Beyond devastated

[phone66]

Ive been reading everyone elses posts trying to make myself feel better. Recently my girl of 3 yrs told me she didn't want to be w/ me anymore. Our home is now her home and all my stuff is in a storage unit. Im living out of a suit case and have a diamond for her in it. I showed it to her after I moved out and she looked at it for 2 seconds and said it is beautifull.

 

I am beyond devastated, I am seeing a therapist and doing my best to not contact her. I would do anything for another chance with her, she is my life, my world my best friend, my soul mate. Now I have nothing. Can't even get out of bed. I moved out a couple days before Thanksgiving, I spent Thanksgiving alone. I didn't eat for 8 days an lost 20 lbs.

 

We moved across the country together, bought our 1st home together and now I have nothing but a diamond and no one to give it to. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. I know I didn't communicate the best and neither did you, you told me that. I have no motivation to do anything, I have lost the only thing that ever mattered to me. Any words would help at this point, thanks.

[mike588]

What was the reason for the breakup? and how old are the two of you?

[twinkles]

This is just terrible. I'm sorry for you.

 

The not eating and losing weight is very typical after a breakup. It's like your body goes into shock. That feeling of being punched in the gut takes days to go away...sometimes longer.

 

Have you just considered selling the ring and going back home? I don't know if a job brought you to where you are now but you are not obligated to staying there anymore.

[Veryconfused12345]

Hi There,

 

First of all, just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're going through all of this at the moment, I know how completely traumatizing it is and how you must feel like you're the only person ever to experience this level of pain and loss. I know this is a small comfort right now, but at the depth of my despair I couldn't fathom physically or mentally feeling that low. My fiance of over 2 years recently dumped me without warning and immediately jumped into a rebound relationship. I understand what it feels like to have your future stability and happiness seemingly be swept out from under you. And having been to that level of sadness, I can tell you from personal experience that as much as you think your world will never be ok again, you're going to start seeing this differently in a few months, I promise.

 

For a couple that was as serious as you two her behaviour doesn't add up. She clearly either freaked out or perhaps has been hit with a case of the grass is greener. But believe me, as much as it meant to you, it meant the same level of intensity to her. She may have appeared to shut down but I don't think for a second she's coping well with this or will if it hasn't hit her yet....

 

So right now, it's like triage. How do we get you even 2% better? First of all, seeking therapy right now is a very smart move and you should feel like that is the safe place to cry your eyes out. I remembered seeking answers to unanswerable questions from anyone, even people on public transport-I completely lost it! But you need to start keeping a log. It's a small help but it does start to put your jumbled thougts into order. I made lists. Lists of what I loved about him. Lists of what I didn't like. Lists of what I could have done better, etc etc. Somehow having them on paper made me feel like I had a bible of my darkest thoughts which helped to externalize them. Other things to do is post as much as you can here and we'll all do our best to support you. I'm not going to give you the cliches of "go for a run, or get a haircut" because I had trouble peeling myself off the couch for the first couple of weeks. Wallow right now. Don't tell yourself you should be better. It's going to hurt at first. And that's going to subside into obsession. And then dull pain. Until eventually you have the memory of the feeling.

And importantly, even though you won't be anywhere near considering a future right now, you have learned that you are the type of guy who can commit and love someone completely. There are so many women out there who have experienced the same thing you have and would kill for the type of guy you sound like you are. Hold on to that, you're an incredibly good catch from the sounds of it and although it's unthinkable now, you will love someone again and perhaps even more deeply because you'll remember this period and be so grateful to have moved past it.

 

If you need to get any more thoughts out here just post away, we'll all try to help as much as we can. You're not alone!!!! xxxx

[phone66]

She told me tha tI have verbally and emotionally abused her and she has given her all to me and has nothing left to give.

