littlesmile Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 hi everyone:), first time posting. Well i am quite confussed about my current relationship. I've been dating this guy for 2 years and 2 months. Last fall i left for college about 3 and a half hours away and he stayed here becasue he was going to a community college near home until he decided where he wanted to go. Before i left things were great. i love him, he treats me right and would do anythign for me, hes cute and very intelligent and mature for his age and is sensitive and caring. sometimes he just seems like the perfect guy...but he also has a very cynical side that shows as he points out others' faults and anything about people or society he thinks is ridiculous. given, we all do every now and then, but he does it A LOT. it intimidates people a lot, sometimes even me becaue i don't want him to focus on my faults.I can see where hes coming from when he says the things he does but i also don't see why it's necessary to point out everyone's faults and focus on them all the time and let it bother you that much- but it's just how he is. but i try to be as accepting as people as possible. sometimes it's a bad mix. Anyways, at school we talked on the phone every night for a few hours and IMed and emailed. He always said i never made enough effort to talk to him- even though my friends would even comment about how much time i spent worrying about him and making time to drop everything and talk to him when i could. he came up every now and then and things would be nice then, but things would be rough sometimes. we would get upset with each other and talked about if we should still even be going out anymore, and broke up and got back together so many times ive lost count. But we always remember how much we love each other and end up crying and trying to work things out. But they always go wrong again. well i came home a few weeks ago. i have about 3.5 months before i go back to school. things were nice at first but now we've been gettign in stupid little arguments almost everyday about stupid little things- even when im home. when things are good they are good- but when they are bad it's bad. I'm starting to wonder if we are just different people who aren't meant to be together, but love eachother. I'm starting to not be able to tolerate the petty arguments and his cynicism. It's so awful to love someone a lot but also not like somehting about them so much at the same time. I'm wondering if i should try my hardest this time to just be friends, but then i feel like what if i lose him and hes the best guy i will ever find for me? it's hard to say becasue he's the only guy ive ever seriously dated, so i have no one else to compare it to. so how should i know? i feel like i know what kind of person i want to be with...i got fed up one night and told him to go home, but he still wanted to hang out and work things out. i said things were never going to be worked out and it was a vicious cycle. this morning we woke up and we were laying in bed and he was like "why don't you want me to hug you or anything anymore?" and i said i did but i felt like i still wasn't sure we should even be together. i feel more and more awkward huggin and kissing and saying i love you. He left and we havn't talked since. I don't know what to do. sorry this is long. help! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 29, 2004 Share Posted May 29, 2004 and broke up and got back together so many times ive lost count things were nice at first but now we've been gettign in stupid little arguments almost everyday about stupid little things But we always remember how much we love each other and end up crying and trying to work things out. But they always go wrong again. I'm starting to wonder if we are just different people who aren't meant to be together, i said i did but i felt like i still wasn't sure we should even be together If you two are truly in love then none of these things should be insurmountable, but it does sound to me like your relationship may have reached an end. In particular because of this statement: i feel more and more awkward huggin and kissing and saying i love you. Has he called you back yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlesmile Posted May 31, 2004 Author Share Posted May 31, 2004 yeah, i wonder if it is too. I told him how i felt and he got really upset and then he started crying (boys crying is so sad:( ). i thought about everythign and i thought i'd give it another chance. Things have been good. we havn't argued about anythign dumb and we hug and kiss etc and have good times. I don't feel awkward when i remember why i love him and thigns are good. I don't know though. who knows how long things will stay that way, as i said, it's happened before. Thanks for responding to my message even though it was really long and stuff, and thanks for the input:) Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 31, 2004 Share Posted May 31, 2004 You're welcome. I hope things work out for you both. Link to post Share on other sites
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