mw111 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Need some advice My girlfriend of 1 year is angry with me right now. I called her tonight and she wouldn't talk to me, she's mad because i didn't call her last night. But 99% of the time she calls me anyway so why would she just get mad this one time? It all seems kind of weird because im thinking if you want to talk to me, wouldn't you just be happy to talk to me? to get mad at me for not calling you yesterday and then expressing it by not talking to me today kind of shows she's not all that concerned with talking to me but just generally upset and taking it out on me. What should i do? I told her id call her tomorrow but something tells me that she will just be generally in a bad mood and probably find some other reason to get mad. i know her, if she wanted to talk to me she would.
Eeyore79 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I called her tonight and she wouldn't talk to me, she's mad because i didn't call her last night. But 99% of the time she calls me anyway so why would she just get mad this one time? Maybe that's the problem - she always calls you, and she's sick of being the one who has to initiate contact. She may only have expressed her anger this one time, but it's probably been building up for a while. Maybe she's been getting increasingly annoyed for weeks and weeks because she always has to call you and you never bother to call her - and finally she just blew. If I had to take a guess, I'd say she probably feels like you don't love her or care enough to initiate contact. Sit her down and ask how she feels about the level of contact in your relationship, and see what she says.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 She sounds like a clingy bitch to me....you sure you want that? Don't be a pussy and get walked over, If you always jump when they say to, then she'll be wearing the pants the whole relationship. If you're being reasonable don't let her control you and don't care so much if she's just being a pain in the ass because she's overly needy.
cdm369 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Agree with Eeoyre79. Most people don't want to be the only one to initiate everything in a relationship. There is a difference in being clingy and just wanting to know the other person is into you as you are them.
Author mw111 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Maybe that's the problem - she always calls you, and she's sick of being the one who has to initiate contact. She may only have expressed her anger this one time, but it's probably been building up for a while. Maybe she's been getting increasingly annoyed for weeks and weeks because she always has to call you and you never bother to call her - and finally she just blew. I just can't see it that way. She always calls, but what i forgot to mention is that lately ive been the one calling every time. only after i started calling did she pull this one. in the last year, when she's been calling, she hasn't gotten mad about it. Don't be a pussy and get walked over, If you always jump when they say to, then she'll be wearing the pants the whole relationship. If you're being reasonable don't let her control you and don't care so much if she's just being a pain in the ass because she's overly needy. Hey i already know dude - im just thinking specifically what to do here. i probably shoulda laughed it off, went to sleep and called in a couple days. what i did was try to make things "right" by promising to X (call) but once i do X she'll be mad i didnt do Y and Z also. Y and Z will be two random ridiculous things, basically an excuse to get mad.
Author mw111 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Well i called tonight (as i said i would) and she's just acting generally pissed. For absolutely NO reason i might add. God damn it...
Fondue Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 I have a feeling you guys are young-- like younger than 20. I'm getting this from what seems to be her maturity level. It's a bit childish for her to get upset about it and not talk to you, instead of discussing this issue like a normal person. Additionally, if this was bothering her for a while, she should have talked to you about it PRIOR. Seems like a logical thing to do. Don't feel bad for yourself, you're not a mind reader. If you ever find yourself in a future relationship and want to avoid this situation, you can always try and establish a pattern in the beginning that you're simply not into having daily phone conversations and limit that. It seems like that's what you would prefer (as do I). Goodluck, dude.
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