Bazamu Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 So after trying to back with my exgf for a month now. I decided to do nc for 2 days and she came back to me. She was with some dude and left me on the backburner as a fallback guy. So it seems as if something went sour between the two or she just didn't want to be with him anymore... I am very confused on what to do in this situation. Those 2 days of not talking to her made me realize more and more, that she is going to miss out on me. When she was with me, she was amazing, always told me what she was doing, where she was going, and when she got up. I never had to question her. Something went wrong and her brain went bi polar. She is just as confused as much as me. I know I will get negative and positives for this post. please feel free to reply. I have asked myself from time and time again, if I get back with her, could I trust her again. My answer is yes, but over time. She said him and them are done, but how would I know for sure? Trust?
mark414 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 In my opinion there is no way to just jump back into it and expect things to be like they were before. Both of you went through a lot when you broke up. I don't need to know your specific story to know that things get said that are hard to deal with. Trust is something that has to be earned. Once it is lost it can be earned back but takes time. If you are still interested, and it sounds like you are, I would say take it real slow. Show her a good time but don't commit to anything. Go on some little "dates" but always take it slow. If you are still feeling it you will know what to do from there. Realistically you shouldn't even bother because chances are you will get hurt again. Personally though I always believe in second chances. I know my parents separated for a period of time before they had me and have now been together 30 years since then. I owe my existence to second chances. Good luck.
Author Bazamu Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 Well we have broken up 3 times already, so fourth chances doesnt sound tempting. I have made up my mind on this part. Thanks for the opinion, I shouldn't have even posted.
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