Marianis Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 this is what happen before : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t306567/ practicly.. 3 weeks ago i told him i loved him still in some texts after like 6 months of nc! .. we said we were going to keep in touch but i didnt really wanted to because it hurts still. The other day i saw a pic of him, his brother and his gf having a great time... so i was really sad but today! he sent an email… congratulating me for my graduation … he said he is really happy for me.. I think he did this because I didn’t say anything to him last Friday when it was his graduation ceremony so maybe he thought like.. “where is that girl that always send me something in special ocations!¡? ” I don’t know or maybe it was just because he wanted to send something .. who knows! … I didn’t expect that since is his first email since I started NC… so .. what to do now?! -…. What does that mean!? .. do I answer?! .. or just ignore it!? .. I mean I do care about it a lot.. and .. since I got it ive been like crazy thinking about it.. so!? .. thnks for the advise in advance! hoho
Author Marianis Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 anyway.. since i didnt want to wait for the answers! hahahaha i just went ahead and sent this: hello, you're right! my grad party is on saturday so im really looking forward to that .. thanks for the congrats and i want to take this chance to congratulate you to... you finally got your ring! ... so thats great!! .. i hope you had a great time and that more awesome achievements come to you. Everything is good here my grandma just had her 89 bday .. so its awesome and im on vacations until the 23rd so i have time to just go out, relax and study for my titulation test ... Hope everything is good with you too and also with your lovely fam! .. PS: ill send you a pic of my grad party if you send me a pic of your iron ring ceremony! ... just saying!! hahaha Buenas Noches!! WHAT DO YOU THINK?!?!?!?!?!?! mmm anyway! ... he sent the email this mornign!
Zabs Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 A few thing come to mind Marianis... 1. You can see from a globe away...you are still in love with him 2. HE does have some reservations that you DIDN'T congratulate him on his grad...he clearly sees that you are respecting boundaries and he is thinking about it now 3. It would appear he is testing the water with you also..as he refers to the g/f as 'I can do what I want...and it isn't like it was with you' ..this infers to me that he doesn't have any respect for her or her feelings (would you REALLY want to be in her shoes? I think not!) 4. Neither of you have really let go.. You could do with considering WHY that is. 5. Brilliant that the contact you have had with him has been light...THAT is the way to go...as for being friends and stuff..I think you could do with pulling back a little as that is NOT what you want ultimately...there is a risk you could just be stroking his ego so as I advised another poster today..let him show his cards and THEN you will have a better perspective on how to respond..if at all.. I am totally with you with the frustrations of not knowing..but time tells all.. I can tell you struggle with patience...takes one to know one but preserve your esteem at all times...and the future will unfold.. Much love Zabs xx
stillafool Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 thanks for the congrats and i want to take this chance to congratulate you to... you finally got your ring! ... so thats great!! .. i hope you had a great time and that more awesome achievements come to you. This is all you should have said. There was no need to tell him about anything else that is going on in your life. By only telling him the above you would have created some "mystery" which men find attractive. Also it would show him that you are no longer "needy" for him or his conversation.
Author Marianis Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 I am still in love with him and I think its dumb because I don’t even know who he is anymore… I´m going out and meeting more people and stuff but ya I think about him sometimes still … I was really surprised to see his email… and I wanted to tell him something about me... I know it wasn’t that good to tell him about my life but ya I am like expecting things still .. buuu.. I just checked and he hasn’t answer… yesterday he sent the email to my two email accounts… that means he really wanted me to get it right?! …. So I guess I shouldn’t be expecting the reply… anyway as Zabs said TIME TELLS ALL… you never know what is going to happen in the future.
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