scubagirl72 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 Was out at a bar and a man initiated a conversation with me and searched me out a few times in the evening and said he was going to ask for my number before he left. When he was leaving he did come straight over and asked for my number and I gave it to him. He called almost immediately after leaving and left a message and also texted. I replied to the text and we went back and forth a number of times. Was very straight about telling me he was interested and that he found me attractive. I work in a field that doesn't allow me to take calls, quiet is required but am able to text so I did tell him that would be the best way to communicate for now. I work long hours and usually go straight to bed when I get home, no time for calls. We did arrange a date about a week and a half later. Went for a drink and had a fantastic time. Felt there was alot of chemistry, hugged goodnight twice, and had a slightly awkward peck goodnight. Again, he texted immediately after leaving that he had a great night. We continue to text every few days and he has said that he would like to go out again, but that he's in the process of moving and would like to do it after he's settled. Often mentions the great night out... or that he just wanted to let me know that he was thinking about me. It's been about a month now and we've only gone out once, his moving date got pushed another week. So, a couple of questions: Is he really interested? Should he have made the time to see me sooner? Am I being a girl and reading too much into things, should I take him at his word that we'll go out after he's settled? Should I always let him initiate contact? Always been told that men like the chase and not to seem too eager. So I do wait for him to initiate contact most of the time, hard to do sometimes as I want to text him every day! Had been in a relationship for a long time, and this dating thing is all new to me! Feel like a teenager again
ditzchic Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I think you kind of are reading too much into things. 2 dates in a month for a busy guy that's moving is acceptable. He may actually not have the time to make to see you right now. Moving can be draining. And you wouldn't want to see him when he is tired and grumpy anyway. He probably just wants to be on his best game for you I would give it time and see how it plays out after he settles in. No I don't think you ALWAYS have to wait for him to initiate contact. If you want to text him, text him. But do keep in mind that he's busy. And don't read into it if he's short or doesn't respond. I just want to add, while I'm not clingy, I do tend to like a lot of attention when I'm dating a guy so I feel your pain here. But you have to keep in mind that you can't force him to be attentive. If it's not his thing it's not his thing. You guys just might not be compatible.
creighton0123 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I'd say stop all the texting. Would it be all that difficult to make a five minute phone call when you get home from work - postponing your bedtime by a few minutes in order to actually communicate? "Should I always let him initiate contact? Always been told that men like the chase and not to seem too eager. So I do wait for him to initiate contact most of the time, hard to do sometimes as I want to text him every day!" This would be fine if the two of you are playing games with one another. My suggestion? Stop playing games. If you want to call him, call him.
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