 

She has been going out with friends from work alot more than ever before and texting this guy from work all the time. I asked her several times about it and she said they are just friends. The saturday before i moved out she had a dentist apt and before and after the apt she was at a location I did not know telling me she was running errands and did not need my help. We have this app on the phones to see where the other is. I went to the place and it was a housing complex and gated I called her like 10 times in a row and she did not answer and then did a pick up hang up. I finally got in and drove around and foudn my car she was driving in front of a home. I rang the door and she came out I was irate and asked who's place it was and what she is doing, she said she is just hangiong out with guys from work. She didn't come home until late. The next day I picked up her phone and looked at the text msgs she told this guy she loves him and he texted her the same. There was a pic of her and his mom and grandma she had met the day I went there. She admitted she has kissed him but not slept w/ him. She works 40 hrs a week with this guy. She told me several times befor eI moved out she has stopped talking to him and feels awfull and it was wrong and she wasnt looking for it. Never in a million years did I ever think she was capable of this behavior. I admit in the past I have made her feel like her opinions and thoughts were invalid I can look back and see where I reacted to things wrong but I wish she would have better told me how I was making her feel so I could have gone to counseling sooner, we could have gone to couples counseling. Now I feel lost and shocked and like I have failed as a man. I am reading "getting back together" and "men are from mars women are from Venus" I want so badly to have her back. I feel like a piece of sh+t. She is so beautifull she can have anyone she wants. i am so in love with her and devoted to her even after this b.s w/ another man. I wish I wasn't it would make this easier. No one deserves this, I have a good heart and I want to fix things, she said she has nothing left to give , if that were true she wouldnt tell another man she loves him, makes me sick.

[phone66]

I am 29 she is 26, I am a Realtor and have a great business here, I am not going anywhere. I want my soul mate, my lover and my best friend back.

[LostJustLost]

...I want my soul mate, my lover and my best friend back.

 

Several of us here echo those very words, Phone66. I know for me, personally, its not going to happen, the trust is gone and I still think that way none the less.

 

I'm sorry y'all are going thru such a painful time. The things you're feeling are normal, but that does not make it any easier to deal with. I find solace here, reading what others do/have done trying to find their way. Hopefully you will too. ~L

[mike588]

She told me tha tI have verbally and emotionally abused her and she has given her all to me and has nothing left to give.

 

She has been going out with friends from work alot more than ever before and texting this guy from work all the time. I asked her several times about it and she said they are just friends. The saturday before i moved out she had a dentist apt and before and after the apt she was at a location I did not know telling me she was running errands and did not need my help. We have this app on the phones to see where the other is. I went to the place and it was a housing complex and gated I called her like 10 times in a row and she did not answer and then did a pick up hang up. I finally got in and drove around and foudn my car she was driving in front of a home. I rang the door and she came out I was irate and asked who's place it was and what she is doing, she said she is just hangiong out with guys from work. She didn't come home until late. The next day I picked up her phone and looked at the text msgs she told this guy she loves him and he texted her the same. There was a pic of her and his mom and grandma she had met the day I went there. She admitted she has kissed him but not slept w/ him. She works 40 hrs a week with this guy. She told me several times befor eI moved out she has stopped talking to him and feels awfull and it was wrong and she wasnt looking for it. Never in a million years did I ever think she was capable of this behavior. I admit in the past I have made her feel like her opinions and thoughts were invalid I can look back and see where I reacted to things wrong but I wish she would have better told me how I was making her feel so I could have gone to counseling sooner, we could have gone to couples counseling. Now I feel lost and shocked and like I have failed as a man. I am reading "getting back together" and "men are from mars women are from Venus" I want so badly to have her back. I feel like a piece of sh+t. She is so beautifull she can have anyone she wants. i am so in love with her and devoted to her even after this b.s w/ another man. I wish I wasn't it would make this easier. No one deserves this, I have a good heart and I want to fix things, she said she has nothing left to give , if that were true she wouldnt tell another man she loves him, makes me sick.

 

Sounds like she found someone to give her the attention that you weren't, for her to tell some other guy that she loves him in that short amount time is strange,,how could she? Love takes time.

 

From what you've said I'm sure there is alot more going on between them than she has told you especially for her to be hanging out with the guys (probably guy) then coming home late.

 

Just by her saying she wasn't looking for it is a huge red flag and it's almost admitting that she's fooling around.

