Jacques Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 We met on chat room 3 years ago, December 2008. We fall in love and we chatted with each other for 10 month. But since we both couldn’t meet due to long distance, (She is in the Philippines) I put an end to our relationship on February 2009. Of course she was devastated and it took her a long time to recover but she ended up moving on and met another guy from Ohio, whom went to see her for one week on February 2010, he ended up promising her a fiancé visa. In May 2011, we reconnected back and we started chatting again regularly. That when she announced me about her future husband. Of course I was devastated and decided to go to visit her in the Philippines to get her back. She accepted as she always wanted to see me but told me she may not commit and not to expect. I was in the Philippines last September for one week with her and everything went great, it was magic. She told me she does not really love the one from Ohio, he is just nice to her and she was trying to forget me but too many things were reminding her of me. She admitted she loves me so much and we should never separate, so, I ended up staying trying to find a job and be with her but, I did not find anything, and since my company in the USA were pressuring me to come back, I had to leave her. We made concrete plans and she said she will gradually tell him that she will not be with him. She applied for tourist visa despite that she applied for K1 fiancé visa with him, but in the end, on October 5, 2011 she got denied for the tourist visa. She blamed me for pushing her to apply for the tourist visa and that she lost her chances for the K1 fiancé visa with the guy from Ohio. I got confused and did not understand what its mean. Does she loves me or him? Since then everything started falling apart. My first mistake was, that I was trying to find a solution to get her quickly as I couldn’t support the separation but, she blamed me from being to needy, noisy, and with no concrete plans. She reminded me of our plans but I did not want to listen, so she asked me for a break. My second mistake was, I did not give her a break, so, she slowly turned back to the guy from Ohio, telling me she does not want to be with me no more. She also said, I can’t be trusted as last week I replayed to an ex girl friend. She said she just want to be friends. I kept challenging her on that saying, how come she complains about this while she talks to the guy from Ohio telling him she loves him? Telling her, I did not show my ex girl friend any sign of love, so we got into a harsh argument and she started using the f-words. My third mistake was when the next day I called her and told her I am coming back and she told me not to come. She shut the phone on me. I got so made and called the guy from Ohio and told him everything in details. He did not know me and for him it came out of nowhere. At that time I lost her but not completely yet, as she kept me in her contact but asked me not to contact her, not to call her. The next day she also invaded my network as she knew my passwords. My forth mistake was when I threatened her by saying I will report her actions in the American embassy and all Ohio. I started blaming her for everything that happened, calling her a liar, manipulative, and cannot be trusted. And, I told her that she created her own mess having 2 guys at once. So now, I completely lost her. She removed me from her yahoo and Skype contacts. This morning I was trying to fix things calling the guy from Ohio, leaving him a message, telling him she is devastated and she loves him and if he loves her, he should get back to her. I need your help, as I love her and I am crazy about her. I probably left her alone struggling with 3 kids to feed if, he did not accept her back. I don’t think she will forgive me, I showed her a very bad side out of me, I got crazy, I admit. What should I do??? Help!!! Should I try to get to him again and make sure they are back? If they are back, now she sees him as an angel and me as a monster. She will never get back to me.
twinkles Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 She doesn't love him.. she doesn't love you. She's in love with the idea of becoming an American citizen. Can't you see that I? I figured it out in paragraph six. Wake up man and move along. The three kids are not your problem she is using her hardluck story and her children as a pawns. Sorry but that's how I see it.
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