But it all comes down to is all about money, money, money.

[lululucy]

Dear Abby's reply is exactly the reason why so many guys don't bother to figure out what attractive qualities women look for in men. Women have a laundry list of needs and demands from men. Women don't have only 5 things they want from men. They have closer to a 100...

 

I don't think that's true of all women. I've always just looked for someone who I'm attracted to (which has meant between 5'7 and 6'3, thin to body builder to pudgy, blond to brown hair to rasta dreadlocks) who I like being around and who makes me happy. And doesn't ask me for a loan.

[azsinglegal]

Money, money, money.

 

They try to go around it saying bullcrap stuff like they want someone with ambition, someone who is passionate about something, yada, yada, yada.

 

But it all comes down to is all about money, money, money.

 

Not for me. I've never been about money or rich guys. I've also never dated one or had a man spend his money on me. I've supported myself for my entire life. I've never asked a man to buy me anything or expected him to buy me anything. I've never received a single piece of jewelry from a man for a gift, ever...if I want something, I buy it myself.

 

I simply do not understand the "money money money" thing.

 

Then again...the types of men who have money aren't looking for the type of woman that I am either. I'll never be arm candy or high maintenance. I'm just too down to earth for that.

[lululucy]

Not for me. I've never been about money or rich guys. I've also never dated one or had a man spend his money on me. I've supported myself for my entire life. I've never asked a man to buy me anything or expected him to buy me anything. I've never received a single piece of jewelry from a man for a gift, ever...if I want something, I buy it myself.

 

I simply do not understand the "money money money" thing.

 

Then again...the types of men who have money aren't looking for the type of woman that I am either. I'll never be arm candy or high maintenance. I'm just too down to earth for that.

 

Ditto. The only money expectation I have is that he isn't going to leech off me -- I made the mistake of frequently lending my ex money (we lived together so it wasn't easy to say no) and all the promises of I'll pay you back dissipated not long after we broke up. I still get the "here's fifty bucks, what do I owe you now?" shpeal every once and a while but there's no way I'm ever putting myself in that situation again.

 

Hell, my bf now is broke (buying a house) and we just hang out, watch movies and have fun without money.

[azsinglegal]

Ditto. The only money expectation I have is that he isn't going to leech off me -- I made the mistake of frequently lending my ex money (we lived together so it wasn't easy to say no) and all the promises of I'll pay you back dissipated not long after we broke up. I still get the "here's fifty bucks, what do I owe you now?" shpeal every once and a while but there's no way I'm ever putting myself in that situation again.

 

Hell, my bf now is broke (buying a house) and we just hang out, watch movies and have fun without money.

 

It's funny how much I have in common with some of the women on here.

 

^^ Ditto on the exact same situations.

[musemaj11]

Then again...the types of men who have money aren't looking for the type of woman that I am either. I'll never be arm candy or high maintenance. I'm just too down to earth for that.

Then would it be wrong for one to assume that the reason you are not a 'gold digger' is simply because you dont have what it takes to be one in the first place?

[snug.bunny]

Number 1. Most definitely... A certain cologne or just his natural scent, is quite titillating!

 

Number 2. Check! A woman can be drawn to a man just by the way he stands/moves/interacts/his posture/etc.

 

Number 3. Check check! But, it doesn’t necessarily have to be his physical fitness level, it can be anything from his hands to his arms to his feet.

 

Number 4. Personally speaking, I was once only attracted to a particular sense of humor, but, that has changed over the years whereas I’ve found other types of humor sexy.

 

Number 5. Ambition is respectable, though some enjoy a good loaf of bread just the same.

[azsinglegal]

Then would it be wrong for one to assume that the reason you are not a 'gold digger' is simply because you dont have what it takes to be one in the first place?

 

Honestly...I'm not into money because I don't want to ever feel like someone "owns" me because they either give me money or support me financially.

 

I do have what it takes to be a "gold digger" if I want a 60 yr old man.

[snug.bunny]

Gold-Digger, Gold-Smigger....

 

I am supporting my Dad financially who is dating what could be qualified as a "gold-digger". He just hadddddddddd to date a woman 20 years younger than him, 5-10 years younger was too "old" for him. I am happy to help my Dad financially in his older years, because well, he is my father. But, something about this set-up, just doesn't seem right.

[missed_theboat]

#1 for me is sense of humour.