 

I'd let her know one last time your sorry for your mistakes/problems,,that you are sincerely working on them and how you feel about her and what you want in the relationship.

 

After that leave her alone,go STRICT NO CONTACT,,, you have cleared the air letting her know you love her,, you want it to work, your sorry for your behavior now leave it up to her,, there will be no doubt in her mind so the ball is in her corner now.

 

Don't call,text bug her after that,, you will only push her further away and it will justify her actions. It will look weak and pathetic on your part.

[phone66]

Sounds like she found someone to give her the attention that you weren't, for her to tell some other guy that she loves him in that short amount time is strange,,how could she? Love takes time.

 

From what you've said I'm sure there is alot more going on between them than she has told you especially for her to be hanging out with the guys (probably guy) then coming home late.

 

Just by her saying she wasn't looking for it is a huge red flag and it's almost admitting that she's fooling around.

 

I'd let her know one last time your sorry for your mistakes/problems,,that you are sincerely working on them and how you feel about her and what you want in the relationship.

 

After that leave her alone,go STRICT NO CONTACT,,, you have cleared the air letting her know you love her,, you want it to work, your sorry for your behavior now leave it up to her,, there will be no doubt in her mind so the ball is in her corner now.

 

Don't call,text bug her after that,, you will only push her further away and it will justify her actions. It will look weak and pathetic on your part.

 

The 1st part of this is exactly what I don't want to hear, I was giving her a ton of atttention and didn't seem to want it, obviously I know why now. I have made it very clear to her that I am willing to go to Therapy and "fix" myself and do whatever it takes to make our relationship work.

 

Saying "go not contact" and actually doing that are 2 very different things.

 

It's not like im a psycho or have a ton of mental issues, all my clients and frineds think I am an amazing person, for whatever reason I can get her to see that anymore. I want to marry her and have a kid or 2 and raise a family and grow old together and I am willing to do whatver self improvement I can to make it work, who wouldnt want that ?

[BoredAgain]

From what you say, it seems you both created problems in the relationship. Unfortunately, it doesn't really matter whose fault it was because the relationship sounds wrecked. There's simply no going back.

 

Even if both of you truly change and reconcile, it's never going to be the same relationship again. You should give her space and, more importantly, take space for yourself. Get some emotional distance from the relationship, then you'll be able to really look at it objectively.

 

You need to move forward and learn to be happy with yourself. Many people attempt this "I MUST WIN HER BACK" challenge, and it mostly ends in disaster. You risk pushing her further away.

[phone66]

Having a bad day, I did manage to shower but have not eaten anything today and I couldnt hardly sleep at all last night, been up since like 4 am it's now 6:15pm. I believe with all I have in my heart and soul we are suppose to grow old together, I want to be the father of her children. I want my soul mate back.

[phone66]

Hi There,

 

First of all, just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're going through all of this at the moment, I know how completely traumatizing it is and how you must feel like you're the only person ever to experience this level of pain and loss. I know this is a small comfort right now, but at the depth of my despair I couldn't fathom physically or mentally feeling that low. My fiance of over 2 years recently dumped me without warning and immediately jumped into a rebound relationship. I understand what it feels like to have your future stability and happiness seemingly be swept out from under you. And having been to that level of sadness, I can tell you from personal experience that as much as you think your world will never be ok again, you're going to start seeing this differently in a few months, I promise.

 

For a couple that was as serious as you two her behaviour doesn't add up. She clearly either freaked out or perhaps has been hit with a case of the grass is greener. But believe me, as much as it meant to you, it meant the same level of intensity to her. She may have appeared to shut down but I don't think for a second she's coping well with this or will if it hasn't hit her yet....

