EnchantedOne Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 At this moment I am involved in a FWB thing with my ex. We broke up early Nov. We started sleeping together again 3 weeks ago. He knew I wanted to and so he asked if we could. When we broke up, we had moved in together and it was just super stressful. I didnt give him enough space and alone time(I knew from day one he needed that and normally I do too). He told me before we had sex again that when he was ready to date hed consider being with me again. As is, we agree to let the other one know if we are hooking up, dating, or wanting a relationship with another person. Thing is, neither of us want anyone else. While together he was never jealous, but a few times in the last month he has gotten that way when I suggest seeing other people and/or having sex with others. In public on dates, we dont hold hands or touch much. We used to when we were labeled BFGF. But everyone we know knows we hang out a ton. We do dinners at his place and sometimes go out(moneys tight so we dont get to go out much). He still sees my children and he didnt take the crib down when he changed the extra room into his office. We hang out 2-3 times a week and talk every few hours all day long. We dont always have sex. We kiss and wrestle around a lot. We cuddle a lot. We help each other with bills or anything really. Today we went to an appt and he was super flirty to me in front of a lot of people. He would pinch my thigh, put his feet next to and on mine. Turned his body towards me. Put his arm on my shoulder and his hand went into my jacket pocket and he was playing with my fingers. A random guy told me I was hot natured and as soon as he walked away my ex said the guy was hitting on me, why not give him my number then he grinned and laughed. I said you go give him my number and he said no way. I asked him to come help me move my living room stuff around and he said ok, but I cancelled that. He then asked me to hang out this weekend and go out. I said I had both kids and he said well we can go do something with them. Look at Xmas lights or something. I said IDK. He then said he wants to tomorrow. Since Im taking my cat to him to babysit I said ok. We are going on a date and Ill probably sleep over. It feels like we are still "together" but he says hes not ready for a relationship right now(btw upon breakup we were both depressed and dealing with it now). Does this sound hopeless? He knows I want more from him sooner or later.
Author EnchantedOne Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Oh I forgot, he hasnt said he misses me or is excited to hang out since Sept sometime. Tonight he said goodnight to me and told me he cant wait til tmrw.
robf1971 Posted December 8, 2011 Posted December 8, 2011 If your happy being in this situation that's fine but I think is you were happy with it you wouldn't be posting on here. Otherwise you're making it way too easy to be this guy's backup plan..
Author EnchantedOne Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 If your happy being in this situation that's fine but I think is you were happy with it you wouldn't be posting on here. Otherwise you're making it way too easy to be this guy's backup plan.. Most the time I am happy with what we are right now. I know and understand why he doesnt want a relationship right this second. When things seem like they are progressing back to being together I get excited and hope for the best. Hes not dating anyone else. Hes not sleeping with anyone else. One big reason he doesnt want a relationship with anyone is b/c his money is so tight and he feels bad for that and cant do a lot of stuff others do(send flowers, big dates ect). Ive told him I dont need that stuff and yeah its nice, but I just want to be shown I am loved with words and small actions. I just wonder if I should pull back a lot and let him see what it truely is like w/o me around. I dont think hed stay away. The other day I was upset b/c he doesnt ask me how I am doing. He doesnt ask to hang out. Hes been doing really good with that now. Back when we first got together, I couldnt stand his constant cell useage when we were together and he stopped messing with it so much. I know hes willing and able to find compromise if I let him know what I need.
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