stitch702 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Sorry this is EFFFFFINNNNN LOOOONNNNGGGGGG So it has been a little over 3 months since our break up where she dumped me. To be honest I didn't take it too well. I believed the reasons for our break up were petty and I was willing to do anything to make the relationship work...however she didn't feel the same and took the easy way out by breaking up with me. She did it the day I was flying home from a vacation with my parents. To be honest I had purchased another early flight back so that I could be there for her birthday...but nope I guess that didn't work out. The flight was miserable. I wore my sun glasses the whole time so none of the passsengers would see me cry. When I returned to home that night, I ran into her...strange really how it happened...I was driving home and at a stop light her car pulls up next to mine...I flag her down and we talked for a bit in the parking lot. I did the usual; beg her to come back, told her how much I loved her, etc, etc. She told me that I was just too hard to love and left. Well eventually her birthday comes around and she invites a few of my friends to attend and does not send me an invite. I was really hurt I mean come on we been together for 4 years and this is how you treat me?!? However, I became relieved when all but one of my friends chose not to attend lol. Actually the one guy that did go asked me if it was ok because the reason he wanted to go was because he was crushing on one of her friends lol so i said yeah dude go for it. Well a week after the break up, I did the whole begging and pleading and calling her every now and then. She would ignore me and post statuses on facebook that would just be-little me. Kick me when I'm already down will you?!?! That's when I realized that I needed to stop... I didn't like the person I was becoming and I usually was much stronger than this. I was never really needy, obsessive, and I always used to love myself. So I went into N/C and boy was it a bitch in the beginning. Facebook was the devil...because she IS ALWAYS ON THAT MOFO!!!! I would believe all her posts were directed at hurting me. She would post pictures of herself with other guys, tag other guys in status updates, talk about how wonderful her life was without me, etc etc. So what did I do? I blocked her so I wouldn't see any status updates. Then it happened...I woke up one day and was like **** this I'm tired of feeling sad and I'm going to go out and have a good time. Instead of going back and begging her to come back to me, I surrounded myself with my friends, my family, my room mates, my hobbies, and my career. I volunteered my services at a local hospital and also at a program that helped with disabled individuals. I played a lot of soccer and hit the gym and got ripped...then again I've always played a lot of soccer and have always been pretty cut so no real change there. I went to church more often and prayed that this woman would never hurt me again...Prayer is such a powerful weapon I recommend it to anyone willing to try it. I went out more, attended concerts did rock climbing, snowboarding, clubbing, etc...all the things that I enjoyed!!! I decided to just enjoy ME!!! What did she do? Well from what I hear she began going out to clubs, drinking, meeting new guys and using them for attention, etc. I even hear she hooked up with one of them and got burned because the dude already had a wife...Her status updates became a bit depressing and sad. She always talked about how she wanted someone to just fill that void of loneliness and emptiness etc etc. Well she eventually found a rebound...don't really know how their doing because I don't ask anymore and don't care to ask, it's not my problem anymore...so I did the best thing that EVERYONE GOING N/C SHOULD DO!!!! That is to DELETE THEM OFF FACEBOOK...not just block them, but DELETE THEM... it makes you heal so much faster!!! Anyway, I"m happy at the way I handled it. I'll admit some days are still hard, but I always tell myself, come on man she ain't worth it, you are so much better. She can't hurt me, I won't let her...I'm glad that I dealt with the feelings appropriately by surrounding myself with friends and family and by not jumping into a rebound relationship. I've done so many wonderful things this past month that I don't believe I would have ever done with my ex. Although these holidays may suck because of all the couples out there enjoying themselves, I am hopeful and look foward towards the future.
BoredAgain Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Awesome. Seems like things were a bit rocky for you at first, but you pulled through the worst of it. There will come a day when you reflect on the relationship and think, "damn, I'm so glad to be done with that."
twinkles Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 What a nice story..Good for you. Keep an eye on the prize. The prize being you.
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