 

So right now, it's like triage. How do we get you even 2% better? First of all, seeking therapy right now is a very smart move and you should feel like that is the safe place to cry your eyes out. I remembered seeking answers to unanswerable questions from anyone, even people on public transport-I completely lost it! But you need to start keeping a log. It's a small help but it does start to put your jumbled thougts into order. I made lists. Lists of what I loved about him. Lists of what I didn't like. Lists of what I could have done better, etc etc. Somehow having them on paper made me feel like I had a bible of my darkest thoughts which helped to externalize them. Other things to do is post as much as you can here and we'll all do our best to support you. I'm not going to give you the cliches of "go for a run, or get a haircut" because I had trouble peeling myself off the couch for the first couple of weeks. Wallow right now. Don't tell yourself you should be better. It's going to hurt at first. And that's going to subside into obsession. And then dull pain. Until eventually you have the memory of the feeling.

And importantly, even though you won't be anywhere near considering a future right now, you have learned that you are the type of guy who can commit and love someone completely. There are so many women out there who have experienced the same thing you have and would kill for the type of guy you sound like you are. Hold on to that, you're an incredibly good catch from the sounds of it and although it's unthinkable now, you will love someone again and perhaps even more deeply because you'll remember this period and be so grateful to have moved past it.

 

If you need to get any more thoughts out here just post away, we'll all try to help as much as we can. You're not alone!!!! xxxx

 

Thank you for the kind words, I sincerley need and appreciate them.

[Veryconfused12345]

Hi Phone66,

 

You're very very welcome. I'm trying to check up on your thread routinely because it seems like we're living a similar nightmare right now and I know the feelings of gut wrenching panic, depression, anxiety, and disbelief you must experiencing. Waking up before you can contact anyone is the worst because you are well and truely alone with your own thoughts. I started crying reading your message because it's exactly how I feel at the moment.

 

You need to basically tell her everything you've told us here. Be upset if you need to be. There's a certain amount of relief in completely laying your heart on the line, I guess my mentality was there's nothing really left to lose... She has sought emotional support/confidence in someone else and if you can show her you recognize your faults, love her more than anyone in the world, and planned to marry her, you have given her everything you can right now. Then let this relationship with another person run it's course. Here's the thing, when someone feels vulnerable they sometimes run into the arms of someone else as a temporary band aid which isn't sustainable because once the dust settles she a) hasn't dealt with the backlog of emotional problems she NEEDS to deal with and b) has now invested her stability and happiness in someone else and no one can provide everything for her. Perhaps she likes this guy. But in jumping straight in this is a pretty clear indication that more than liking someone, she is running away from problems. The reason I say let her know how much you love her and then give her time is because once the thrill of the new relationship dies down and the bad memories she has about the end of your relationship fade away, she is left with a huge number of good memories from what you had together, especially if you leave it on such a loving last note.

 

In the meantime, the fact that she left means there were some profound dynamic issues that have to be addressed. Use you depression/anxiety right now and be proactive because I know I need to feel like I'm doing something useful to move forward and "fix" the situation. You really need to aggressively delve into you own behaviours and why you think she felt the way she did. Some of this might be you. Some of this is definitely her. But you can only deal with what you have and that's yourself right now. I know you're going crazy with worry but right now, you need to remind yourself that you did genuinely love this woman and because of that, you have nothing to hide or question. She needs to do some serious soul searching of her own but let her do this alone or nothing will ever move forward.

[phone66]

Confused, again thank you so much for the comfort, it's 2:30 in the afternoon, I just moved from the bed to the couch, have no reason to leave the house I am staying at or even shower. Just another terribly long day alone.

 

I spilled my guts out to her before I gave in and finally gave her what she wanted and that was for me to move out of our home. It was an exhausting few days of me telling her how much she means to me and then unfortunatly I sent a bunch of txt mesgs as well. I am seeing a therapist and trying to talk to people about it. Ive made it clear to her I acknowledge I have faults and some issues I need to deal with, I am seeing a therapist to work on them, I offered to go to couple's counseling and she just doesnt want to.

 

I feel like she is taking the easy road and just ending our relationship and looking somewhere else. Instead of taking a road that has some bumps and letting me have a chance to work on some things, we all deserve a 2nd chance. I am living a nightmare, I feel like I am in one of those movies you see where in the end the girl or guy finally comes back to reality and they end up happily ever after.

