irc333 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I was just curious, and was wondering, I could be way off. Now I know this MIGHT not mean anything, but for some reason, it's just unusual to see a woman who has a significant, always attending events with her boyfriend. Not just occasionally, but pretty much all that time, and this MAYBE could mark the end of their relationship? Have you known guys to hit on/flirt a woman with a boyfriend, (I've seen this happen, they figure 'the cat's away', why not) when they start to notice her showing up multiple times to events without her man, hoping they could be the next stepping stone in her relationship chain? I'm not suggesting cheating nor I condone it, but I have known NEW relationships to be forged in this very manner. I wonder if this is being done even on a sub-consious level? I know , I know, there are some people that aren't "attached at the hip", but I've always been used to seeing couples doing stuff together. I just find it odd , for instance, someone to go on a day hiking trip, habitually without their sig. other.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I wouldn't hit on a girl in that situation myself, It's just against the way I do things and I'm not a weasel that stays hot on a girls trail...but then again nor do I need to be. I have however had women who had boyfriends hit on me...even while their boyfriends are around...which is very confusing to me, and I'm not sure why they would not just get out of the relationship if they aren't that happy. I guess for me it's not a concern either way because it's a turn-off regardless (except that one time I was really drunk and she was hot and showing me her panties...it almost got me in trouble! but ultimately my better side won out). However I guess some guys go that route and if a woman is unhappy she'll reciprocate, and that might turn into a relationship for some people. But that's a pretty ****ty way to conduct yourself as a person with any dignity if you ask me, but I guess it's better to move onto someone without getting over someone first? seems to be many people out there like that.
Author irc333 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 I wouldn't hit on a girl in that situation myself, It's just against the way I do things and I'm not a weasel that stays hot on a girls trail...but then again nor do I need to be. I have however had women who had boyfriends hit on me...even while their boyfriends are around...which is very confusing to me, and I'm not sure why they would not just get out of the relationship if they aren't that happy. I guess for me it's not a concern either way because it's a turn-off regardless (except that one time I was really drunk and she was hot and showing me her panties...it almost got me in trouble! but ultimately my better side won out). However I guess some guys go that route and if a woman is unhappy she'll reciprocate, and that might turn into a relationship for some people. But that's a pretty ****ty way to conduct yourself as a person with any dignity if you ask me, but I guess it's better to move onto someone without getting over someone first? seems to be many people out there like that. Believe it or not, some people have met their wives in such a manner. There's this one guy I know, that actually snatched an engaged woman away from a guy, while they were doing volunteer work, they were at a mall at a booth, and they were taking things down, and he asked her to join him for coffee (dutch). The rest was history. SOme people didn't like his "how we met" story for obvious reasons. LOL
DearAbby Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 You basically know a relationship is over when you start to analyze every single thing about it and post questions about it here.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I gotta take a harsh tone here. I think this is the reason why many of you dudes are single. You're not hitting on women with boyfriends? Boyfriends are not their husbands so there is nothing wrong with it. Women actually seem easier when they are in relationships. They end up bored with their boyfriends and start looking for other dudes. Women go from boyfriends to boyfriends like people go from job to job. When a person is unsatisfied with his or her job, he or she begins filling applications for better ones. The person only quits after he's been securely placed into a new job. Similarly, women only quit their old boyfriend when their sure they can get with a new man. You guys shouldn't be afraid to hit on women with boyfriends. My two brothers and my half-brothers are married to women who had boyfriends whe they hit on them. My sister had a boyfriend when her husband hit on her. Many of my aunts had boyfriends before going with my uncles. My mother had a boyfriend before going with my father. Women generally don't dump a guy then start looking for other guys. They look for other guys while still in relationships. In most cases, when a woman outright dumps her boyfriend with no other man in sight, she does it because he's abusive. If he's not abusive but she still wants to leave, she'll start looking for other men while keeping in the relationship. Why do women do this? They don't like to be alone. They'd rather stay in an unhappy relationship than be alone. Only when they're certain they can find another guy will they dump him. You guys need to learn there isn't anything morally wrong with hitting on a woman with a boyfriend. Not on her part or your part. Married couples made a huge bond for monogamy. Dating couples have not. The reason why players seem to be getting the most fish because they realize this. The reason why most nice guys seem to be getting little to no fish is because they don't realize this.
carhill Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 You guys need to learn there isn't anything morally wrong with hitting on a woman with a boyfriend. Not on her part or your part. Married couples made a huge bond for monogamy. Dating couples have not. The reason why players seem to be getting the most fish because they realize this. The reason why most nice guys seem to be getting little to no fish is because they don't realize this. That's a realistic POV, IME. Very reflective of life experience in my particular demographic. Topically, I sense distance. Intimacy (I'm not speaking to sex) changes. The little 'extras' of love disappear. The sparkle in the eye is gone. I haven't been surprised yet. I think that 'women with boyfriends' topic deserves a thread of its own. That would be a good discussion.
Author irc333 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Good points, to draw an analogy, some women can be like monkeys when it comes to relationships, when swingin' through the trees, she won't let go of the branch behind her until she's got a good grip on the one in front of her. Same goes with relatoinships. There was this one woman, that I met at a function, that shamelessly admitted that she attends speed dating events and singles mixers, even though she has a boyfriend, apparently he hasn't 'popped' the M question, so now she's shopping around. But she keeps him around because he does her yard work and is good in bed. I can't imagine someone admitting to that publickly without being judged harshly. But yeah, a lot of "How we met" stories started off with someone currently in a relationship with another person. I have noticed a pattern when women start attending events alone on a routine basis, it makes me wonder if she's window shopping for prospects. I gotta take a harsh tone here. I think this is the reason why many of you dudes are single. You're not hitting on women with boyfriends? Boyfriends are not their husbands so there is nothing wrong with it. Women actually seem easier when they are in relationships. They end up bored with their boyfriends and start looking for other dudes. Women go from boyfriends to boyfriends like people go from job to job. When a person is unsatisfied with his or her job, he or she begins filling applications for better ones. The person only quits after he's been securely placed into a new job. Similarly, women only quit their old boyfriend when their sure they can get with a new man. You guys shouldn't be afraid to hit on women with boyfriends. My two brothers and my half-brothers are married to women who had boyfriends whe they hit on them. My sister had a boyfriend when her husband hit on her. Many of my aunts had boyfriends before going with my uncles. My mother had a boyfriend before going with my father. Women generally don't dump a guy then start looking for other guys. They look for other guys while still in relationships. In most cases, when a woman outright dumps her boyfriend with no other man in sight, she does it because he's abusive. If he's not abusive but she still wants to leave, she'll start looking for other men while keeping in the relationship. Why do women do this? They don't like to be alone. They'd rather stay in an unhappy relationship than be alone. Only when they're certain they can find another guy will they dump him. You guys need to learn there isn't anything morally wrong with hitting on a woman with a boyfriend. Not on her part or your part. Married couples made a huge bond for monogamy. Dating couples have not. The reason why players seem to be getting the most fish because they realize this. The reason why most nice guys seem to be getting little to no fish is because they don't realize this.
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