swann Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I'm having a lot of troubles at work, I cannot concentrate, I just look at the display and think about my ex and what I did wrong. It's like seeing a movie over and over, and the ending is always the same. I hope that my computer is not tracked, because I'm logged on LS all day. How are you handling your everyday duties? Edit: Sorry, I wanted to post this on the Coping forum
smudge21 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 There's nothing really you can do as you can't force yourself to heal. It happens when it happens. I would suggest if it is affecting your work then speak to someone at work who you can confide in. Most places should have plans in place for when people are suffering in a mental way such as this - whether it be break ups or loss of loved ones etc. No one will judge you as we all go through it, but you may find they can offer you some extra support. The fact is though, you will heal but it will take time. Just work through these bad times and understand that you're not alone and we've all been there... and lived to tell the tale. You'll be okay again one day, sadly you just have to ride out these rough times!
Author swann Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Thank you smudge21. I know it'll get better with time, it's been only 1 week now. There is no such a program for support in my company, but luckily I have a very good relationship with all my colleagues. Next week I'll be out of office for travelling, that will help me not to think about her, I hope.
smudge21 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 1 week is nothing - you're bound to be hurting after such a small time. I still get moments and it's been since March when I said goodbye (couldn't continue as just friends). It comes and goes to this day, but does get better over time. Have you asked with your human resources department or health and safety. I know these days employees need to be looked after properly due to the fact there's so many employees rights etc. May be worth just asking someone. Not that I'm saying it's a definite solution, but it's always worth letting a few people know you're in a bad way, without going into details. Good luck and stay strong.
mike588 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 I'm sure you have considered taking sick ,, vacation time or a short leave of absense,,, just wanted to throw that at you. I know how you feel,, I had to take several days off just to process it all.
maryslamb Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 The first couple of days I called off from work. Then realized I still have to continue with life and make a living. During the first few weeks, I spent mostly all my time in the bathroom crying my eyes out. It was amazing how friends was always there to comfort me. But it was and still is hard. Its been a month since b/u and I had a melt down at work 2 days ago. My friend said that since I'm still emotional that I need to call the ex and see where we stand. Stated I am already hurting so what's the worst can happen. Well for that very reason is why I didn't contact him. I am still emotional. Just know you are not alone. I try to let my job be my distractor. That's the one place I can do to and distract myself for 8 hours.
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