 

I still have a few boxes and stuff at "her home" I messed up my back moving what I have so far so I can't move anymore until it heals up. Even if I had a bunch to do today I would be in pain doing it due to my back b.s. We also have joint cell phone bill, can insurance and a credit card to talk about and deal with.

[soulm8]

I feel like she is taking the easy road and just ending our relationship and looking somewhere else.

 

I still have a few boxes and stuff at "her home" I messed up my back moving what I have so far so I can't move anymore until it heals up. Even if I had a bunch to do today I would be in pain doing it due to my back b.s. We also have joint cell phone bill, can insurance and a credit card to talk about and deal with.

 

I don't understand why you're "expected" to move out of your home. You bought it together. She wants to end the relationship... why should she be entitled to the home?

[phone66]

I don't understand why you're "expected" to move out of your home. You bought it together. She wants to end the relationship... why should she be entitled to the home?

 

I am self employed and had just started my business when we decided to buy so I could not get financing for the loan w/ out 2 yrs of tax returns for the business. Mind you I am a realtor so I was very hands on and the agent for the house. At the closing I signed a piece of paper so I could be added to the deed, unfortunatly I also signed one agreeing that if anything ever happened to "us" she could have me removed from the deed. I signed it becaus eI never thought in a million years this would happen. Legally the house is hers but in every other way it is our home. We moved across the counrty rented a house then bought our 1st home, I payed the down payment and never thought for a minute it wasn't "our" home. I still feel that it is our home becasue it is OUR HOME. How can I even begin to have that make sense to her? I have tried but she said that this is why she protected herself from the begining (at closing) in OCT 2010.

[soulm8]

At the closing I signed a piece of paper so I could be added to the deed, unfortunately I also signed one agreeing that if anything ever happened to "us" she could have me removed from the deed. I signed it because I never thought in a million years this would happen. Legally the house is hers but in every other way it is our home. We moved across the country rented a house then bought our 1st home, I paid the down payment and never thought for a minute it wasn't "our" home. I still feel that it is our home because it is OUR HOME. How can I even begin to have that make sense to her? I have tried but she said that this is why she protected herself from the beginning (at closing) in OCT 2010.

 

Yuck. Well, the deed is one thing... and she was sure to "protect" herself on that... but what about YOUR down payment? Surely, you're entitled to that back.

 

What was the point of signing documents for the deed that contradict the other?

[Bsham]

I'm afraid for you my friend. You're wanting something back yet you're pushing her away.

 

I did all this 8 years ago. I chased my ex who was with me for 2 years when she dumped me. Chased her for months kept calling her etc. Guess what happened? I pushed her away and into another relationship. She pitied me. She saw not a man but a boy who can't handle life without her. The biggest life lesson I learnt from that is women hate needy people and pity them.

 

Guess what else happened? I had a nervous break down. I was in therapy for years. I never left the house for 4 years. I died. Simple as. I thought she was my soul mate, best friend etc too.

 

Well, here I am 10 years later and I have had 2 long relationships with other women. Loved them both just as much as my old "soul mate". First new one dumped me for not paying any attention to her. The day she dumped me I vanished from her life, guess what happened? She started chasing me 2 months later. Why? Because I vanished. I showed her I don't need her to be happy so she came crawling back. I didn't take her back as I didn't want to.

 

The second one was nearly 2 years. Again she dumped me as I chose mates over her and paid not much attention to her. I loved this women so pleaded for a week then realised it won't work and she started calling me too needy haha despite never being needy once in our whole relationship. Well, stopped any contact and vanished remembering my lesson from years ago. 3 months later guess what? She's chasing me asking for me to come back. I got a chance again but I can't be bothered at the moment.

 

Bottom line is this: Vanish from her life now or you will NEVER get her back. I can say nothing more to you about it my friend.

[phone66]

I'm afraid for you my friend. You're wanting something back yet you're pushing her away.

 

I did all this 8 years ago. I chased my ex who was with me for 2 years when she dumped me. Chased her for months kept calling her etc. Guess what happened? I pushed her away and into another relationship. She pitied me. She saw not a man but a boy who can't handle life without her. The biggest life lesson I learnt from that is women hate needy people and pity them.