 

Then:

 

2) Love of animals (I have 2 dogs)

3) Normal body scent

4) Confidence (not arrogance)

5) Passion for life/motivation

6) Health

7) Stability (can he support himself or will he need my help - I don't need him to support me tho)

8) Interest in my well being - and his own (mental/physical/spiritual)

9) Supportiveness of our individuality

10) Independent and not codependent

 

You just described my boyfriend!

 

His scent absolutely seduces me. It's intoxicating and irresistible. That's a real must-have for me.

 

Although it's not a must for me, my guy does have a dog (that he loves more than anything) and the way he treats his pup is a really good indicator of his true nature.

 

My dream men are outdoorsy, in shape, able to talk about important issues, passionate, loving, kind, and successful (not just in money, but in his life).

[Feelsgoodman]

I thought this article from Yahoo Personals might be interesting to all you LS guys looking for a girl. No doubt there will be some ladies here who disagree or have other priorities (we're all different after all) but there are so many guys on here who seem to have zero understanding about women, I figured it couldn't hurt to post it.

 

In my mind the article is spot on, but I'd be interested to hear what other LS ladies think.

 

5 Things We Can't Resist About Men

 

There are some male qualities that women the world over agree are super-hot - and we’re not just talking about washboard abs...

 

1. His scent

Ever wondered why you like to snuggle in the nook of his armpit so much? Well here’s the (slightly gross) answer. According to research conducted by Monell Chemical Senses Centre in Philadelphia, Women are attracted to the smell of a man’s armpit sweat because underarm sweat contains a complex compound of odourless pheromones that subconsciously affect us. Charles Wysocki, a behavioural neuroscientist at the Centre explains, “Women are more attuned to underarm stink because the biological data it contains helps them choose a mate. Most women are even better at smelling male body odour than female body odours.” Nice!

 

2. His body language

Whether it’s the way he carries himself, the manner in which he casually brushes his hand through is hair, or just the way he walks, us women are pre-programmed to notice. According to Linda Blair, clinical psychologist and author of Straight Talking “It takes only seven seconds for us to judge another person when we first meet them,” To us, a man who walks tall and is comfortable in his own skin translates as a man who is self-confident – and that’s a hugely attractive trait. Judi James, author of The Body Language Bible, explains “Judging other people in the first few seconds of meeting them is part of our survival response. We’re looking primarily to see if we should feel threatened, but we also make several assumptions about attraction and personality.”

 

3. His shape

While we’re not necessarily looking for a muscle-bound hunk, there’s something primal about our attraction to his physical form. Whether he’s gym honed or not, if he looks fit and as though he looks after himself, this lets us know that health and well-being are among his priorities – and that’s a massive turn on. Especially when we’ve got mating on our minds. In general, most women are also predisposed to liking someone who is physically bigger than they are with broader shoulders and taller in height. This is probably residual hardwiring from our days as cavewomen when we looked to men as protectors and hunter-gatherers.

 

4. His sense of humour

A recent study by Northumbria University showed that women use humour as an indication of a guy's intelligence which goes some way to explaining the enormous popularity of “GSOH” as a dating requirement for so many women’s dating profiles. "Intelligence is a very attractive quality as a clever man should be more able to provide resources for his offspring.” Explains Kristofor McCarty who led the study. But gentlemen be warned, while we like a man who can make us laugh, a cruel wit that makes jokes at the expense of others or denigrates and puts us down is not something we find attractive.

 

5. His ambitious streak

We’re attracted to men with a drive to succeed for many reasons. Firstly it shows he’s passionate about something and while it may not be you (yet), it’s a sign that he’s capable of commitment. A strong work ethic demonstrates a sense of responsibility – another positive indication for selecting a life partner. Ambition also reveals a healthy sense of get-up-and go. It shows that he’s not content just hanging out with his mates down the pub and that he aspires towards something more - the desire to make things happen and improve his life. There isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t find that attractive.

 

Edit: Spelt irresistible wrong but you can't change the title!

Translation from woman-speak to standard English:

 

1. Hot

2. Confident

3. Hot

4. Great personality

5. Wealthy

 

In other words, women like men who are hot, confident, have great personalities and are rich. This is some ground breaking material I tell you!

[snug.bunny]

Translation from woman-speak to standard English:

 

1. Hot

2. Confident

3. Hot

4. Great personality

5. Wealthy

 

In other words, women like men who are hot, confident, have great personalities and are rich. This is some ground breaking material I tell you!

