thr1986 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 So i'm "talking" with a new girl. Last weekend we hung out some on sunday together, she kisses me ect...So i'm under the impression she likes me. On monday I spoke with her over the phone and asked her if she would like to come with me to my company christmas party this coming saturday. She said accepted and so shes going to come with me. Today I texted her asking if she would like to go to dinner tonight. However, she said she couldnt because she has happy hour plans with her cousin and then she needs to prep for a job interview that she has tomorrow. (I know the interview is real because she told me about it monday). However, she suggested that she can do lunch though. So I said sure and we decided to meet at 1:30 at a place by her work. I get there and she does not show up. She calls and says her boss is still gone and she just can't leave the store empty. i said no big deal dont worry about it and that i'd talk to her later. Then she texted me and said "again im sorry, promise i'll make it up to you. you can come by the store and say hi if you would like though." I go by the store to say hi and her boss is there when i walk in....she greets me and says "yeah he just got back". Do you guys think she is blowing me off? If she is, i guess the xmas party saturday will be nice and awkward...
Art_Critic Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Do you guys think she is blowing me off? .. No.. If she was she wouldn't have asked you to come to her store... Quit nitpicking it and go with the flow...
whichwayisup Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 However, she suggested that she can do lunch though. So I said sure and we decided to meet at 1:30 at a place by her work. I get there and she does not show up. She calls and says her boss is still gone and she just can't leave the store empty. i said no big deal dont worry about it and that i'd talk to her later. Then she texted me and said "again im sorry, promise i'll make it up to you. you can come by the store and say hi if you would like though." You are looking for trouble when there is none. she suggested lunch. Had plans to meet you but unexpectedly her plans had to change as her boss went out and she couldn't leave the store. She made the effort to text you, apologize, promise to make it up to you and for you to come by the store. WHICH you did. So, just because her boss came back, and you saw him there, you're doubting her? If she was screwing you over, she wouldn't make such an effort to begin with. Have some faith and trust! There's no problems here..Only your own insecurity and mind wandering..
ShannonMI Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 So i'm "talking" with a new girl. Last weekend we hung out some on sunday together, she kisses me ect...So i'm under the impression she likes me. On monday I spoke with her over the phone and asked her if she would like to come with me to my company christmas party this coming saturday. She said accepted and so shes going to come with me. Today I texted her asking if she would like to go to dinner tonight. However, she said she couldnt because she has happy hour plans with her cousin and then she needs to prep for a job interview that she has tomorrow. (I know the interview is real because she told me about it monday). However, she suggested that she can do lunch though. So I said sure and we decided to meet at 1:30 at a place by her work. I get there and she does not show up. She calls and says her boss is still gone and she just can't leave the store empty. i said no big deal dont worry about it and that i'd talk to her later. Then she texted me and said "again im sorry, promise i'll make it up to you. you can come by the store and say hi if you would like though." I go by the store to say hi and her boss is there when i walk in....she greets me and says "yeah he just got back". Do you guys think she is blowing me off? If she is, i guess the xmas party saturday will be nice and awkward... The girl sounds legit. I think you are being paranoid. If she was blowing you off she wouldn't apologize for it. She did when she couldn't make lunch. She actually didn't even have to do that. She could have just explained the situation and you should have accepted it. She likes you. And you walking in when the boss was there was mere coincidence. No biggie and stop over thinking this or you are going to ruin your chances with her.
snug.bunny Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 I think it could have been construed as a blow off, if she didn't show up + not called. But, she did call you at the time she was supposed to meet you to say she couldn't leave work and asked you to meet her there instead, said she'd make it up to you and apologized. Had she not showed up for lunch, didn't try to reach you to tell you she couldn't make it, and you reached out to her to find out why, would have made the situation a bit different.
Author thr1986 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 "I think it could have been construed as a blow off, if she didn't show up + not called. But, she did call you at the time she was supposed to meet you to say she couldn't leave work and asked you to meet her there instead, said she'd make it up to you and apologized. Had she not showed up for lunch, didn't try to reach you to tell you she couldn't make it, and you reached out to her to find out why, would have made the situation a bit different." So are you saying she did not want to sit thru lunch with me but offered me to stop by so I did not feel completely blown off?
Author thr1986 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 Also, one more thing... we will both be at the same bar tomorrow night to see a mutual friends band play...should I contact her tomorrow afternoon to see if she wants to pregame or should I just casually see her there?
ditzchic Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Also, one more thing... we will both be at the same bar tomorrow night to see a mutual friends band play...should I contact her tomorrow afternoon to see if she wants to pregame or should I just casually see her there? From your initial post it sounds like she likes you. Invite her to pregame. And stop overthinking everything. She likes you. Just go with it lest you want to scare her off.
snug.bunny Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 "I think it could have been construed as a blow off, if she didn't show up + not called. But, she did call you at the time she was supposed to meet you to say she couldn't leave work and asked you to meet her there instead, said she'd make it up to you and apologized. Had she not showed up for lunch, didn't try to reach you to tell you she couldn't make it, and you reached out to her to find out why, would have made the situation a bit different." So are you saying she did not want to sit thru lunch with me but offered me to stop by so I did not feel completely blown off? No. I don't think what I wrote was suggestive of that. If she was blowing you off, I think that would include not showing up and not saying anything about it unless mentioned to her (i.e. "how come you didn't show up"). It sounds like her work got in the way, she called you to tell you that while it was happening and also offered a solution so that she could still see you on that day. I know it may feel like second string (i.e. you get to have five minutes of her time...whoopee) but, that could just be you feeling a bit insecure about things since you just started dating. You have the Christmas party your taking her to tomorrow night (?), so maybe tonight since you'll be in the same vicinity, mention to her that you're still going and you hope to see her there. See her there, spend some time with her there, and keep the good vibes going.
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