 

Guess what else happened? I had a nervous break down. I was in therapy for years. I never left the house for 4 years. I died. Simple as. I thought she was my soul mate, best friend etc too.

 

Well, here I am 10 years later and I have had 2 long relationships with other women. Loved them both just as much as my old "soul mate". First new one dumped me for not paying any attention to her. The day she dumped me I vanished from her life, guess what happened? She started chasing me 2 months later. Why? Because I vanished. I showed her I don't need her to be happy so she came crawling back. I didn't take her back as I didn't want to.

 

The second one was nearly 2 years. Again she dumped me as I chose mates over her and paid not much attention to her. I loved this women so pleaded for a week then realised it won't work and she started calling me too needy haha despite never being needy once in our whole relationship. Well, stopped any contact and vanished remembering my lesson from years ago. 3 months later guess what? She's chasing me asking for me to come back. I got a chance again but I can't be bothered at the moment.

 

Bottom line is this: Vanish from her life now or you will NEVER get her back. I can say nothing more to you about it my friend.

 

bsham- thank you, I understand what you are saying, I know what I need to do, but that doesnt mean I can do it. Part of me completly understands what you are saying and maybe if I leave her alone she will at some point miss me. The other part of me feels if I disappear from her life she will forget about me or look for someone else so I feel like I need to keep trying. I have never believe in something so much or I wouldn't bother to try this hard.

 

Im doing my best to leave her alone, have yet to remove her from my friends on facebook. Thank you all so much for the support I need it now more than ever

[phone66]

I deleted her as a friend o facebook and blocked her, she is suppose to call me tomorrow so we can talk about the bills we have together and how to take care of it, then I have a few things to move out of "our" home and then I am going to leave a simple note on the counter telling her she is it for me and goodbye. I don't know what else to do, I don't want to say goodbye or go NC but what else am I to do. I don't want to be her "friend" now.

[chados]

I deleted her as a friend o facebook and blocked her, she is suppose to call me tomorrow so we can talk about the bills we have together and how to take care of it, then I have a few things to move out of "our" home and then I am going to leave a simple note on the counter telling her she is it for me and goodbye. I don't know what else to do, I don't want to say goodbye or go NC but what else am I to do. I don't want to be her "friend" now.

 

im really sorry, ive been through this just a few weeks ago, couldnt eat sleep, normally i have a hard time crying, but when i talked to a therapist "only one time" i couldnt even speak, i just cried. when you loose something you realize how important it actually was. this will be hard for you to take in but i really think you should listen. dont stay in your house doing nothing,

 

and you should not focus on getting her back. the pain youre feeling now will never go away. tell her that you know what went wrong and that you respect her decision. tell her that you think this is probably for the best. this is not to lie. because if a person breaks up with you, its always for the best. because they dont feel it anymore, and that is not a healthy relationship. and never act depressed around her. this is hard, so try to stay away. but whenever she contacts you. just tell her that your okey with the decision, and you think its better to move on, if she wants to try again she can contact you. and she will.

[phone66]

She sent me this at 11:20 last night:

 

There are a few things that we need to finish taking care of together as you know. I apologize for not calling to talk things through. I just feel like that is not something that could be productive at this point due to the last few phone calls I had with you. So I did not feel comfortable to call. I really hope that in time that passes as I don't want you to disappear from my life as you have suggested.

I've taken care of utilities for the house; i.e. making sure that accounts in your name were transferred to mine.

The phone bill was large this month because the year is ending and the bill is always inflated. I was able to pay everything except $100.00 which is due today. I would really appreciate it if you could contribute $50 to this and I will take care of the rest when I get paid this week. If you could put the money in the joint account that would be great. If you could go this week at some point to Verizon and take yourself off the calling plan that would help me with the expense (I will downgrade minutes). Please let me know if there is a problem or you need help. If I were to remove you from it, they will not honor any past history with Verizon, they would just drop you and that's not at all what I want.

