DannyT27 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Ok just when I thought I was doing great and then I wake up this morning and BOOM... Feel depressed.. I miss her more than words can explain. I'm a wreck today.. Can't help but keep thinking abt all our good times, I loved this girl unconditionally. I have now realised how much I took her for granted and didn't show her enough affection.. We was stuck in a rut. And now she's replaced me with an older guy, I really want her back but that's never gonna happen I wish I new that she was thinking abt me but honestly I dnt thk she is. Basicly afew months back I went to Ibiza on a stag do and her sister told me she was always climbing the Walls with worry etc... So how do her feelings change so quickly ? I feel as tho she's ripped my heart from my chest and stamped on it. I found out she's doin all the same stuff we did but with a different person I've well and truely been replaced and that hurts the most! 5 yrs gone and I now feel useless and worthless she's fkd me up and it hasn't phased her in the slightest she's in the honeymoon period 1 month in so far... Sorry it's all over the place
climbergirl Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 What kind of contact is there between you two? Did anything happen at the stag party that caused the break up?
Author DannyT27 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 Hi climbergirl I've gone strict NC for just over 3 weeks now and nothing happened on stag do but wen I got bk she went on the hen do to Ibiza and I thk the party life played apart in her decision, the only reason I can thk of is this new guy showed her abit of attention and she loved it and left me 4 him... He's 35 she's 25 can't see it lasting tbh.
climbergirl Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 You may be right that the attention is what she needed. After 5 years I don't think it was one incident that made her end it. Have you tried telling her that you are sorry for taking her for granted and willing to make amends? May not work but at least you can say you tried. And I am sorry you are hurting, Danny.
mike588 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) Ok just when I thought I was doing great and then I wake up this morning and BOOM... Feel depressed.. I miss her more than words can explain. I'm a wreck today.. Can't help but keep thinking abt all our good times, I loved this girl unconditionally. I have now realised how much I took her for granted and didn't show her enough affection.. We was stuck in a rut. And now she's replaced me with an older guy, I really want her back but that's never gonna happen I wish I new that she was thinking abt me but honestly I dnt thk she is. Basicly afew months back I went to Ibiza on a stag do and her sister told me she was always climbing the Walls with worry etc... So how do her feelings change so quickly ? I feel as tho she's ripped my heart from my chest and stamped on it. I found out she's doin all the same stuff we did but with a different person I've well and truely been replaced and that hurts the most! 5 yrs gone and I now feel useless and worthless she's fkd me up and it hasn't phased her in the slightest she's in the honeymoon period 1 month in so far... Sorry it's all over the place I agree it was probably more than lack of attention. I'm not sure if you told her or if she knows your sorry and you still love her and want it to work,, I assume you have. I don't suggest you break N.C. if she knows how strongly you feel about her. Best thing to do is remain in strict N.C. leave her alone and let the relationship run its course,, she knows how you feel? it's up to her now,, let her miss you,, how can she if your contacting her daily,,weekly. I know how difficult it is,really!! Don't contact her in any way,text,email etc.If you bug her you will only be pushing her further away,, crying,begging,pleading will make you look weak and pathetic!! and that's not attractive. She will respect and possibly admire you if you just back off and leave her alone at this time. I'm sure she hasn't forgotten you or doesn't think about you with the long history you two have, didn't you say her sister told you she's climbing the walls and worried? In the mean time better yourself,stay busy after the honeymoon period is over (or sooner) she may be contacting you. Please don't come across to her that your weak,that your sitting around waiting on her,, disappear, let her wonder about you, what your doing, if your dating someone else etc. If you DON'T want her back then call her every hour crying,begging,, sending her flowers,gifts, stalking her. HUGE TURN OFF!! Edited December 9, 2011 by mike588
Author DannyT27 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 Thanks for your advice... I would like to thk in the future I could take her bk but not right now.. I havnt spoke to her and I never initiated contact it's always her... Tbh I thk that's it.. She's either got gigs or rebound but frm what I hear she's happy. Shes out drinking all the time and I thk she's on the sniff, not 100% tho. I'm just gonna hit the gym get some new clothes.. Get tanned up etc... I'm still in shock lol. She actually left me on 25/10 so it's not been that long but I hear rebound or gigs lasts around 6 months ? But isn't it weird how things look in hindsight ? As soon as she left I saw all my faults in clear view. I just dnt understand how she left me after 5.5 yrs and straight into another relationship days after with sum1 who's 10 yrs older, not very good looking and nothing goin 4 him ? He's one of those ppl which every group of friends has u knw the clown of the group funny and loud bad piss can haha. I was speaking with her sister who thks she's gone off the rails and she said her and her mum dnt want to say anything to her because it might push her further too him and that he's remotely not her type at all. Sorry guys started to ramble abit lol
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