Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Well, this didn't happen once. Over the past 4 years it, happened a few times on dating site and actually by my ex girlfriend's cousin after looking at my pictures. First off, I am NOT. I am far from it. Yes I did multidating in the past but that was only in the initial phase when trying to get to know girls... once I get to holding hands and kissing I drop the others because that girl is the one I chose. But thinking about this now... I am wondering.. what is it that makes people say this? I am an honest dude! I guess I uploaded a few pics of me from okcupid to this site in my album. This is not a post about how I look... just honest opinion of is there something suspicious with the way i look? Thanks!
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 The way you look should have nothing to do with it. You're going to have to tell us--why DID they call you a player? Did you ask them? Multi-dating doesn't make you a player if you drop the others once you get serious with one of them as you suggest.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Uh... I talk to different people in social events, just normal conversation. But those who look at my pics say I look like im up to something no good. I mean sure, sometimes my eyebrows make me look like i am angry but hahaha
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Just based upon those pics, you appear to be just look quite social. Whoever is calling you a "player" based upon those pics is probably very socially conservative. I wouldn't be surprised if lots of people raised in some of the Asian cultures where conservatism and humility are highly valued thought you were a "player" based upon those pics. Of course, that's assuming your definition of "player" is someone who uses women for sex--certainly nothing in those pics screams that of you. Some people may use that term more innocently and jokingly to just mean you're appealing and likely to be popular with women, not necessarily that you're USING women.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 I will take your answer, never thought of it that way. Thanks. I will just not get butthurt about it in the future!
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Please, stop using the word butthurt. That has to be the dumbest slang word of 2011. On topic: even if these women do think you're the type of player who treats women coldly, they'll look upon you as a bad boy. That will increase the attraction.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 But thinking about this now... I am wondering.. what is it that makes people say this? I am an honest dude! I guess I uploaded a few pics of me from okcupid to this site in my album. This is not a post about how I look... just honest opinion of is there something suspicious with the way i look? Thanks! I think those women are just f*cking with you. You look like anything BUT a player in those pics.
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