 

Translation from men-speak to standard English:

 

1. Smells good enough to have sex with

2. Looks good enough to have sex with

3. Is in descent enough shape to have sex with, even if she's not, we'll still have sex

4. I don't care if she is funny or not to have sex with

5. As long as she isn't lifeless, I'll still have sex with her

 

In other words, mark off item #5 from FGM as having any....

[Pizzaman81]

Miked is a little angry because falls short on all the aspects

[azsinglegal]

You just described my boyfriend!

 

His scent absolutely seduces me. It's intoxicating and irresistible. That's a real must-have for me.

 

Although it's not a must for me, my guy does have a dog (that he loves more than anything) and the way he treats his pup is a really good indicator of his true nature.

 

My dream men are outdoorsy, in shape, able to talk about important issues, passionate, loving, kind, and successful (not just in money, but in his life).

 

I used to be much more shallow in my younger years. This pretty much describes my current man as well.

 

I've discovered what's important in life isn't money, height, hair, jobs, cars or silly things like that. It all fades and what's underneath is what matters.

[missed_theboat]

I'm sick of people assuming money doesn't matter.

There's a difference between a greedy gold-digger and a woman who wants to make sure her partner is stable financially. The economy can knock even the most successful person on his ass, especially now, so if you are serious about someone, it makes sense to be concerned with his finances.

 

When I met the guy of my dreams, I had no idea he had a lot of money. It isn't something that came out until much later, when we were in a serious relationship.

 

But, now I know he has impeccable credit, from years of good financial behavior. He's only 26 but he's points away from the perfect credit score. He's very savvy with his money, but at the same time, he knows how to work hard if things don't work out. I could not be with a guy who didn't know how to get dirty when things got hard. My guy can wield an axe and a hammer just as well as he can manage several businesses.

 

To me, the important part is the work ethic--the drive that leads to success. It's not the money part, but let's be real, money is one indicator of success in much of the developed world. Another indicator of success for some is a healthy body, or an intelligent mind. Those are also important to me in a partner.

[missed_theboat]

I used to be much more shallow in my younger years. This pretty much describes my current man as well.

 

I've discovered what's important in life isn't money, height, hair, jobs, cars or silly things like that. It all fades and what's underneath is what matters.

 

That last post wasn't in reference to this. I do agree with this. Over time, if you have all the outward attributes, but no lasting qualities, then I can't imagine how the relationship would last.

[carhill]

"He has very little perceptible interest in the things that interest most people—such as making money." That belongs "in the category of mink coats and Cadillacs—unnecessary", he said.

 

Who said it?

 

The research scientist who changed the world of polio, Jonas Salk, a super-intelligent, friendly but often private man whose face was recognizable around the world. In his twilight years, he would later join the battle to find a vaccine for AIDS/HIV.

 

That said, in his youth, the precepts being discussed here about money and power were evident:

 

"The day after his graduation from medical school, Salk married Donna Lindsay, a master's candidate at the New York College of Social Work. David Oshinsky writes that her father, Elmer Lindsay, "a wealthy Manhattan dentist, viewed Salk as a social inferior, several cuts below Donna's former suitors." Eventually, her father agreed to the marriage on two conditions: first, Salk must wait until he could be listed as an official M.D. on the wedding invitations, and second, he must improve his "rather pedestrian status" by giving himself a middle name."

 

Interesting how life works.

[LittleTiger]

Translation from woman-speak to standard English:

 

1. Hot

2. Confident

3. Hot

4. Great personality

5. Wealthy

 

In other words, women like men who are hot, confident, have great personalities and are rich. This is some ground breaking material I tell you!

 

Translate it as you wish, I don't necessarily disagree except about #5 - and I didn't say any of it was ground breaking.

 

Some guys really don't get what sparks a woman's interest - this thread was just intended to give those guys a few pointers.

 

Apart from #1 which is about matching pheremones rather than great cologne and, like xxoo, is my personal 'must have', all guys can improve their prospects by working on the other 4.

 

#2. Confidence can be increased

#3. Body shape can be changed (except for height and breadth of shoulders)

#4. Personality can be 'cultivated'

#5. Financial prospects can be improved

 

#5 really isn't about being wealthy - it's about being the sort of person who has some excitement about life and what's available to us all if we get out there and 'go for it'. In other words, it's about personality.

 

I'm sure the same is true in reverse. How many intelligent, educated men would be interested in a girl who dropped out of highschool and whose biggest ambition is to work behind the checkout in the local supermarket and watch TV with a big bag of chips every night of the week?