I spoke with Justin at Oasis and the auto insurance policy expires the end of January. I have already had a quote done for myself and if you wanted to keep the same policy you would just have to call Justin and sign a paper removing me. My other thought was to wait for the policy to expire the end of January and then go from there. If you are comfortable, we can split the premium for the 2 months. I would make sure to put my half in the joint account and you could do the same-again, only if you are comfortable. Please let me know what your decision is.

The VSECU credit card balance as of this months statement is $1,199.71. Thank you for your willingness that was shown in not leaving me with the debt. We can split this down the middle if you find that fair. Again, any money you want me to pay towards it you can put in the joint account and I will apply it to the card or you can pay it on your own by calling. Please let me know what works for you. My half would take me some time to pay but it would get paid.

I packed up your kitchen stuff minus the utensils which I will add to the box. I did pack everything with care, so you know. Whenever you would like to get your other boxes and bike, just let me know when you'll be by.

I hope that you are well, and eating-taking care of yourself

 

 

 

My reply at 9:30 this a.m ;

 

I agree that it was best for you and I not to call. I will go to Verizon and get myself taken off. I will move $50.00 to the joint account to contribute to the phone bill. I will call Justin at Oasis and get a quote for my own insurance, I am not comfortable with splitting it with you for another 2 months.

As we verbally spoke about a few weeks ago, you are taking the house, our washer and dryer, our vacuum and rug cleaner, our fire pit and our dog among many other things so you said you would keep the cc debt because you were keeping all our appliances. Again you said you would take the debt and that is what I expect.

 

Thank you for packing up my kitchen stuff, I want the boxes and my bike out of there as soon as possible, I also want the last bit of bills and what not separated and the joint account closed asap. That being said I want you to know I am a good person with a good heart and I am madly deeply in love with you. That is why I got you a diamond. I don't think you understood how much you meant to me but non of that matters anymore. After we are done with the business that needs to be dealt with and my stuff is out I don't want to have any more contact with you of any kind, please don't text me randomly and tell me you are thinking of me and hope I'm well. I only want to hear from you if you have decided you want to work on a new real relationship with me I am not interested in being your friend at this point.

 

This time it is not see you later it is goodbye. Thanks for the memories,

 

I love you,

[wilsonx]

She told me tha tI have verbally and emotionally abused her and she has given her all to me and has nothing left to give.

 

She has been going out with friends from work alot more than ever before and texting this guy from work all the time. I asked her several times about it and she said they are just friends.

 

This is such a bull**** excuse. Emotionally and Verbally abusive. Cowards use this excuse.

 

What I underlined and bolded is why she broke up with you, because there's another guy. This is posted here on the forums and I have seen this in real life and with my own situation.

 

Some guy said hey we should date "I am way better then your loser boyfriend, I will use you and love you more then he ever would" What does a young emotionally immature person do, WOW, thanks captain save a hoe, let me do it and suffer the consequences later.

 

Good email response - Stick to it

 

Feel free to read the Grass is Greener thread in my signature for more answers to your questions

[phone66]

This is such a bull**** excuse. Emotionally and Verbally abusive. Cowards use this excuse.

 

What I underlined and bolded is why she broke up with you, because there's another guy. This is posted here on the forums and I have seen this in real life and with my own situation.

 

Some guy said hey we should date "I am way better then your loser boyfriend, I will use you and love you more then he ever would" What does a young emotionally immature person do, WOW, thanks captain save a hoe, let me do it and suffer the consequences later.

 

Good email response - Stick to it

 

Feel free to read the Grass is Greener thread in my signature for more answers to your questions

 

Wow, that was kind of tough to read Wilsonx

[wilsonx]

The truth is tough to read. Its the truth, you know it deep down inside. That's why you kept questioning her about her friend. That was your gut and your instincts telling you something wasnt right. You quit trusting yourself and gave her full control of everything. As a man or an individual, you always need to trust yourself first. Listen to that voice deep inside of you. Always, nothing ever comes before that voice except your kids

 

At the same time, you could not have stopped it from happening. Your email response was perfect though